Hey guys, my girlfriend for the last 3 weeks has been insanely tired, she says that there isn't a moment where she feels awake and she's getting worried as she hasn't felt like herself for awhile. She's vegetarian, and since she's been back from her holidays she's stopped eating quorn, to just once a week, where she used to have it 4/5 times. She eats enough, 3 meals big portions and supper and snacks, but her diet is very limited, meaning she eats a lot of the same stuff but not enough of other things like iron and protein. I think this may be linked with her tiredness, however she now can't walk for long distances without feeling a bit light-headed and dizzy, she was ill with a cold a few weeks ago but she still hasn't fully recovered which is again strange as she usually has about a week of illness. I'm worried cause we're only 17 and its not normal for s teen to be this tired, she's going to the docs on tuesday but does anyone have an idea of what might be going on?
We bought some multivitamin tablets which contain 100% iron and protein this week, does anyone know if these are useful and actually work, if they are how long do they take to have an effect.
Finally If it is to do with iron or protein deficiency, which iron-rich foods should she include in her diet?
Thanks.My girlfriend is always tired?
if she is vegetarian and not vegan then eggs are high in protein, for iron, dark green leafy veg are high in it, eg cabbage, brocolli etc. Is there any chance she could be pregnant?My girlfriend is always tired?
I'm not an expert on being a vegetarian; but my impression is that most of them are healthier than the rest of us. So I have to wonder if your girlfriend has learned enough about it to be eating correctly. It is not as simple as cutting things out of your diet. You need to know how to balance you diet while excluding the things you don't want to consume.
My advice is to see the doctor just to be sure it isn't something else. It will ease your minds. Be aware, though, that most doctors don't really know much about these kinds of things. They don't study nutrition in very much detail.
Then I would see a nutritionist or at the very least do some serious research into how to meet your nutritional needs while following a vegetarian lifestyle.
Vitamins couldn't hurt.
it could well be and she really need to get a full blood count done, all she need to do is see her GP , i have posted you a link that gives you a list of iron rich foods. good luck.
http://www.vegsoc.org/info/iron.html
Use the iron tablets, they do work. Also, you can by different tablets like that to boost energy levels.
You could get a tonic, like 'Seven Seas'. You usually have to take it three times a day after meals. It makes you feel less tired, so should be great for your girlfriend. You can usually by a tonic from 'Sainsbury's' or 'Tesco's'.
As for the Quorn, I think she should try to eat more as this may be the problem. But, I would go and see your GP...it could be something else.
Hope that helps :)
Sounds like iron deficiency which is very common in young women and in vegetarians. She might do well to go to her doctor and go on iron supplements just for a while until she can get her iron levels up. This is definitely much harder for a vegetarian. Lentils tend to contain large amounts of iron, but it's definitely harder to get her required iron from a meatless diet
Try this site
http://www.vegsoc.org/info/iron.html
dont prescribe for yourself. eat a wide variety of foods including meat, veg and fruit. when she has been to the docs she may have a better understanding you need variety to get all the trace elements, carbohydrates and protienes to allow your body to do it's work properly and dont forget to drink enough water each day, at least 1Ltre
It could be any number of things, but you should get the doctor to take a blood panel, and also test her thyroid. The blood panel consists of WBC, RBC, and Hemoglobin.
she needs to get out more
it sounds like its mostly her dietary habits which is causing her these problems which is leading to deficiencies of certain essential vitamins. Suggest she takes supplements to start and try to expand her pallet! Plenty of vegetables, fruits and most importantly water. But being a vegetarian will limit her foods however that means she must make up the lack of protein and iron, this is probably why she's feeling so weak. Beans, veggies such as broccoli, asparagus, and cabbage are best for iron, and tofu is great
Last week i had a cold, and i stopped eating because i was to ill, so i did not have any quorn food, when that had almost completely gone i was going all dizzy and horrible so i stayed of school for a week.
My doctor gave me some drops to put into my drink in the mornings, and it really helps, i am still slightly tired but not as much as i was. I just need to start eating some more quorn and i should be fine.
In order to get more protein get her to eat peanut butter, it is great for protein.
I hope she gets better. x
Tiredness and dizziness would indicate insufficient oxygen getting to the right places and could be due to a low haemoglobin level which could be due to insufficient iron in the diet. However, iron on its own may not be enough. She may be short on Vitamin B12 and folic acid.
Good sources of iron include liver, beef, wholemeal bread, cereals, eggs and dried fruit.
Good sources of folic acid include beans, oatmeal, mushrooms, broccoli, asparagus, beef and liver.
Good sources of Vitamin B12 are fish, liver, beef, pork, eggs, milk, and cheese.
If it is just iron deficiency anaemia, ';iron tablets will rapidly reverse anaemia, so long as any underlying cause of blood loss has been treated';.
The doctors should be able to give a definitive answer from blood tests.
It could also be something like a severe infection, such as glandular fever - are her glands swollen ?
What are the symptoms of glandular fever?
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Before the disease breaks out, one to two weeks may pass with symptoms that are similar to those of flu.
A sore throat with swollen tonsils that are heavily covered by a white coating.
Fever.
Severe fatigue.
Muscle pains.
Headache.
Tendency to sweat.
Stomach pains and there may be signs of an enlargement of the spleen.
Swollen and sore lymph nodes in the throat, armpits and the groin.
The liver may become enlarged and yellow jaundice may develop.
There may be a rash.
i'm a pollotarian, which is almost the sam thing as a vegetarian except i eat chicken. i'm always tired too. my friend had the same problem and her doctor told her she just needed to eat lots of food with iron and take iron pills, it helped her.
i've gt a question for you how many hours of sleep does she get???? being a veggy grl she doesn't get alot of what she needs so she needs more rest it doesn't really mean this is the main prob cause it most definately ISN';T just curious
Sunday, December 11, 2011
How do you deal when the guy you like gets a girlfriend?
Well this guy I really like %26amp; hes also my best guy friend, he has a new gf %26amp; it sucks of how much I like him.. Well Its really getting on my nerves %26amp; i think i'm jealous. How do I ignore them %26amp; stop thinking about him. He's sister is my best friend so when we all hang out hes always there. How can I stop being so crazy %26amp; to just continue to be friends with him without getting hurt.How do you deal when the guy you like gets a girlfriend?
just erase all thoughts from your mind of you liking him trust me it works.How do you deal when the guy you like gets a girlfriend?
Avoid being around him when he's around his gf that will take your mind off of him having a gf and you can try dating some one else not to get him jelous but. To get rid of your feelings for him or just wait till they break up and tell him u like him
Oh, I can relate. Just stay being his friend.
Cause when that girl and him break up, you'll be there to be a friend and comfort him.
The best relationships are the ones constantly rooted in friendship.
So, if you guys ever go out, and break up, keep your friendship alive. Cause that's the real thing, that will always last. '
And who knows? Being his friend could pay off one day.
just erase all thoughts from your mind of you liking him trust me it works.How do you deal when the guy you like gets a girlfriend?
Avoid being around him when he's around his gf that will take your mind off of him having a gf and you can try dating some one else not to get him jelous but. To get rid of your feelings for him or just wait till they break up and tell him u like him
Oh, I can relate. Just stay being his friend.
Cause when that girl and him break up, you'll be there to be a friend and comfort him.
The best relationships are the ones constantly rooted in friendship.
So, if you guys ever go out, and break up, keep your friendship alive. Cause that's the real thing, that will always last. '
And who knows? Being his friend could pay off one day.
How bad is it to flirt with a guy who has a girlfriend?
I've known this guy for about 7 months now. He hasn't really mentioned his girlfriend besides the fact that he says things aren't really working out, but he's been with her for ten months and he doesn't know what to do. We talk at least once a day and occasionally go out ';as friends.'; he always genuinely the sweetest things and we get along so well. i usually hate relationships, but his guy seems so amazing. but there is still that girlfriend..help?How bad is it to flirt with a guy who has a girlfriend?
Its not bad to flirt with a guy who has a girlfriend, If you really like him then go for it.How bad is it to flirt with a guy who has a girlfriend?
KISS him
Heya (=
I'm in exactly the same situation ,,
It's tough ,
but i'm afraid it's just a case of waiting
x
You a hoe!remedy for acne scars
Its not bad to flirt with a guy who has a girlfriend, If you really like him then go for it.How bad is it to flirt with a guy who has a girlfriend?
KISS him
Heya (=
I'm in exactly the same situation ,,
It's tough ,
but i'm afraid it's just a case of waiting
x
You a hoe!
How do I get a guy to stop flirting with my girlfriend?
this guy keeps slapping my girlfriends butt, and telling her he wants to screw her and things like that, and im not shure what to do.How do I get a guy to stop flirting with my girlfriend?
Tell him not to do it. And, if he keeps it up clean his clock. If you do not want to fight then get creative. Good luck.
PS - Update your question by posting the guy's name, address and phone no. He should get a few unpleasant calls.How do I get a guy to stop flirting with my girlfriend?
Tell the guy to stop. And if he doesn't, scare him by reporting him for sexual harrassment. You shouldn't have to do it, she should (if she cares about you). If she doesn't do anything ,she likes the flirting or she doesn't want to be known as a ';snitch.';
Tell him not to do it. And, if he keeps it up clean his clock. If you do not want to fight then get creative. Good luck.
PS - Update your question by posting the guy's name, address and phone no. He should get a few unpleasant calls.How do I get a guy to stop flirting with my girlfriend?
Tell the guy to stop. And if he doesn't, scare him by reporting him for sexual harrassment. You shouldn't have to do it, she should (if she cares about you). If she doesn't do anything ,she likes the flirting or she doesn't want to be known as a ';snitch.';
GUY QUESTION! yes. i know. what else is new ?
Alright. Sooo, i will try to make this as brief as possible.
My ex and i broke up likee, a few months ago. But just recently, i've started to have feelings for my best guy friend. He's always been there for me, giving me advice and helping me w/ any past bf problems. Anyways, a lot of my other friends were telling me how they think he likes me too, because he makes it quite obvious. After hearing this, i was surprised, but happy. I felt bad though, because i've moved on so fast from my ex. Well, my girlfriends were telling me now how they've heard that my best friend is a flirt %26amp; kind of a player. I found this REALLY surprising, because he's always been the more reserved, shy type of guy. My girlfriends say he always has feelings for more than one girl, and when that happens, he can never make up his mind, %26amp; therefore, flirts with all of 'em. I was so surprised, because he never acts like the typical player with me. Just recently, it seems like he's gotten more serious about me, always wanting to hang out with me and me only, calling me on the phone, etc. SO, i guess my Q is: Should i ignore what my friends have heard about him, or should i trust my feelings and try to see him as a GOOD guy, who my best friend is ? I've just been getting so tired of guys that only care about *physical stuff* and flirting with all the girls. When i'm with my best friend, he's always so kind and caring, and seems like a completely different person than what my friends were describing. Help please ? :)
* And i'm sooo sorry for making this kinda long! Thank you all so much for your help! :) *GUY QUESTION! yes. i know. what else is new ?
I agree with N S P, keep what they've said in mind (and think about how reliable the sources are!!!) but dont let that affect your judgements of him. And you might want to ask him about it, but do NOT accuse him of anything.GUY QUESTION! yes. i know. what else is new ?
My advice is talk to him face to face and ask him about what your friends have said, if hes your best friend you should be able to tell whether hes lying or not. Make sure that he knows that your not accusing him of anything and explain that you've started to have feelings for him.
Good luck x
My ex and i broke up likee, a few months ago. But just recently, i've started to have feelings for my best guy friend. He's always been there for me, giving me advice and helping me w/ any past bf problems. Anyways, a lot of my other friends were telling me how they think he likes me too, because he makes it quite obvious. After hearing this, i was surprised, but happy. I felt bad though, because i've moved on so fast from my ex. Well, my girlfriends were telling me now how they've heard that my best friend is a flirt %26amp; kind of a player. I found this REALLY surprising, because he's always been the more reserved, shy type of guy. My girlfriends say he always has feelings for more than one girl, and when that happens, he can never make up his mind, %26amp; therefore, flirts with all of 'em. I was so surprised, because he never acts like the typical player with me. Just recently, it seems like he's gotten more serious about me, always wanting to hang out with me and me only, calling me on the phone, etc. SO, i guess my Q is: Should i ignore what my friends have heard about him, or should i trust my feelings and try to see him as a GOOD guy, who my best friend is ? I've just been getting so tired of guys that only care about *physical stuff* and flirting with all the girls. When i'm with my best friend, he's always so kind and caring, and seems like a completely different person than what my friends were describing. Help please ? :)
* And i'm sooo sorry for making this kinda long! Thank you all so much for your help! :) *GUY QUESTION! yes. i know. what else is new ?
I agree with N S P, keep what they've said in mind (and think about how reliable the sources are!!!) but dont let that affect your judgements of him. And you might want to ask him about it, but do NOT accuse him of anything.GUY QUESTION! yes. i know. what else is new ?
My advice is talk to him face to face and ask him about what your friends have said, if hes your best friend you should be able to tell whether hes lying or not. Make sure that he knows that your not accusing him of anything and explain that you've started to have feelings for him.
Good luck x
How do i get a guy that has a girlfriend to go out with me?
We dstarted going out in the middle of summer then 2 weeks after his old girlfriend that broke up with him in the middle of the summer and comes back to our school and told him that she just wanted a break which is pretty much breaking up with him,b ut he went back to her, and she will mostly likley do the same exact thing in a few months!!!How do i get a guy that has a girlfriend to go out with me?
you can find someone new or you could just wait around until they break up again and be happy that you are his second choiceHow do i get a guy that has a girlfriend to go out with me?
That's his problem...Find yourself someone who is more stable.
Believe me,you don't want to be the one he left his girlfriend for. If he'll do it to her, he'll probably do it to you.
why would you want that
he chose to go back to her...why bother try to steal him away
Girl do you really want to put yourself through this crap everytime she decides she wants him back and he goes. Why mess with someone who is so hung up on someone, that he'd ditch you, when there are plenty of men that aren't obsessed with thier x's.
if he is with someone else and you still try to get him then you are a slut,if he is trying to be with both of you then he's no good and will be the same way with you and the next new girl
Just stay out of it. Why do you want to get back together with someone who's already left you for his former girlfriend once. It can't make you feel good to be considered second best. You deserve better! Find someone who is available and READY to start a NEW relationship with you (and no one else).
Best wishes.
hey
there are a lot of fish in the sea... so let this one go..
even if u do manage to break them up...u'll still be only his second choice...So find someone who wants to be with you and doesnt see you only as second best!! I know this sound bad...but its wat i think.
goodluck
Do you really want a guy who would dump you for such a manipulative skank? Move on! You deserve better.
look for someone else. he's always gonna leave. even if he dumps her, it seems he really likes her and will dump you for her eventually.
So, you want someone, that wants ';someone like her?';
.
.
Do you love him? If so, my heart goes out to you as it is a terrible thing to be betrayed by the one whom you love.
If he's so unstable as you say, why on earth even think about him? You are entitled to have someone who'll love you exclusively, that is the only way a relationship should be.
I wish you all the best; I know it is hard to be without someone but it might be best to put him out of your life.
california girl,
i would totally look for somebody else, Trying to break somebody up for you is not the right thing to do.
there's plenty of single guys' out there, however it sounds like both of you are a little immature to be playing these games, don't mean to put ya down
Drama, drama, drama. Stay away from him.
Just give him time and do something to cacth his eyes.
you can find someone new or you could just wait around until they break up again and be happy that you are his second choiceHow do i get a guy that has a girlfriend to go out with me?
That's his problem...Find yourself someone who is more stable.
Believe me,you don't want to be the one he left his girlfriend for. If he'll do it to her, he'll probably do it to you.
why would you want that
he chose to go back to her...why bother try to steal him away
Girl do you really want to put yourself through this crap everytime she decides she wants him back and he goes. Why mess with someone who is so hung up on someone, that he'd ditch you, when there are plenty of men that aren't obsessed with thier x's.
if he is with someone else and you still try to get him then you are a slut,if he is trying to be with both of you then he's no good and will be the same way with you and the next new girl
Just stay out of it. Why do you want to get back together with someone who's already left you for his former girlfriend once. It can't make you feel good to be considered second best. You deserve better! Find someone who is available and READY to start a NEW relationship with you (and no one else).
Best wishes.
hey
there are a lot of fish in the sea... so let this one go..
even if u do manage to break them up...u'll still be only his second choice...So find someone who wants to be with you and doesnt see you only as second best!! I know this sound bad...but its wat i think.
goodluck
Do you really want a guy who would dump you for such a manipulative skank? Move on! You deserve better.
look for someone else. he's always gonna leave. even if he dumps her, it seems he really likes her and will dump you for her eventually.
So, you want someone, that wants ';someone like her?';
.
.
Do you love him? If so, my heart goes out to you as it is a terrible thing to be betrayed by the one whom you love.
If he's so unstable as you say, why on earth even think about him? You are entitled to have someone who'll love you exclusively, that is the only way a relationship should be.
I wish you all the best; I know it is hard to be without someone but it might be best to put him out of your life.
california girl,
i would totally look for somebody else, Trying to break somebody up for you is not the right thing to do.
there's plenty of single guys' out there, however it sounds like both of you are a little immature to be playing these games, don't mean to put ya down
Drama, drama, drama. Stay away from him.
Just give him time and do something to cacth his eyes.
How can I convence my girlfriend not to go to prom with another guy?
I got suspended at the bigining of the year and now that I have a girlfriend that's a junior I would be able to go but I got suspended. So she wants to go with another guy whom I think has a crush on her. I don't feel I can trust her enough and this worries me alot. How can I convence her to go with her ';girlfriends'; instead of another guy? I'm worried that things might get out of hand.How can I convence my girlfriend not to go to prom with another guy?
That's not fair to you..
Especially to go with someone who has a crush on her? I say dump her and beat the guy up, give yourself a legit reason for being suspended..haha
No, but foreal...that isn't fair.
You should go out with a girl who likes you in the after party, and show your girlfriend whats up and to not play you like that. Show her your man dawgHow can I convence my girlfriend not to go to prom with another guy?
Depends...what did you get suspended for?
If she was a girlfriend worth hanging onto she wouldnt put you in this position, she'd just automatically go with her girlfriends, id say ditch her.
Well to be honest... She clearly can't be trusted if she's going to a prom with someone who isn't even her boyfriend.
Plus, if you can't trust her then you're not in a good relationship.
Relationships require trust.
You have got to trust her, showing her you dont trust her is just going to push her futher away, possibly towards this other guy!
Tell her she can go with whoever she likes, and wish her a good time, and just TRUST her!
If anything does happen and you find out you cant trust her, she obviously wasnt worth it to start with!
xXx
i have the same kinda problem my gf went with another guy and shes never done the same stuff we used to do like just lie on the ground and talk and if i try that she gets really or cured.
my best advice
give her a kiss before she goes or walk/drive with her to the prom and tell her you love her.
that all i can say man
good luck
tell her u will leave her if she goes with anouther guy.
this is like saying its a test
let her go
if she tells you about a fantastic guy
and the stuff she did, with another guy
its automatically tells you she was never worth it from the very start
She shouldn't be punished and miss her prom just because you got your butt in trouble. Plus, if you don't trust her, you need to break things off...trust is the cornerstone for ANY relationship.
If you don't trust her then why are you with her? If she wants to go to a prom with another guy, then why is she your girlfriend? If you can't stay out of trouble to make sure you are her date for these important memories proms are made of.......then you will just have to make sure they have condoms available. She aint going with her girlfriends cuz she don't have to!!
if you do, she will think you dont trust you and dump you just say 'promise you'll always like/love me?' or 'please go with your friends instead!' it might work but dont blame me if ya get dumped..............
tell her you are not comfortable with that guy. pretty lame position you are in. it is often the guy with the crush that acts nice. either way dont let the drama get to you.
even though you got suspended does not give her the right to go with another guy. to me i call that cheating. i feel that you must stand by your man or women no matter what he or she did. it seems to me that she does not love you as much as you love her. i would give her a choice she can go with him and you leave her. or not go and you stay with her. i hope everything works out
this might sound silly but this stuff works, change the program that you used on her. like, if you guys used to talk on the phone for half an hour, this time make it 10 minutes. pretend to be busy, don't spend lot of time on your girlfriend, let her know that you have alot of things to do.
another thing you can do is to suggest competition. let her suspect that you're going out with another girl, even if you really not. It makes you more attractive to her and she knows she will have to work hard to get you again. Have names and numbers of other girls popping out of your wallet (when paying for yourself of course, not her:) or have them laying around in your house/apartment/car, don't be desperate for her. don't be available at all times when she ask you out, be slightly unpredictable in your actions.
PUT A PRICE ON YOURSELF:
well, if she really going out another dude to a prom, SHOW YOUR ANGER. Guys who never get mad, who never show that they will stand up for themselves and make a woman feel a bit of unpleasantness are, in effect, giving themselves away for free! Let your girlfriend know that if she break your rules, cross you, or show any lack of respect, SHE IS GOING TO PAY A PRICE!
Be willing to withdraw your time and attention and be unavailable.
A. Now and again, cancel dates.
B. Don't always return her phone calls promptly
C. On occasion, and especially in the beginning, GET OFF THE PHONE FIRST!! Don't have unlimited time or willingness to talk!
and the last thing you can do is to SHOW A WILLINGNESS TO WALK AWAY. Understand that when you show this willingness to walk away, in any area of your life, it conveys the message that you are the prize to be pursued, that you are the person of value, and they had better take advantage of the opportunity. This is an attitude that will move you forward in any area that's challenging you. By way of contrast, if you show a non-stop, forever and ever devotion to her, and put up with her crap and ambivalence, then where is that tension of knowing she could lose you? Answer: nowhere! And that's why you get nowhere when you put up with this kind of stuff! If you've seen an initially hot relationship grow ice-cold, this is one big reason.
I hope this help. PM me if you want.
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you say you think that that boy loves her more than you......even though i cant go cant you think of me and hang with your friends
That's not fair to you..
Especially to go with someone who has a crush on her? I say dump her and beat the guy up, give yourself a legit reason for being suspended..haha
No, but foreal...that isn't fair.
You should go out with a girl who likes you in the after party, and show your girlfriend whats up and to not play you like that. Show her your man dawgHow can I convence my girlfriend not to go to prom with another guy?
Depends...what did you get suspended for?
If she was a girlfriend worth hanging onto she wouldnt put you in this position, she'd just automatically go with her girlfriends, id say ditch her.
Well to be honest... She clearly can't be trusted if she's going to a prom with someone who isn't even her boyfriend.
Plus, if you can't trust her then you're not in a good relationship.
Relationships require trust.
You have got to trust her, showing her you dont trust her is just going to push her futher away, possibly towards this other guy!
Tell her she can go with whoever she likes, and wish her a good time, and just TRUST her!
If anything does happen and you find out you cant trust her, she obviously wasnt worth it to start with!
xXx
i have the same kinda problem my gf went with another guy and shes never done the same stuff we used to do like just lie on the ground and talk and if i try that she gets really or cured.
my best advice
give her a kiss before she goes or walk/drive with her to the prom and tell her you love her.
that all i can say man
good luck
tell her u will leave her if she goes with anouther guy.
this is like saying its a test
let her go
if she tells you about a fantastic guy
and the stuff she did, with another guy
its automatically tells you she was never worth it from the very start
She shouldn't be punished and miss her prom just because you got your butt in trouble. Plus, if you don't trust her, you need to break things off...trust is the cornerstone for ANY relationship.
If you don't trust her then why are you with her? If she wants to go to a prom with another guy, then why is she your girlfriend? If you can't stay out of trouble to make sure you are her date for these important memories proms are made of.......then you will just have to make sure they have condoms available. She aint going with her girlfriends cuz she don't have to!!
if you do, she will think you dont trust you and dump you just say 'promise you'll always like/love me?' or 'please go with your friends instead!' it might work but dont blame me if ya get dumped..............
tell her you are not comfortable with that guy. pretty lame position you are in. it is often the guy with the crush that acts nice. either way dont let the drama get to you.
even though you got suspended does not give her the right to go with another guy. to me i call that cheating. i feel that you must stand by your man or women no matter what he or she did. it seems to me that she does not love you as much as you love her. i would give her a choice she can go with him and you leave her. or not go and you stay with her. i hope everything works out
this might sound silly but this stuff works, change the program that you used on her. like, if you guys used to talk on the phone for half an hour, this time make it 10 minutes. pretend to be busy, don't spend lot of time on your girlfriend, let her know that you have alot of things to do.
another thing you can do is to suggest competition. let her suspect that you're going out with another girl, even if you really not. It makes you more attractive to her and she knows she will have to work hard to get you again. Have names and numbers of other girls popping out of your wallet (when paying for yourself of course, not her:) or have them laying around in your house/apartment/car, don't be desperate for her. don't be available at all times when she ask you out, be slightly unpredictable in your actions.
PUT A PRICE ON YOURSELF:
well, if she really going out another dude to a prom, SHOW YOUR ANGER. Guys who never get mad, who never show that they will stand up for themselves and make a woman feel a bit of unpleasantness are, in effect, giving themselves away for free! Let your girlfriend know that if she break your rules, cross you, or show any lack of respect, SHE IS GOING TO PAY A PRICE!
Be willing to withdraw your time and attention and be unavailable.
A. Now and again, cancel dates.
B. Don't always return her phone calls promptly
C. On occasion, and especially in the beginning, GET OFF THE PHONE FIRST!! Don't have unlimited time or willingness to talk!
and the last thing you can do is to SHOW A WILLINGNESS TO WALK AWAY. Understand that when you show this willingness to walk away, in any area of your life, it conveys the message that you are the prize to be pursued, that you are the person of value, and they had better take advantage of the opportunity. This is an attitude that will move you forward in any area that's challenging you. By way of contrast, if you show a non-stop, forever and ever devotion to her, and put up with her crap and ambivalence, then where is that tension of knowing she could lose you? Answer: nowhere! And that's why you get nowhere when you put up with this kind of stuff! If you've seen an initially hot relationship grow ice-cold, this is one big reason.
I hope this help. PM me if you want.
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you say you think that that boy loves her more than you......even though i cant go cant you think of me and hang with your friends
Some other guy kissed my girlfriend? cheating or taken advantage of?
We were talking on the phone and we got in a fight. She was at a hockey tourney with some friends. We discussed a break and we stopped talking on the phone and she began crying hard to the point of heaving and shaking. So she went in the bathroom. Some boy came in and comforted her as she started talking about how much she loved me. Then the dude propped up her head and kissed her for 3 seconds and she said she puckered by reaction. She said she didnt know what was going on since her eyes were closed from crying the whole time.she was shocked and then after about 2 seconds into the kiss he tried to jam his tongue in her mouth and he tasted cigerettes. She then put out her arms and pushed off. She said the taste like snapped her out of shock and the wrong feeling she already had. She texted the boy and said ';i never wanna do that again'; ';that was a mistake...she doesnt talk to him anymore. doesnt even hug other boys anymore cuz she is scared is that cheating or getting taken advantage of?Some other guy kissed my girlfriend? cheating or taken advantage of?
if she texted the boy and said i never wanna do that again'; ';that was a mistake i think she was cheating. she is basically admitting she had a role in it and saying in retrospect it was a mistake. I know no matter how hard i was crying i wouldnt let a guy who is not my bf get near enough to kiss me...much less actually kiss me for a min!! if she was taken advantage of, she wouldnt have called it a mistakeSome other guy kissed my girlfriend? cheating or taken advantage of?
if she kissed him back then its cheatin if she didnt kiss him back then its not cheating the guy just took advantage of her
She didn't cheat. She was vunerable and a creep took advantage of that.
I think she was taken advantage of. If I'm crying in the bathroom, talking about how much I love my boyfriend, and some guy kisses me -- it'll take me a second to process what's going on before I push him away. But I didn't want to kiss him, I didn't ask him to kiss me, and I didn't know what was happening ... there's no cheating involved there.relaxers for summer custom myspace
if she texted the boy and said i never wanna do that again'; ';that was a mistake i think she was cheating. she is basically admitting she had a role in it and saying in retrospect it was a mistake. I know no matter how hard i was crying i wouldnt let a guy who is not my bf get near enough to kiss me...much less actually kiss me for a min!! if she was taken advantage of, she wouldnt have called it a mistakeSome other guy kissed my girlfriend? cheating or taken advantage of?
if she kissed him back then its cheatin if she didnt kiss him back then its not cheating the guy just took advantage of her
She didn't cheat. She was vunerable and a creep took advantage of that.
I think she was taken advantage of. If I'm crying in the bathroom, talking about how much I love my boyfriend, and some guy kisses me -- it'll take me a second to process what's going on before I push him away. But I didn't want to kiss him, I didn't ask him to kiss me, and I didn't know what was happening ... there's no cheating involved there.
I'm worried about my girlfriend? i'm really worried?
my girlfriend is the love of my life but we do argue from time to time but that's not the issue.
My girlfriends ex used to beat her up when they got really angry at eachother. today we had a particularly spirited arguement she was standing up and i was sitting down. she said something that really frustrated me like she hadn't listened to a word i said. i stood up and sort of grunted in frustration i looked at her and she was wincing like she actually thought i was going to hit her. it tore my heart in two i never want to see that look on her face again. i immediatly snapped out of arguement mode and pulled him into my arms.
i'm a very unaggressive guy especially when it comes to girls. i have had far angrier arguements with other girls where they had no fear at all and why should they i'd never touch a girl like that but i need advice on how to not seem aggressive when i'm angry because her past has obviously made her more sensitive to signs of anger and i don't ever want her to feel scared or intimidated again especially by the one man that loves her more than anything in the world?I'm worried about my girlfriend? i'm really worried?
try to get into as little arguments as possible, but since we're not perfect and arguments do happen, next time, keep your voice calm and dont raise your voice too much. also, dont walk towards her really fast like your about to hit her and dont let your anger show too much on your face and dont grunt or anything like that. also, dont make sudden movements...shes been through alot so be real gentle with her...its kinda like dealing with a scared puppy or a small child, ya know?I'm worried about my girlfriend? i'm really worried?
Your girlfriend is a very lucky women! Tell her that you love her and you would never to anything to hurt her. Let her know that she is safe when shes around you. If it impacts her anymore I think she should seek some counseling. Hope I helped and good luck!
My girlfriends ex used to beat her up when they got really angry at eachother. today we had a particularly spirited arguement she was standing up and i was sitting down. she said something that really frustrated me like she hadn't listened to a word i said. i stood up and sort of grunted in frustration i looked at her and she was wincing like she actually thought i was going to hit her. it tore my heart in two i never want to see that look on her face again. i immediatly snapped out of arguement mode and pulled him into my arms.
i'm a very unaggressive guy especially when it comes to girls. i have had far angrier arguements with other girls where they had no fear at all and why should they i'd never touch a girl like that but i need advice on how to not seem aggressive when i'm angry because her past has obviously made her more sensitive to signs of anger and i don't ever want her to feel scared or intimidated again especially by the one man that loves her more than anything in the world?I'm worried about my girlfriend? i'm really worried?
try to get into as little arguments as possible, but since we're not perfect and arguments do happen, next time, keep your voice calm and dont raise your voice too much. also, dont walk towards her really fast like your about to hit her and dont let your anger show too much on your face and dont grunt or anything like that. also, dont make sudden movements...shes been through alot so be real gentle with her...its kinda like dealing with a scared puppy or a small child, ya know?I'm worried about my girlfriend? i'm really worried?
Your girlfriend is a very lucky women! Tell her that you love her and you would never to anything to hurt her. Let her know that she is safe when shes around you. If it impacts her anymore I think she should seek some counseling. Hope I helped and good luck!
How do i deal with my girlfriend's guy friend who likes her alot and call her everyday.?
My girlfriend have a guy friend who liked her for a long time, he has been chasing her for like a year now. He calls her everyday, especially while i'm at work and they are both free. He always ask her to go do stuff together, just them two. He also treats her really well, he even bought her a ipod. the hard things is that they become pretty close, so it's hard for me to fight him, cuz my girlfriend would probably get mad. my gf does not like him as much as me, but i consider him a threat
So what should i do with this guy, confront him or just leave them along or something else?
Thanks for any help.How do i deal with my girlfriend's guy friend who likes her alot and call her everyday.?
I have a few guy friends that I am really close too. And we do things with out my man some times. But there is a reason they are my friend and not my man.
If she wanted to be with this guy she would already. Take some time to get to know him better, you may see why she thinks he is so cool. And maybe you can help set him up with someone you now. It makes you look good that you are willing to be a bigger man and understand and trust her.
If all else ';keep your friends close and you enemy's closer!';How do i deal with my girlfriend's guy friend who likes her alot and call her everyday.?
Include him, but make out with her and let him know she is yours.
I HATE people like that.
Anyway....
what happens happens, but remember, nice guys usually come in last...
I agree with your first answer.....
Is she really your girlfriend?
So what should i do with this guy, confront him or just leave them along or something else?
Thanks for any help.How do i deal with my girlfriend's guy friend who likes her alot and call her everyday.?
I have a few guy friends that I am really close too. And we do things with out my man some times. But there is a reason they are my friend and not my man.
If she wanted to be with this guy she would already. Take some time to get to know him better, you may see why she thinks he is so cool. And maybe you can help set him up with someone you now. It makes you look good that you are willing to be a bigger man and understand and trust her.
If all else ';keep your friends close and you enemy's closer!';How do i deal with my girlfriend's guy friend who likes her alot and call her everyday.?
Include him, but make out with her and let him know she is yours.
I HATE people like that.
Anyway....
what happens happens, but remember, nice guys usually come in last...
I agree with your first answer.....
Is she really your girlfriend?
Advice about girl falls for best guy friend that has a girlfriend?
Soo... I REALLY like my friend. And we used to have mutual feelings for each other and we talked about it and stuff but we both liked other people. Now I don't like anyone else, but he started going out with the other girl a week ago. I hung out with him yesterday and the whole time I couldn't help but think about how good we'd be together. I really want something to happen with him, soon. I need advice for how to get him to realize he shouldn't be with her. Please help, this is really sucking.Advice about girl falls for best guy friend that has a girlfriend?
like always good friendship turn to love, Im sure he feel for you but he lack the courage, fight to get him, don't let go, look at him in the eyes and tell him that you like him
like always good friendship turn to love, Im sure he feel for you but he lack the courage, fight to get him, don't let go, look at him in the eyes and tell him that you like him
How do i get over a guy that has a new girlfriend?
Ok so i dated this guy for 6 months on a off.
So the last time we broken up was to save his friendship
with his ';brother';
It worked but a week after the break up he gets this girlfriend
and since he has been dating her he wont talk to me
or his friend Emily he is being a jerk
And i walked to his house yesterday and he told me there is
a personal reason he doesnt want to be my friend
and he wont tell it to anyone not even Karleen(his new girlfriend) knows
Help????How do i get over a guy that has a new girlfriend?
Move on with your life. He is not playing by the rules of respect and consideration.
So the last time we broken up was to save his friendship
with his ';brother';
It worked but a week after the break up he gets this girlfriend
and since he has been dating her he wont talk to me
or his friend Emily he is being a jerk
And i walked to his house yesterday and he told me there is
a personal reason he doesnt want to be my friend
and he wont tell it to anyone not even Karleen(his new girlfriend) knows
Help????How do i get over a guy that has a new girlfriend?
Move on with your life. He is not playing by the rules of respect and consideration.
Is it OK to let your girlfriend stay over at a house party...?
- She loves to party %26amp; getting drunk with this guys and girlfriends (more guys than girls) that she've known before me-in another town - like she did the last 4 years of college.
- She had something with one of the guys when she was single last year (and drunk at the party), but no more feelings for him since dating me and he has a gf. now
- She says she is going to sleep at her sisters house, cuz she knows I'm not OK with the other stuff - but how do I know if it's not just made up to calm me down.
- I don't get along with her guyfriends (I haven't met them, and I'm not sure if I want - neither they are. They HipHop - Me Rock), so I don't really fit in there, but she asked if I wanna join.
- There are some guys that wanna hook up with her, she told me, cuz she wants to be honest with me
- She says she is in love with me and doesn't want anybody else, I need to trust her
Is it reasonable that I'm worried?Is it OK to let your girlfriend stay over at a house party...?
Ill start off by saying that if she hasnt giving you a reason to mistrust her, then you should go ahead and give her the benefit of the doubt.
That said... it sounds like the two of you are so different.. do you really have enough in common to stay together?Is it OK to let your girlfriend stay over at a house party...?
Well its understandable that your worried about this. If guys want to hook up with your girlfriend at a party then they will engage. But if she says she loves you, then you should let it go man. I know its hard but at least shes honest about the hooking up part.info on a wage levy
- She had something with one of the guys when she was single last year (and drunk at the party), but no more feelings for him since dating me and he has a gf. now
- She says she is going to sleep at her sisters house, cuz she knows I'm not OK with the other stuff - but how do I know if it's not just made up to calm me down.
- I don't get along with her guyfriends (I haven't met them, and I'm not sure if I want - neither they are. They HipHop - Me Rock), so I don't really fit in there, but she asked if I wanna join.
- There are some guys that wanna hook up with her, she told me, cuz she wants to be honest with me
- She says she is in love with me and doesn't want anybody else, I need to trust her
Is it reasonable that I'm worried?Is it OK to let your girlfriend stay over at a house party...?
Ill start off by saying that if she hasnt giving you a reason to mistrust her, then you should go ahead and give her the benefit of the doubt.
That said... it sounds like the two of you are so different.. do you really have enough in common to stay together?Is it OK to let your girlfriend stay over at a house party...?
Well its understandable that your worried about this. If guys want to hook up with your girlfriend at a party then they will engage. But if she says she loves you, then you should let it go man. I know its hard but at least shes honest about the hooking up part.
My girlfriend lied to me about spending time with her friends when she was really with an ex-boyfriend.?
A bit of history real quick, two weeks prior to the event I'm about to mention I found her texting an old boyfriend, it was about nothing though. and she lied to me when I asked who it was when I had saw his name. So, recently she said she was hanging out with her two friends Joey and Joe which is totally fine with me as they've been friends for a long time, and the two guys have girlfriends. But, I find out from my girl's best friend an ex named Josh was at her house. i confront her and she says that when she feels like shes losing someone she lies and she doesn't want to. Then she gives me her life story about her rough upbringing and how it affected her mentally and I'm the first person she actually wants to get help so she doesn't be ';that person'; anymore and lie when she doesn't want to. She says lyings worked in the past, but now she sees what how bad it made me feel and she wants to do whatever it takes to get me back. If she really goes through with help, should i take her backMy girlfriend lied to me about spending time with her friends when she was really with an ex-boyfriend.?
Shes trying to take your anger and misdirect it into sympathy for her- If shes lying to you about things like that, she doesn't respect you, you are getting played, she may not be sleeping around but she is trying to make a puss out of you- Let her know that you are srry for the way she was brought up, and that you do care and are there for her, but that kind of **** will not fly!! Make sure she understands that you will not tolerate that bull and stick to your gunz-My girlfriend lied to me about spending time with her friends when she was really with an ex-boyfriend.?
she prolly just didn't want you to worry about anything...
she is a b*tch! just relax and take a break for a while and really show her that your not messing around. if you let her in easy you will be getting hurt again later on. if you love someone you shouldnt be with anothr man nor woman
Her best friend ratted her out? Wow... really now... Are you sure she doesn't have any feelings whatsoever for her ex boyfriend? It's your choice if you want to take her back or not. But if you do, be very cautious.
I think that if you really like her and want to be with her then you should give her another chance entil she does it again. kinda like probation. then if she does do it again then you know what she is talking is bull. everyone deserves a scond chance. but if you dont want her back then tell her to get lost.
Shes trying to take your anger and misdirect it into sympathy for her- If shes lying to you about things like that, she doesn't respect you, you are getting played, she may not be sleeping around but she is trying to make a puss out of you- Let her know that you are srry for the way she was brought up, and that you do care and are there for her, but that kind of **** will not fly!! Make sure she understands that you will not tolerate that bull and stick to your gunz-My girlfriend lied to me about spending time with her friends when she was really with an ex-boyfriend.?
she prolly just didn't want you to worry about anything...
she is a b*tch! just relax and take a break for a while and really show her that your not messing around. if you let her in easy you will be getting hurt again later on. if you love someone you shouldnt be with anothr man nor woman
Her best friend ratted her out? Wow... really now... Are you sure she doesn't have any feelings whatsoever for her ex boyfriend? It's your choice if you want to take her back or not. But if you do, be very cautious.
I think that if you really like her and want to be with her then you should give her another chance entil she does it again. kinda like probation. then if she does do it again then you know what she is talking is bull. everyone deserves a scond chance. but if you dont want her back then tell her to get lost.
I'm at a loss as to how to deal with this situation with the guy who my girlfriend slept with...?
My girlfriend and I have been together for 3 years or so. About 2 years ago due to immigration issues we were on different continents for 3 months. During this time she got very drunk and slept with a friend of ours. She admitted her infidelity to me and we eventually patched it up though neither of us have seen him since.
Ok so present day. He is still friends with a lot of my friends and this is causing issues for them and us as they have to make sure that we're not the same events or gatherings. At this point although I still feel horrible about the whole incident I feel that I don't need this negativity in my life and I'd prefer to have it resolved. If I try to talk to him about it does this make me weak for trying to have an easy life or strong for attempting to deal with it once and for all? Also, how the hell do you go about having that conversation?I'm at a loss as to how to deal with this situation with the guy who my girlfriend slept with...?
No, I think you are the bigger person for initiating this. If you are not comfortable calling him or taliking to him directly at first, have a mutual friend explain to him that you want reconciliation. Tell him that you have forgiven him as you have forgiven her, that you may not necessarily want to be friends but at least on good terms (a hello and a goodbye type thing) so you can share the same friends without so much hassel. You deserve much respect for this. He probably has wanted to so the same thing but was afraid you were angry with him. Please remember what is forgiven is forgiven, it is not always forgotton but to bring things up after a reconciliation is not acceptable, BE SURE you are ready to forgive him! good luckI'm at a loss as to how to deal with this situation with the guy who my girlfriend slept with...?
forget it..you forgave your girlfriend who betrayed you in the worst way...if you can take her back then you need to forgive him also...
you dont have to talk to him or anything but theres no reason to confront him over the past..
You are for sure strong for attempting to deal with it! That is something thats sets apart men from boys. I am sure he would also like to talk to you about it, but I am sure since he was in the wrong he figures you dont want to discuss it with him. I doubt you could ever be best buds with him, but just getting the issue out in the open will allow for you guys to at least be in the same room together. I would just go to a group event or something where you know he will be there. You can pull him to the side and discuss it. That will be better than asking to meet him one on one. The guy could take that as you just wanting to get him alone to beat him up or something.
first of all if i were you i woud not go back with my girl...i would leave her! wheather or not she was drunk u do not do that ****!!! and how can you want to talk to him about it! y would you want to? no leave it alone! if you drink u should know how to control ur self! if you don't know then don't drink!!! that's my point of view! and another thing...she says she was drunk and wasn't thinking! ok, how do u know she is not lying and she wasn't drunk and it was meant to happen? hello yea u might be saying then y would she tell me right? maybe cuz she is probably scared the guy might tell or something, that u will know...think about it...i am a girl, i know but still...
good luck!
Ok so present day. He is still friends with a lot of my friends and this is causing issues for them and us as they have to make sure that we're not the same events or gatherings. At this point although I still feel horrible about the whole incident I feel that I don't need this negativity in my life and I'd prefer to have it resolved. If I try to talk to him about it does this make me weak for trying to have an easy life or strong for attempting to deal with it once and for all? Also, how the hell do you go about having that conversation?I'm at a loss as to how to deal with this situation with the guy who my girlfriend slept with...?
No, I think you are the bigger person for initiating this. If you are not comfortable calling him or taliking to him directly at first, have a mutual friend explain to him that you want reconciliation. Tell him that you have forgiven him as you have forgiven her, that you may not necessarily want to be friends but at least on good terms (a hello and a goodbye type thing) so you can share the same friends without so much hassel. You deserve much respect for this. He probably has wanted to so the same thing but was afraid you were angry with him. Please remember what is forgiven is forgiven, it is not always forgotton but to bring things up after a reconciliation is not acceptable, BE SURE you are ready to forgive him! good luckI'm at a loss as to how to deal with this situation with the guy who my girlfriend slept with...?
forget it..you forgave your girlfriend who betrayed you in the worst way...if you can take her back then you need to forgive him also...
you dont have to talk to him or anything but theres no reason to confront him over the past..
You are for sure strong for attempting to deal with it! That is something thats sets apart men from boys. I am sure he would also like to talk to you about it, but I am sure since he was in the wrong he figures you dont want to discuss it with him. I doubt you could ever be best buds with him, but just getting the issue out in the open will allow for you guys to at least be in the same room together. I would just go to a group event or something where you know he will be there. You can pull him to the side and discuss it. That will be better than asking to meet him one on one. The guy could take that as you just wanting to get him alone to beat him up or something.
first of all if i were you i woud not go back with my girl...i would leave her! wheather or not she was drunk u do not do that ****!!! and how can you want to talk to him about it! y would you want to? no leave it alone! if you drink u should know how to control ur self! if you don't know then don't drink!!! that's my point of view! and another thing...she says she was drunk and wasn't thinking! ok, how do u know she is not lying and she wasn't drunk and it was meant to happen? hello yea u might be saying then y would she tell me right? maybe cuz she is probably scared the guy might tell or something, that u will know...think about it...i am a girl, i know but still...
good luck!
How to make a guy brake up with his girlfriend and go out with you?
there's this guy that I like but he has a girlfriend... I really really like him but there's girls all over him all the time... i really think we would make a cute couple but...HE HAS A GIRLFRIEND...and shes really popular that's why I kinda want to be sneaky because i don't want her to get the whole school to hate me !!!!! anywho if u can help that would be awesome!!!!!
xoxoxox...lauren :)How to make a guy brake up with his girlfriend and go out with you?
You can't do anything ...How to make a guy brake up with his girlfriend and go out with you?
i dont think is a good idea to do that ..
xoxoxox...lauren :)How to make a guy brake up with his girlfriend and go out with you?
You can't do anything ...How to make a guy brake up with his girlfriend and go out with you?
i dont think is a good idea to do that ..
My Pisces-Aquarius-Cancer love triangle...is this for real?
Hey, thanks for reading this and I need some help with this dilemma鈥?br>
I know I should use horoscope personalities and everything about fit us so well鈥?
Okay so
I鈥檓 the pisces, and my moon sign is Taurus
He the aquarius and his moon sign is gemini
She (she also one of my bestest friends) is a Cancer, her moon sign is Virgo
We were all into horoscopes a while back, but im still into them.
Can you please help me out with this dilemma,
Let me explain this to you people, please read through all of this鈥?
Okay, so the aquarius moved here a while back, and we were all friends at first except me and this other pisces girl were friends with him and closer to him first, we were his first bestfriends. I even flirted a little here and their, and everyone throught he liked me because he looked at me sometimes, stared at me, was nice to me, treated me really nicely, ect. But I was mean to him and treated him like any other guy friend, I would be myself around him and apparently I鈥檓 鈥榤anly鈥?like I punch guys, joke with them (dirty jokes), I call names, and was perverted and made dirty jokes around him and basically .. yeah.
After two months and a 陆 of that, I think to moved on to the Cancer or he was trying to make me jelous. He tried to make me jelous when it was obvious before, he would say stuff like 鈥業 cant wait to go back and hug my girlfriend (even through he her ex) and he always talked about girls around me, I don鈥檛 know if he playing with me or not.
But anyways, since he moved on to the cancer he been making obvious moves that he likes her. He even changed his fb relationship ship status to 鈥業n a relationship with ________鈥?I don鈥檛 know if its to make me jelous or not, since before it sounded like I rejected him. And she been talking about that Cancer girl around me too, saying she hot, she the hottest girl on earth, she nice, how she not a whore (apparently I鈥檓 a whore to him (but he was joking, and I call him names too), and she really prude), about how much she likes her, and it bothering me now because now I like him. I can鈥檛 stop thinking about him, and he told me I had good cooking skills so I even cooked something for him last week.
Anyways whenever their around me, He tries to hold her hand, hug her, cuddle with her, ect.ect.
But whenever we talk, we have chemistry, and sometimes it even sounds like me likes me. A lot of people even said wed be a cuter couple since we talk a lot and we act like friends around eachother. Before whenever I told him that im pissed off at him, he tried to make things better, kept on apologizing, and he was really sweet. He still does that sometimes, but now it feels as if Im losing him to her. And She doesn鈥檛 even like him that much, it seems as if she has some ( a little ) bit of feelings for him, but they arent as strong as mine.
I think the reason he liked me before was because I kept ignoring him, playing hard to get, I was 鈥榙ifferent鈥?from the average girl since I鈥檓 a really loud, and open person. But now I don鈥檛 know what I should do, I really want him now.
Sometimes when I even think of him, tears start to form in my eyes. I really want to confess, but what if he actually likes her? He always tell my friends and I that she pretty鈥ute鈥ot, but he never tells her himself. He even attempted to ask her out, but she sorta rejected, but it looks like they鈥檙e going out.
Like he even told me a million times that I鈥檓 pretty鈥?that I鈥檓 nice鈥?that im perfect鈥?that I look better without makeup鈥? That I look beautiful when I smile鈥?and whenever I think about the old times it makes me really sad.
I actually think he liked me before, but lately he wasn鈥檛 too into the Cancer girl lately鈥?is their anyway to snatch him away? Or make him like me?
I even asked the Cancer girl myself (she my bestfriend) she said she didn鈥檛 like him that much, and she doesn鈥檛 really care.
What should I do? Should I get over him? Is he just playing hard to get? Or are his feelings real about the Cancer? He even told me secrets that she doesn鈥檛 know because apparently He doesn鈥檛 want him to judge her鈥?Oh I鈥檓 so heartbroken and confused right now.
How should I act around him to make him like me? I don鈥檛 know what to do鈥 really want him now, what should I do to make him like me? I really like him and I don鈥檛 know if this is love or not? Whenever I think about him my heart even beats a little faster, and when I see him walking I always hope that he鈥檒l say hi (he usually does).
I really think that me and him are better for eachother, because we know were not perfect and he has seen my flaws before and I鈥檝e seen his, and were really comfortable with eachother. I really like him, and it seems like he likes me too sometimes. But although sometimes he told me I鈥檓 annoying, and when I give him space he starts to freak out and he wants me to be annoying again.
What should I do to make him like me? Or should I just letMy Pisces-Aquarius-Cancer love triangle...is this for real?
hey, sorry i didn't really read the story but i read the last question. if you did not confess ur love with him, then just do. tell him that you like him. all the bes. sorry once again.
I know I should use horoscope personalities and everything about fit us so well鈥?
Okay so
I鈥檓 the pisces, and my moon sign is Taurus
He the aquarius and his moon sign is gemini
She (she also one of my bestest friends) is a Cancer, her moon sign is Virgo
We were all into horoscopes a while back, but im still into them.
Can you please help me out with this dilemma,
Let me explain this to you people, please read through all of this鈥?
Okay, so the aquarius moved here a while back, and we were all friends at first except me and this other pisces girl were friends with him and closer to him first, we were his first bestfriends. I even flirted a little here and their, and everyone throught he liked me because he looked at me sometimes, stared at me, was nice to me, treated me really nicely, ect. But I was mean to him and treated him like any other guy friend, I would be myself around him and apparently I鈥檓 鈥榤anly鈥?like I punch guys, joke with them (dirty jokes), I call names, and was perverted and made dirty jokes around him and basically .. yeah.
After two months and a 陆 of that, I think to moved on to the Cancer or he was trying to make me jelous. He tried to make me jelous when it was obvious before, he would say stuff like 鈥業 cant wait to go back and hug my girlfriend (even through he her ex) and he always talked about girls around me, I don鈥檛 know if he playing with me or not.
But anyways, since he moved on to the cancer he been making obvious moves that he likes her. He even changed his fb relationship ship status to 鈥業n a relationship with ________鈥?I don鈥檛 know if its to make me jelous or not, since before it sounded like I rejected him. And she been talking about that Cancer girl around me too, saying she hot, she the hottest girl on earth, she nice, how she not a whore (apparently I鈥檓 a whore to him (but he was joking, and I call him names too), and she really prude), about how much she likes her, and it bothering me now because now I like him. I can鈥檛 stop thinking about him, and he told me I had good cooking skills so I even cooked something for him last week.
Anyways whenever their around me, He tries to hold her hand, hug her, cuddle with her, ect.ect.
But whenever we talk, we have chemistry, and sometimes it even sounds like me likes me. A lot of people even said wed be a cuter couple since we talk a lot and we act like friends around eachother. Before whenever I told him that im pissed off at him, he tried to make things better, kept on apologizing, and he was really sweet. He still does that sometimes, but now it feels as if Im losing him to her. And She doesn鈥檛 even like him that much, it seems as if she has some ( a little ) bit of feelings for him, but they arent as strong as mine.
I think the reason he liked me before was because I kept ignoring him, playing hard to get, I was 鈥榙ifferent鈥?from the average girl since I鈥檓 a really loud, and open person. But now I don鈥檛 know what I should do, I really want him now.
Sometimes when I even think of him, tears start to form in my eyes. I really want to confess, but what if he actually likes her? He always tell my friends and I that she pretty鈥ute鈥ot, but he never tells her himself. He even attempted to ask her out, but she sorta rejected, but it looks like they鈥檙e going out.
Like he even told me a million times that I鈥檓 pretty鈥?that I鈥檓 nice鈥?that im perfect鈥?that I look better without makeup鈥? That I look beautiful when I smile鈥?and whenever I think about the old times it makes me really sad.
I actually think he liked me before, but lately he wasn鈥檛 too into the Cancer girl lately鈥?is their anyway to snatch him away? Or make him like me?
I even asked the Cancer girl myself (she my bestfriend) she said she didn鈥檛 like him that much, and she doesn鈥檛 really care.
What should I do? Should I get over him? Is he just playing hard to get? Or are his feelings real about the Cancer? He even told me secrets that she doesn鈥檛 know because apparently He doesn鈥檛 want him to judge her鈥?Oh I鈥檓 so heartbroken and confused right now.
How should I act around him to make him like me? I don鈥檛 know what to do鈥 really want him now, what should I do to make him like me? I really like him and I don鈥檛 know if this is love or not? Whenever I think about him my heart even beats a little faster, and when I see him walking I always hope that he鈥檒l say hi (he usually does).
I really think that me and him are better for eachother, because we know were not perfect and he has seen my flaws before and I鈥檝e seen his, and were really comfortable with eachother. I really like him, and it seems like he likes me too sometimes. But although sometimes he told me I鈥檓 annoying, and when I give him space he starts to freak out and he wants me to be annoying again.
What should I do to make him like me? Or should I just letMy Pisces-Aquarius-Cancer love triangle...is this for real?
hey, sorry i didn't really read the story but i read the last question. if you did not confess ur love with him, then just do. tell him that you like him. all the bes. sorry once again.
Bros over hos? Should a guy chose his girlfriend of 3 months or his friend of 6 years?
His girlfriend Amy of 3 months is hated like crazy by his friend Justine of 5-6 years becuase I used to like Matt [the 4year kind of like] and Amy is my best freind so Justines like ';How could she do that to you'; but im over it. So at a birthday party Justine hit Amy in the face with a balloon, and i dont know if it was an accident but she said sorry. Then she turned around and got hit in the face by Matt and he said ';revenge is sweet'; and they laughed it off, but it was that fake kind of laugh. And Justine had like a raincloud over her head for the rest of the night. Justine doesnt like Matt but theyre hellllllla close. [He really likes Amy.]
So in the publics opinion, whats the better thing to do?
If he had to take a side. I mean its really easy to stay out of it, but thats not an option anymore X]Bros over hos? Should a guy chose his girlfriend of 3 months or his friend of 6 years?
the girlfriend seems like a nicer person. friends changeBros over hos? Should a guy chose his girlfriend of 3 months or his friend of 6 years?
are u the bro or the ho in this situation?
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So in the publics opinion, whats the better thing to do?
If he had to take a side. I mean its really easy to stay out of it, but thats not an option anymore X]Bros over hos? Should a guy chose his girlfriend of 3 months or his friend of 6 years?
the girlfriend seems like a nicer person. friends changeBros over hos? Should a guy chose his girlfriend of 3 months or his friend of 6 years?
are u the bro or the ho in this situation?
it is kind of confusing!
What do guys look for in a girlfriend? (Teenage guys only please)?
Okay, so I have this ex and I broke up with him a while ago but now I want him back.
The only problem is that he's going out with this girl who I can't stand at all and he knows that I hate her.
But he's a sex addict and she's a virgin and trust me she won't put out any time in there relationship so he won't get laid, which he wants too.
So how would I get my ex to want me back and dump this ***** for me?What do guys look for in a girlfriend? (Teenage guys only please)?
uhh, hes probably with this girl to get back at you anyway (unless this has been a long relationship with them both) and he most likely still has feelings for you. i would tell him how you feel, and tell him that you were stupid for breaking up with him and that after all this time you cant be without him.. and then thats will definitely make him think long and hard about it and hopefully for you he will take you back (p.s only say those things if you mean it though)
The only problem is that he's going out with this girl who I can't stand at all and he knows that I hate her.
But he's a sex addict and she's a virgin and trust me she won't put out any time in there relationship so he won't get laid, which he wants too.
So how would I get my ex to want me back and dump this ***** for me?What do guys look for in a girlfriend? (Teenage guys only please)?
uhh, hes probably with this girl to get back at you anyway (unless this has been a long relationship with them both) and he most likely still has feelings for you. i would tell him how you feel, and tell him that you were stupid for breaking up with him and that after all this time you cant be without him.. and then thats will definitely make him think long and hard about it and hopefully for you he will take you back (p.s only say those things if you mean it though)
I'm worried about my girlfriend? i'm really worried?
my girlfriend is the love of my life but we do argue from time to time but that's not the issue.
My girlfriends ex used to beat her up when they got really angry at eachother. today we had a particularly spirited arguement she was standing up and i was sitting down. she said something that really frustrated me like she hadn't listened to a word i said. i stood up and sort of grunted in frustration i looked at her and she was wincing like she actually thought i was going to hit her. it tore my heart in two i never want to see that look on her face again. i immediatly snapped out of arguement mode and pulled him into my arms.
i'm a very unaggressive guy especially when it comes to girls. i have had far angrier arguements with other girls where they had no fear at all and why should they i'd never touch a girl like that but i need advice on how to not seem aggressive when i'm angry because her past has obviously made her more sensitive to signs of anger and i don't ever want her to feel scared or intimidated again especially by the one man that loves her more than anything in the world?I'm worried about my girlfriend? i'm really worried?
try to get into as little arguments as possible, but since we're not perfect and arguments do happen, next time, keep your voice calm and dont raise your voice too much. also, dont walk towards her really fast like your about to hit her and dont let your anger show too much on your face and dont grunt or anything like that. also, dont make sudden movements...shes been through alot so be real gentle with her...its kinda like dealing with a scared puppy or a small child, ya know?I'm worried about my girlfriend? i'm really worried?
Your girlfriend is a very lucky women! Tell her that you love her and you would never to anything to hurt her. Let her know that she is safe when shes around you. If it impacts her anymore I think she should seek some counseling. Hope I helped and good luck!
My girlfriends ex used to beat her up when they got really angry at eachother. today we had a particularly spirited arguement she was standing up and i was sitting down. she said something that really frustrated me like she hadn't listened to a word i said. i stood up and sort of grunted in frustration i looked at her and she was wincing like she actually thought i was going to hit her. it tore my heart in two i never want to see that look on her face again. i immediatly snapped out of arguement mode and pulled him into my arms.
i'm a very unaggressive guy especially when it comes to girls. i have had far angrier arguements with other girls where they had no fear at all and why should they i'd never touch a girl like that but i need advice on how to not seem aggressive when i'm angry because her past has obviously made her more sensitive to signs of anger and i don't ever want her to feel scared or intimidated again especially by the one man that loves her more than anything in the world?I'm worried about my girlfriend? i'm really worried?
try to get into as little arguments as possible, but since we're not perfect and arguments do happen, next time, keep your voice calm and dont raise your voice too much. also, dont walk towards her really fast like your about to hit her and dont let your anger show too much on your face and dont grunt or anything like that. also, dont make sudden movements...shes been through alot so be real gentle with her...its kinda like dealing with a scared puppy or a small child, ya know?I'm worried about my girlfriend? i'm really worried?
Your girlfriend is a very lucky women! Tell her that you love her and you would never to anything to hurt her. Let her know that she is safe when shes around you. If it impacts her anymore I think she should seek some counseling. Hope I helped and good luck!
How do i deal with my girlfriend's guy friend who likes her alot and call her everyday.?
My girlfriend have a guy friend who liked her for a long time, he has been chasing her for like a year now. He calls her everyday, especially while i'm at work and they are both free. He always ask her to go do stuff together, just them two. He also treats her really well, he even bought her a ipod. the hard things is that they become pretty close, so it's hard for me to fight him, cuz my girlfriend would probably get mad. my gf does not like him as much as me, but i consider him a threat
So what should i do with this guy, confront him or just leave them along or something else?
Thanks for any help.How do i deal with my girlfriend's guy friend who likes her alot and call her everyday.?
I have a few guy friends that I am really close too. And we do things with out my man some times. But there is a reason they are my friend and not my man.
If she wanted to be with this guy she would already. Take some time to get to know him better, you may see why she thinks he is so cool. And maybe you can help set him up with someone you now. It makes you look good that you are willing to be a bigger man and understand and trust her.
If all else ';keep your friends close and you enemy's closer!';How do i deal with my girlfriend's guy friend who likes her alot and call her everyday.?
Include him, but make out with her and let him know she is yours.
I HATE people like that.
Anyway....
what happens happens, but remember, nice guys usually come in last...
I agree with your first answer.....
Is she really your girlfriend?
So what should i do with this guy, confront him or just leave them along or something else?
Thanks for any help.How do i deal with my girlfriend's guy friend who likes her alot and call her everyday.?
I have a few guy friends that I am really close too. And we do things with out my man some times. But there is a reason they are my friend and not my man.
If she wanted to be with this guy she would already. Take some time to get to know him better, you may see why she thinks he is so cool. And maybe you can help set him up with someone you now. It makes you look good that you are willing to be a bigger man and understand and trust her.
If all else ';keep your friends close and you enemy's closer!';How do i deal with my girlfriend's guy friend who likes her alot and call her everyday.?
Include him, but make out with her and let him know she is yours.
I HATE people like that.
Anyway....
what happens happens, but remember, nice guys usually come in last...
I agree with your first answer.....
Is she really your girlfriend?
Advice about girl falls for best guy friend that has a girlfriend?
Soo... I REALLY like my friend. And we used to have mutual feelings for each other and we talked about it and stuff but we both liked other people. Now I don't like anyone else, but he started going out with the other girl a week ago. I hung out with him yesterday and the whole time I couldn't help but think about how good we'd be together. I really want something to happen with him, soon. I need advice for how to get him to realize he shouldn't be with her. Please help, this is really sucking.Advice about girl falls for best guy friend that has a girlfriend?
like always good friendship turn to love, Im sure he feel for you but he lack the courage, fight to get him, don't let go, look at him in the eyes and tell him that you like him
like always good friendship turn to love, Im sure he feel for you but he lack the courage, fight to get him, don't let go, look at him in the eyes and tell him that you like him
How do i get over a guy that has a new girlfriend?
Ok so i dated this guy for 6 months on a off.
So the last time we broken up was to save his friendship
with his ';brother';
It worked but a week after the break up he gets this girlfriend
and since he has been dating her he wont talk to me
or his friend Emily he is being a jerk
And i walked to his house yesterday and he told me there is
a personal reason he doesnt want to be my friend
and he wont tell it to anyone not even Karleen(his new girlfriend) knows
Help????How do i get over a guy that has a new girlfriend?
Move on with your life. He is not playing by the rules of respect and consideration.search myspace
So the last time we broken up was to save his friendship
with his ';brother';
It worked but a week after the break up he gets this girlfriend
and since he has been dating her he wont talk to me
or his friend Emily he is being a jerk
And i walked to his house yesterday and he told me there is
a personal reason he doesnt want to be my friend
and he wont tell it to anyone not even Karleen(his new girlfriend) knows
Help????How do i get over a guy that has a new girlfriend?
Move on with your life. He is not playing by the rules of respect and consideration.
Girls:How can i deal with the fact that i'll never have a girlfriend?
I have a receding hairline that goes back into the corners of my forehead and it's starting to show more and more the older i get.so it's kinda like a V shape now
I have a moustache that's not too thick and not too thin
I have somewhat of a big forehead,but it's not HUGE
I have small dark brown eyes
I have black hair
I have bags under my eyes from sleep deprivation,i've had them for years
I sometimes have a mad/tired look on my face
Not very social,but i will talk when i need to,i'm socially awkward
I don't like to party and drink,only every now and then
I think i think too much
I guess the only thing i have going for me is that i'm a nice guy,and usually treat women with a lot of respect.
I want HONEST answers,don't hold back i want you to tell me the truth,because i'm 18 and i've never had a gf and i've never kissed a girl either.I think most people would say that i have a boring personality and i always keep to myself and i like keeping to myself and not talking much to other people,because honestly people in general annoy me,but i still want a gf to be there for me,i'm just tired of being alone ALL THE TIME.i don't know if i'll ever muster up the courage to ask a girl';do you want to be my girlfriend?';.i'm afraid if i continue like this i'm never gonna get anything,but i don't wanna change for someone else.i know people say';don't worry you'll meet someone eventually or you'll get a gf when you least expect it';.but i'm looking at this realistically and the odds of that happening with the way i am are really slim,and i don't wanna be 30 years old and barely getting my first gf and kiss when it's something that most people do in their early teens.BE HONEST this way so i know if i should just forget about the whole relationship/dating thing and just focus on other things in life.because i'm tired of being depressed about this constantly(almost daily) and want honest opinions.i mean i want to move forward with my life and if i'm depressed about this ,it's only gonna get in the way with my life.And if i forget about this i can at least still find other ways to spend my time,instead of having it always on my mind.
Please, i want completely honest answers.
Thanks...and sorry if this is kinda longGirls:How can i deal with the fact that i'll never have a girlfriend?
First of all--you need to work on your confidence and self-esteem! People, not just ladies, are drawn to others who are confident and think well of themselves. I like to think that noone is better than I am, nor am I better than anyone else. Confidence is key, and nobody likes being around depressed people (you know that already, though).
You probably do think too much. Perhaps get more active, and do something physical like running or swimming. You could be alone while you do these activities, and it would work out your racing thoughts at the same time as strengthening your body. There is something crippling about being stuck in your own mind. It's limiting you; you need to expand your horizons. Get involved in other ways, too. Volunteering is a great way to get out of your own mundane problems. Try something like Habitat for Humanity, where you can be helping others out and be active. If you could exert the same amount of energy helping out other people as you do thinking, you'd be so much more interesting to be around (for both guys and girls).
Your looks are not something that you can change. You can improve them by brightening your spirit, and working on your image. If you are 18, and have a receding hairline, I say to just cut it super super short (the shortest a buzz cut will allow, not razored). Also, facial hair on a teenager always looks creepy, especially a moustache. If you are particularly attached to your moustache, get over it. No girl likes to kiss a boy with a furry lip, period.
Are you going to college next year? If so, good for you. You might find that a change of scenery helps to facilitate the change that you so desperately want in your life. Just remember that even if you do find a girl to date, that noone can make you feel good about yourself if you don't feel good about you. Noone is going to truly love you until you learn to love yourself! It sounds cliche and corny, but it's the truth.
Good luck. It sounds like you're a nice guy, and you will make some girl happy someday.
(P.S. Perk up, when you least expect it you'll find someone special. My husband and I found eachother, and we are an unlikely pair--I'm 13 years younger than him, a college grad and he's a cook.)Girls:How can i deal with the fact that i'll never have a girlfriend?
Ask your doctor for Avodart, it will regrow your hair, and put you back in the game.
You will have a girlfriend! It will happen.
Well.... get enough sleep, smile more, socialize more, shave your moustache. You're overthinking this, so obv u do think too much:p
but seriously... Just talk nicely to a girl, but don't act too shy. Approach her and start talking to her. Girls like for a guy to be assertive and not too shy to talk to her or ask her out.
Your answer is in your very long post. You're only 18 and severely depressed and you say you have been for a long time. This is NOT the answer you want to hear but you need to see a professional therapist. No matter what answers you get here, they won't be a magic bullet to solve clinical depression. Good luck to you...
be thankful you are not lumbered with these b'witches who'll make your life a living hell.
If you want to increase your confidence, start by excersising, jogging is good or join the gym. If your fit, you won't be so self-concious. Hope that helps
Don't worry you've got years before you turn 30. Things may not happen until your 20's and that is totally fine and normal, so for now concentrate on other things and let that portion of your life evolve naturally.
Basically, your not going to be single for ever.
The key to the whole ';My hair line is receding'; is just going bald.
Workout, Be healthy, and be Clean cut.
If you truly dont want to be single forever, then do something about it.
The honest truth is, IF you are by any chance going to be Gf-less
for the rest of your life, that is a good thing. Just dont stress..
The key to getting a girlfriend is being confident with your mind and body.
Self Esteem, being the absolute AlphaMale.
Have a sense of humor, and dont be a dick.
Its quite easy, just.... understanding how to get into a girls mind is hard.
Discover how they think, and ALWAYS listen.
Always.
i was like this too. i never had a girlfriend till i was 19 and i was depressed about it. but really girlfriends are too much of an expense when you are young and they demand too much effing attention. my advice is to just get out there more and be a social person it's the only way you will meet anyone, you're never gonna meet anybody if you sit at home complaining and wondering why nobody likes you. another thing, girls are all shallow so give them what they want go to the gym and work on your body and get in shape and look into some sort of hair treatment.
goodluck little buddy
Try Being More Social.
Us Women Like Men Who Love To Listen And Talk.
Always Bring Up Any Kind Of Subject When There Is Nothing Else To Talk About.
Try A New Hairstyle; People Change The Way They Are Just With A Small Change Like Cutting; Trimming; Coloring Their Hair; etc.
Always Smile. I Know I Always Do; And That's Mainly The Reason Many People Talk To Me; Because I'm Always With A Positive Look On My Face.
Making Small Changes In your Lifestyle Will Help You Out.
Hope These Tips Help(:
You sound like a great guy...do you like to read? Try going to a library and see if there are any girls there that you would like to speak to and if so..just go and say hi..and ask what she is reading..you will get a signal from her if she is interested. Just don't give up hope. and Good Luck..
Learn to love money more. Think of all the money you'll save without a wife, family or steady girlfriend. Once you've saved, invested your money and become rich you will be able to rent all the girlfriends you can handle.
I'm all about staying true to yourself, unless of course your behavior is preventing you from being happy or healthy. In this case, I'm going to say your shy and low self esteem are what's keeping you from getting the girl of your dreams, nothing else. Girls, no matter what you look like, are attracted to confidence. Someone who has some pride in themselves. No one is asking you to be perfect or even love yourself 100% of the time (I don't think anyone can do that).
Just know that for all your faults and flaws, there IS someone out there that will think they're beautiful because it's what makes you, YOU. I know my answer is super cliche, but it's the truth.
';Realistically'; you are not on the path to loneliness! You're only eighteen!! That's only a small sliver of you're life and not to mention at a time where girls aren't sure what they want or still think the best boyfriend is one with money and six pack. For every girl out there looking for Mr. Model, there are twice as many looking for a good, honest MAN to love them for all THEIR flaws.
As far as getting what you want when it comes to women. Take some pride in yourself. You're obviously not happy with your physical appearance, so take the steps necessary to improve what you can. Eat right for healthy skin, get more sleep to get rid of those bags and if you're hairline is receding, shave it all off! There are plenty of girls who like the shaved look, including myself! When you take care of yourself, that is one way you're showing you have pride in yourself and that you have confidence.
Don't worry about asking someone outright to be your partner. Relationships take time. Instead of trying to be smooth, be who you are. Be nice. Complement a girl. Tell her she looks nice. She might not give you her number, but you'll make her day, I guarantee it. Making someone feel good will make you feel good. Keep it up, and soon when you smile at a girl or compliment a girl, she'll respond and there will be a spark. Find these girls at arenas that you enjoy. Like music? Go see a concert. Like books? Hit up that public library. Going to school, troll the cafe on or around campus.
There are plenty of girls out there who feel just as bad about themselves and may look like a million bucks, it's about how you feel about yourself that decides what your limits and experiences will be.
I know this is all easier said then done, but love and relationships require a little work. And if you're not willing to put in a little work to find her you wont get the opportunity to put that effort into a real, loving relationship.
Good luck!!!!!!!!!!
Do you want someone to agree with you? Sorry, not me. You're 18. Your brain is still developing and you are changing whether you like it or not, so you can't throw in the towel yet. I know it's annoying when people tell you it's just teenage angst or whatever, but instead of griping about your problems put the energy towards improving yourself as a person. I don't want to patronize you, I'm not that much older, but really this is what you have to do.
Sometimes it's as simple as figuring out an interest. If you like anime conventions, hit em up man. Single ladies. It could be alligator wrestling, book club, soccer, mathletes, whatever. Soon enough, you'll meet a girl with a similar interest. Saying you ';can't muster up the courage to ask a girl out'; is such a cop out. It's not like you have to ask some random girl out of the blue. Let yourself make friends first, it's easier to open yourself up to a friend than a stranger.
Also, it will always be on your mind. Try not to worry. People pick up on your energy so try to make a positive energy. Step one... try to make this your own responsibility and personal mission. Forget your excuses and complaints.
Well if you look the way you say, then you have no choice but to try something new...
get a new look... there is nothing wrong with changing your appearance in order attract someone...
You're only 18 anyway, but here's a tip...go through some magazines and find pix of dudes that have similar features and follow their look...check out a surf magazine, or skateboard mag...the dudes usually look pretty cool...try to be a little more sociable, chill with the ';deep in thought'; action,and get some sleep to rid the bags...but don't over do the ';make over'; or it will totally not be you and others will notice...small personal changes can make a big difference in appearance...and don't worry about girls right now, they're expensive anyway...hehehe,....good luck!
Hi...
Why so much pressure placed on kids today with sex, relationships, etc......you are only 18 you have a lifetime in front of you. Be yourself, don't try and be something your not. You want someone who is interested, really interested in you. Looks go as we get older so there needs to be something other than looks to attract someone. Quit worrying and just live your life and enjoy the ride.
I am much older than you and I use to worry so much once it hit 30..it's really not worth it as you will miss out on so much in life and feel depressed. Just remember, no one wants to be alone.. some people remain single and some married..that does not mean it's bad. What is bad is not living your life to it's fullest. We all grow and learn from our mistakes, whilst it is good to get other opinions...it's your life and no one else's.
OK, I'll be brutally honest...I think you need to get out and meet people.
If you lack confident, social skills take up public speaking. A good way to start is to join 'Toastmasters' they are located all around the globe. http://www.toastmasters.org/
You will find not only your social networking will improve but it will help later in the workplace no matter what profession you work..being able to interact comfortably and confidently with peers.
Next, I would be joining a club whether it be tennis, bush walking, ten-pin bowling league...where ever your interest lies or take up volunteering that way you are also giving back to the community and enriching your life. No one really meets people by staying at home and not getting out.
Life is too short..enjoy the ride.
Hair dont mean ****, when the last time you heard a girl saying ';Yeah he so amazing but most of all he has hair!'; like never? you need to go out more get your friends and go out, i know it feel awkward and hard and you will so not be bothered a lot fo the time but force your sell, when you force your self to go out it teaches you to be socially even when you don't want to be and that is an amazing tool used by therapist for people with low self esteem, why the difference between now and 5 years? absolutely nothing if you don't change today.
we are not traveling to the future but creating it, and you have the power to create yours. by not going out you starve your future self of a good time and chances to get a GF, if you really want a GF you would:
start working out, even if you are fit its always good to work out,
find a career you want to do and stick with it
Go out more and make your self socialize more(even if it dose feel extremely awkward try to think ';why is this awkward? is it me that is awkward? what have i done? what can i do to fix it?'; basically going out and getting yourself into situations that you would never get yourself into at home
Go college/Move out
Get a job, a good way to interact with people from all walks of life from young and old.
Basically the things im saying are from a list i made once, i decided to make a list of all the unattractive things i do. and then all the things that girl find attractive in a man. Once you done that you go a target a list to aim for, its a way to get you more confident and noticed by the opposite sex. Now im not saying it easy some time it takes years if you like me to put it into practice but the rewards you get...life long happiness.....Love.....children.....sex. you see where im coming from, i mean i know its nice to wallow around in self pity and dis belief and low self esteem\confidence i been there, but how long have you been like that for? where has it got you? asking the same questions? do something spontaneous get outside the loop which is depression, low self esteem\confidence and just do something you wouldn't then you start to ask different question and that is where life become more for filling and give it purpose,
i used to think i would be better off being by myself and try to avoid most social situations because i wasn't any good at them but it just leaves you feeling unconnected and that not what life is about dude. just go out there and not be yourself, another trick therapists use is to pretend you a character get pen and paper and write down all the things you want this character to be loud? funny? caring? not afraid? just write them down and when you go out just hide your real self behind the chariter that way if some one says something offensive you know its about the character and not you! some of them techniques work better for some than other so dont expect it to be a wonder cure. any way i think that what pretty much helped me back then.
hope it helps you dude!!
I have a moustache that's not too thick and not too thin
I have somewhat of a big forehead,but it's not HUGE
I have small dark brown eyes
I have black hair
I have bags under my eyes from sleep deprivation,i've had them for years
I sometimes have a mad/tired look on my face
Not very social,but i will talk when i need to,i'm socially awkward
I don't like to party and drink,only every now and then
I think i think too much
I guess the only thing i have going for me is that i'm a nice guy,and usually treat women with a lot of respect.
I want HONEST answers,don't hold back i want you to tell me the truth,because i'm 18 and i've never had a gf and i've never kissed a girl either.I think most people would say that i have a boring personality and i always keep to myself and i like keeping to myself and not talking much to other people,because honestly people in general annoy me,but i still want a gf to be there for me,i'm just tired of being alone ALL THE TIME.i don't know if i'll ever muster up the courage to ask a girl';do you want to be my girlfriend?';.i'm afraid if i continue like this i'm never gonna get anything,but i don't wanna change for someone else.i know people say';don't worry you'll meet someone eventually or you'll get a gf when you least expect it';.but i'm looking at this realistically and the odds of that happening with the way i am are really slim,and i don't wanna be 30 years old and barely getting my first gf and kiss when it's something that most people do in their early teens.BE HONEST this way so i know if i should just forget about the whole relationship/dating thing and just focus on other things in life.because i'm tired of being depressed about this constantly(almost daily) and want honest opinions.i mean i want to move forward with my life and if i'm depressed about this ,it's only gonna get in the way with my life.And if i forget about this i can at least still find other ways to spend my time,instead of having it always on my mind.
Please, i want completely honest answers.
Thanks...and sorry if this is kinda longGirls:How can i deal with the fact that i'll never have a girlfriend?
First of all--you need to work on your confidence and self-esteem! People, not just ladies, are drawn to others who are confident and think well of themselves. I like to think that noone is better than I am, nor am I better than anyone else. Confidence is key, and nobody likes being around depressed people (you know that already, though).
You probably do think too much. Perhaps get more active, and do something physical like running or swimming. You could be alone while you do these activities, and it would work out your racing thoughts at the same time as strengthening your body. There is something crippling about being stuck in your own mind. It's limiting you; you need to expand your horizons. Get involved in other ways, too. Volunteering is a great way to get out of your own mundane problems. Try something like Habitat for Humanity, where you can be helping others out and be active. If you could exert the same amount of energy helping out other people as you do thinking, you'd be so much more interesting to be around (for both guys and girls).
Your looks are not something that you can change. You can improve them by brightening your spirit, and working on your image. If you are 18, and have a receding hairline, I say to just cut it super super short (the shortest a buzz cut will allow, not razored). Also, facial hair on a teenager always looks creepy, especially a moustache. If you are particularly attached to your moustache, get over it. No girl likes to kiss a boy with a furry lip, period.
Are you going to college next year? If so, good for you. You might find that a change of scenery helps to facilitate the change that you so desperately want in your life. Just remember that even if you do find a girl to date, that noone can make you feel good about yourself if you don't feel good about you. Noone is going to truly love you until you learn to love yourself! It sounds cliche and corny, but it's the truth.
Good luck. It sounds like you're a nice guy, and you will make some girl happy someday.
(P.S. Perk up, when you least expect it you'll find someone special. My husband and I found eachother, and we are an unlikely pair--I'm 13 years younger than him, a college grad and he's a cook.)Girls:How can i deal with the fact that i'll never have a girlfriend?
Ask your doctor for Avodart, it will regrow your hair, and put you back in the game.
You will have a girlfriend! It will happen.
Well.... get enough sleep, smile more, socialize more, shave your moustache. You're overthinking this, so obv u do think too much:p
but seriously... Just talk nicely to a girl, but don't act too shy. Approach her and start talking to her. Girls like for a guy to be assertive and not too shy to talk to her or ask her out.
Your answer is in your very long post. You're only 18 and severely depressed and you say you have been for a long time. This is NOT the answer you want to hear but you need to see a professional therapist. No matter what answers you get here, they won't be a magic bullet to solve clinical depression. Good luck to you...
be thankful you are not lumbered with these b'witches who'll make your life a living hell.
If you want to increase your confidence, start by excersising, jogging is good or join the gym. If your fit, you won't be so self-concious. Hope that helps
Don't worry you've got years before you turn 30. Things may not happen until your 20's and that is totally fine and normal, so for now concentrate on other things and let that portion of your life evolve naturally.
Basically, your not going to be single for ever.
The key to the whole ';My hair line is receding'; is just going bald.
Workout, Be healthy, and be Clean cut.
If you truly dont want to be single forever, then do something about it.
The honest truth is, IF you are by any chance going to be Gf-less
for the rest of your life, that is a good thing. Just dont stress..
The key to getting a girlfriend is being confident with your mind and body.
Self Esteem, being the absolute AlphaMale.
Have a sense of humor, and dont be a dick.
Its quite easy, just.... understanding how to get into a girls mind is hard.
Discover how they think, and ALWAYS listen.
Always.
i was like this too. i never had a girlfriend till i was 19 and i was depressed about it. but really girlfriends are too much of an expense when you are young and they demand too much effing attention. my advice is to just get out there more and be a social person it's the only way you will meet anyone, you're never gonna meet anybody if you sit at home complaining and wondering why nobody likes you. another thing, girls are all shallow so give them what they want go to the gym and work on your body and get in shape and look into some sort of hair treatment.
goodluck little buddy
Try Being More Social.
Us Women Like Men Who Love To Listen And Talk.
Always Bring Up Any Kind Of Subject When There Is Nothing Else To Talk About.
Try A New Hairstyle; People Change The Way They Are Just With A Small Change Like Cutting; Trimming; Coloring Their Hair; etc.
Always Smile. I Know I Always Do; And That's Mainly The Reason Many People Talk To Me; Because I'm Always With A Positive Look On My Face.
Making Small Changes In your Lifestyle Will Help You Out.
Hope These Tips Help(:
You sound like a great guy...do you like to read? Try going to a library and see if there are any girls there that you would like to speak to and if so..just go and say hi..and ask what she is reading..you will get a signal from her if she is interested. Just don't give up hope. and Good Luck..
Learn to love money more. Think of all the money you'll save without a wife, family or steady girlfriend. Once you've saved, invested your money and become rich you will be able to rent all the girlfriends you can handle.
I'm all about staying true to yourself, unless of course your behavior is preventing you from being happy or healthy. In this case, I'm going to say your shy and low self esteem are what's keeping you from getting the girl of your dreams, nothing else. Girls, no matter what you look like, are attracted to confidence. Someone who has some pride in themselves. No one is asking you to be perfect or even love yourself 100% of the time (I don't think anyone can do that).
Just know that for all your faults and flaws, there IS someone out there that will think they're beautiful because it's what makes you, YOU. I know my answer is super cliche, but it's the truth.
';Realistically'; you are not on the path to loneliness! You're only eighteen!! That's only a small sliver of you're life and not to mention at a time where girls aren't sure what they want or still think the best boyfriend is one with money and six pack. For every girl out there looking for Mr. Model, there are twice as many looking for a good, honest MAN to love them for all THEIR flaws.
As far as getting what you want when it comes to women. Take some pride in yourself. You're obviously not happy with your physical appearance, so take the steps necessary to improve what you can. Eat right for healthy skin, get more sleep to get rid of those bags and if you're hairline is receding, shave it all off! There are plenty of girls who like the shaved look, including myself! When you take care of yourself, that is one way you're showing you have pride in yourself and that you have confidence.
Don't worry about asking someone outright to be your partner. Relationships take time. Instead of trying to be smooth, be who you are. Be nice. Complement a girl. Tell her she looks nice. She might not give you her number, but you'll make her day, I guarantee it. Making someone feel good will make you feel good. Keep it up, and soon when you smile at a girl or compliment a girl, she'll respond and there will be a spark. Find these girls at arenas that you enjoy. Like music? Go see a concert. Like books? Hit up that public library. Going to school, troll the cafe on or around campus.
There are plenty of girls out there who feel just as bad about themselves and may look like a million bucks, it's about how you feel about yourself that decides what your limits and experiences will be.
I know this is all easier said then done, but love and relationships require a little work. And if you're not willing to put in a little work to find her you wont get the opportunity to put that effort into a real, loving relationship.
Good luck!!!!!!!!!!
Do you want someone to agree with you? Sorry, not me. You're 18. Your brain is still developing and you are changing whether you like it or not, so you can't throw in the towel yet. I know it's annoying when people tell you it's just teenage angst or whatever, but instead of griping about your problems put the energy towards improving yourself as a person. I don't want to patronize you, I'm not that much older, but really this is what you have to do.
Sometimes it's as simple as figuring out an interest. If you like anime conventions, hit em up man. Single ladies. It could be alligator wrestling, book club, soccer, mathletes, whatever. Soon enough, you'll meet a girl with a similar interest. Saying you ';can't muster up the courage to ask a girl out'; is such a cop out. It's not like you have to ask some random girl out of the blue. Let yourself make friends first, it's easier to open yourself up to a friend than a stranger.
Also, it will always be on your mind. Try not to worry. People pick up on your energy so try to make a positive energy. Step one... try to make this your own responsibility and personal mission. Forget your excuses and complaints.
Well if you look the way you say, then you have no choice but to try something new...
get a new look... there is nothing wrong with changing your appearance in order attract someone...
You're only 18 anyway, but here's a tip...go through some magazines and find pix of dudes that have similar features and follow their look...check out a surf magazine, or skateboard mag...the dudes usually look pretty cool...try to be a little more sociable, chill with the ';deep in thought'; action,and get some sleep to rid the bags...but don't over do the ';make over'; or it will totally not be you and others will notice...small personal changes can make a big difference in appearance...and don't worry about girls right now, they're expensive anyway...hehehe,....good luck!
Hi...
Why so much pressure placed on kids today with sex, relationships, etc......you are only 18 you have a lifetime in front of you. Be yourself, don't try and be something your not. You want someone who is interested, really interested in you. Looks go as we get older so there needs to be something other than looks to attract someone. Quit worrying and just live your life and enjoy the ride.
I am much older than you and I use to worry so much once it hit 30..it's really not worth it as you will miss out on so much in life and feel depressed. Just remember, no one wants to be alone.. some people remain single and some married..that does not mean it's bad. What is bad is not living your life to it's fullest. We all grow and learn from our mistakes, whilst it is good to get other opinions...it's your life and no one else's.
OK, I'll be brutally honest...I think you need to get out and meet people.
If you lack confident, social skills take up public speaking. A good way to start is to join 'Toastmasters' they are located all around the globe. http://www.toastmasters.org/
You will find not only your social networking will improve but it will help later in the workplace no matter what profession you work..being able to interact comfortably and confidently with peers.
Next, I would be joining a club whether it be tennis, bush walking, ten-pin bowling league...where ever your interest lies or take up volunteering that way you are also giving back to the community and enriching your life. No one really meets people by staying at home and not getting out.
Life is too short..enjoy the ride.
Hair dont mean ****, when the last time you heard a girl saying ';Yeah he so amazing but most of all he has hair!'; like never? you need to go out more get your friends and go out, i know it feel awkward and hard and you will so not be bothered a lot fo the time but force your sell, when you force your self to go out it teaches you to be socially even when you don't want to be and that is an amazing tool used by therapist for people with low self esteem, why the difference between now and 5 years? absolutely nothing if you don't change today.
we are not traveling to the future but creating it, and you have the power to create yours. by not going out you starve your future self of a good time and chances to get a GF, if you really want a GF you would:
start working out, even if you are fit its always good to work out,
find a career you want to do and stick with it
Go out more and make your self socialize more(even if it dose feel extremely awkward try to think ';why is this awkward? is it me that is awkward? what have i done? what can i do to fix it?'; basically going out and getting yourself into situations that you would never get yourself into at home
Go college/Move out
Get a job, a good way to interact with people from all walks of life from young and old.
Basically the things im saying are from a list i made once, i decided to make a list of all the unattractive things i do. and then all the things that girl find attractive in a man. Once you done that you go a target a list to aim for, its a way to get you more confident and noticed by the opposite sex. Now im not saying it easy some time it takes years if you like me to put it into practice but the rewards you get...life long happiness.....Love.....children.....sex. you see where im coming from, i mean i know its nice to wallow around in self pity and dis belief and low self esteem\confidence i been there, but how long have you been like that for? where has it got you? asking the same questions? do something spontaneous get outside the loop which is depression, low self esteem\confidence and just do something you wouldn't then you start to ask different question and that is where life become more for filling and give it purpose,
i used to think i would be better off being by myself and try to avoid most social situations because i wasn't any good at them but it just leaves you feeling unconnected and that not what life is about dude. just go out there and not be yourself, another trick therapists use is to pretend you a character get pen and paper and write down all the things you want this character to be loud? funny? caring? not afraid? just write them down and when you go out just hide your real self behind the chariter that way if some one says something offensive you know its about the character and not you! some of them techniques work better for some than other so dont expect it to be a wonder cure. any way i think that what pretty much helped me back then.
hope it helps you dude!!
Is it OK to let your girlfriend stay over at a house party...?
- She loves to party %26amp; getting drunk with this guys and girlfriends (more guys than girls) that she've known before me-in another town - like she did the last 4 years of college.
- She had something with one of the guys when she was single last year (and drunk at the party), but no more feelings for him since dating me and he has a gf. now
- She says she is going to sleep at her sisters house, cuz she knows I'm not OK with the other stuff - but how do I know if it's not just made up to calm me down.
- I don't get along with her guyfriends (I haven't met them, and I'm not sure if I want - neither they are. They HipHop - Me Rock), so I don't really fit in there, but she asked if I wanna join.
- There are some guys that wanna hook up with her, she told me, cuz she wants to be honest with me
- She says she is in love with me and doesn't want anybody else, I need to trust her
Is it reasonable that I'm worried?Is it OK to let your girlfriend stay over at a house party...?
Ill start off by saying that if she hasnt giving you a reason to mistrust her, then you should go ahead and give her the benefit of the doubt.
That said... it sounds like the two of you are so different.. do you really have enough in common to stay together?Is it OK to let your girlfriend stay over at a house party...?
Well its understandable that your worried about this. If guys want to hook up with your girlfriend at a party then they will engage. But if she says she loves you, then you should let it go man. I know its hard but at least shes honest about the hooking up part.
- She had something with one of the guys when she was single last year (and drunk at the party), but no more feelings for him since dating me and he has a gf. now
- She says she is going to sleep at her sisters house, cuz she knows I'm not OK with the other stuff - but how do I know if it's not just made up to calm me down.
- I don't get along with her guyfriends (I haven't met them, and I'm not sure if I want - neither they are. They HipHop - Me Rock), so I don't really fit in there, but she asked if I wanna join.
- There are some guys that wanna hook up with her, she told me, cuz she wants to be honest with me
- She says she is in love with me and doesn't want anybody else, I need to trust her
Is it reasonable that I'm worried?Is it OK to let your girlfriend stay over at a house party...?
Ill start off by saying that if she hasnt giving you a reason to mistrust her, then you should go ahead and give her the benefit of the doubt.
That said... it sounds like the two of you are so different.. do you really have enough in common to stay together?Is it OK to let your girlfriend stay over at a house party...?
Well its understandable that your worried about this. If guys want to hook up with your girlfriend at a party then they will engage. But if she says she loves you, then you should let it go man. I know its hard but at least shes honest about the hooking up part.
My girlfriend lied to me about spending time with her friends when she was really with an ex-boyfriend.?
A bit of history real quick, two weeks prior to the event I'm about to mention I found her texting an old boyfriend, it was about nothing though. and she lied to me when I asked who it was when I had saw his name. So, recently she said she was hanging out with her two friends Joey and Joe which is totally fine with me as they've been friends for a long time, and the two guys have girlfriends. But, I find out from my girl's best friend an ex named Josh was at her house. i confront her and she says that when she feels like shes losing someone she lies and she doesn't want to. Then she gives me her life story about her rough upbringing and how it affected her mentally and I'm the first person she actually wants to get help so she doesn't be ';that person'; anymore and lie when she doesn't want to. She says lyings worked in the past, but now she sees what how bad it made me feel and she wants to do whatever it takes to get me back. If she really goes through with help, should i take her backMy girlfriend lied to me about spending time with her friends when she was really with an ex-boyfriend.?
Shes trying to take your anger and misdirect it into sympathy for her- If shes lying to you about things like that, she doesn't respect you, you are getting played, she may not be sleeping around but she is trying to make a puss out of you- Let her know that you are srry for the way she was brought up, and that you do care and are there for her, but that kind of **** will not fly!! Make sure she understands that you will not tolerate that bull and stick to your gunz-My girlfriend lied to me about spending time with her friends when she was really with an ex-boyfriend.?
she prolly just didn't want you to worry about anything...
she is a b*tch! just relax and take a break for a while and really show her that your not messing around. if you let her in easy you will be getting hurt again later on. if you love someone you shouldnt be with anothr man nor woman
Her best friend ratted her out? Wow... really now... Are you sure she doesn't have any feelings whatsoever for her ex boyfriend? It's your choice if you want to take her back or not. But if you do, be very cautious.
I think that if you really like her and want to be with her then you should give her another chance entil she does it again. kinda like probation. then if she does do it again then you know what she is talking is bull. everyone deserves a scond chance. but if you dont want her back then tell her to get lost.
Shes trying to take your anger and misdirect it into sympathy for her- If shes lying to you about things like that, she doesn't respect you, you are getting played, she may not be sleeping around but she is trying to make a puss out of you- Let her know that you are srry for the way she was brought up, and that you do care and are there for her, but that kind of **** will not fly!! Make sure she understands that you will not tolerate that bull and stick to your gunz-My girlfriend lied to me about spending time with her friends when she was really with an ex-boyfriend.?
she prolly just didn't want you to worry about anything...
she is a b*tch! just relax and take a break for a while and really show her that your not messing around. if you let her in easy you will be getting hurt again later on. if you love someone you shouldnt be with anothr man nor woman
Her best friend ratted her out? Wow... really now... Are you sure she doesn't have any feelings whatsoever for her ex boyfriend? It's your choice if you want to take her back or not. But if you do, be very cautious.
I think that if you really like her and want to be with her then you should give her another chance entil she does it again. kinda like probation. then if she does do it again then you know what she is talking is bull. everyone deserves a scond chance. but if you dont want her back then tell her to get lost.
I'm at a loss as to how to deal with this situation with the guy who my girlfriend slept with...?
My girlfriend and I have been together for 3 years or so. About 2 years ago due to immigration issues we were on different continents for 3 months. During this time she got very drunk and slept with a friend of ours. She admitted her infidelity to me and we eventually patched it up though neither of us have seen him since.
Ok so present day. He is still friends with a lot of my friends and this is causing issues for them and us as they have to make sure that we're not the same events or gatherings. At this point although I still feel horrible about the whole incident I feel that I don't need this negativity in my life and I'd prefer to have it resolved. If I try to talk to him about it does this make me weak for trying to have an easy life or strong for attempting to deal with it once and for all? Also, how the hell do you go about having that conversation?I'm at a loss as to how to deal with this situation with the guy who my girlfriend slept with...?
No, I think you are the bigger person for initiating this. If you are not comfortable calling him or taliking to him directly at first, have a mutual friend explain to him that you want reconciliation. Tell him that you have forgiven him as you have forgiven her, that you may not necessarily want to be friends but at least on good terms (a hello and a goodbye type thing) so you can share the same friends without so much hassel. You deserve much respect for this. He probably has wanted to so the same thing but was afraid you were angry with him. Please remember what is forgiven is forgiven, it is not always forgotton but to bring things up after a reconciliation is not acceptable, BE SURE you are ready to forgive him! good luckI'm at a loss as to how to deal with this situation with the guy who my girlfriend slept with...?
forget it..you forgave your girlfriend who betrayed you in the worst way...if you can take her back then you need to forgive him also...
you dont have to talk to him or anything but theres no reason to confront him over the past..
You are for sure strong for attempting to deal with it! That is something thats sets apart men from boys. I am sure he would also like to talk to you about it, but I am sure since he was in the wrong he figures you dont want to discuss it with him. I doubt you could ever be best buds with him, but just getting the issue out in the open will allow for you guys to at least be in the same room together. I would just go to a group event or something where you know he will be there. You can pull him to the side and discuss it. That will be better than asking to meet him one on one. The guy could take that as you just wanting to get him alone to beat him up or something.
first of all if i were you i woud not go back with my girl...i would leave her! wheather or not she was drunk u do not do that ****!!! and how can you want to talk to him about it! y would you want to? no leave it alone! if you drink u should know how to control ur self! if you don't know then don't drink!!! that's my point of view! and another thing...she says she was drunk and wasn't thinking! ok, how do u know she is not lying and she wasn't drunk and it was meant to happen? hello yea u might be saying then y would she tell me right? maybe cuz she is probably scared the guy might tell or something, that u will know...think about it...i am a girl, i know but still...
good luck!
Ok so present day. He is still friends with a lot of my friends and this is causing issues for them and us as they have to make sure that we're not the same events or gatherings. At this point although I still feel horrible about the whole incident I feel that I don't need this negativity in my life and I'd prefer to have it resolved. If I try to talk to him about it does this make me weak for trying to have an easy life or strong for attempting to deal with it once and for all? Also, how the hell do you go about having that conversation?I'm at a loss as to how to deal with this situation with the guy who my girlfriend slept with...?
No, I think you are the bigger person for initiating this. If you are not comfortable calling him or taliking to him directly at first, have a mutual friend explain to him that you want reconciliation. Tell him that you have forgiven him as you have forgiven her, that you may not necessarily want to be friends but at least on good terms (a hello and a goodbye type thing) so you can share the same friends without so much hassel. You deserve much respect for this. He probably has wanted to so the same thing but was afraid you were angry with him. Please remember what is forgiven is forgiven, it is not always forgotton but to bring things up after a reconciliation is not acceptable, BE SURE you are ready to forgive him! good luckI'm at a loss as to how to deal with this situation with the guy who my girlfriend slept with...?
forget it..you forgave your girlfriend who betrayed you in the worst way...if you can take her back then you need to forgive him also...
you dont have to talk to him or anything but theres no reason to confront him over the past..
You are for sure strong for attempting to deal with it! That is something thats sets apart men from boys. I am sure he would also like to talk to you about it, but I am sure since he was in the wrong he figures you dont want to discuss it with him. I doubt you could ever be best buds with him, but just getting the issue out in the open will allow for you guys to at least be in the same room together. I would just go to a group event or something where you know he will be there. You can pull him to the side and discuss it. That will be better than asking to meet him one on one. The guy could take that as you just wanting to get him alone to beat him up or something.
first of all if i were you i woud not go back with my girl...i would leave her! wheather or not she was drunk u do not do that ****!!! and how can you want to talk to him about it! y would you want to? no leave it alone! if you drink u should know how to control ur self! if you don't know then don't drink!!! that's my point of view! and another thing...she says she was drunk and wasn't thinking! ok, how do u know she is not lying and she wasn't drunk and it was meant to happen? hello yea u might be saying then y would she tell me right? maybe cuz she is probably scared the guy might tell or something, that u will know...think about it...i am a girl, i know but still...
good luck!
How to make a guy brake up with his girlfriend and go out with you?
there's this guy that I like but he has a girlfriend... I really really like him but there's girls all over him all the time... i really think we would make a cute couple but...HE HAS A GIRLFRIEND...and shes really popular that's why I kinda want to be sneaky because i don't want her to get the whole school to hate me !!!!! anywho if u can help that would be awesome!!!!!
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2. If I catch him looking at me, he looks deep in my eyes.. and gives way to a sweet-soft smile..
3. When he speaks to someone, and if I鈥檓 around鈥e just keeps turning around, keeping an eye on me鈥?br>
4. He famous with my girlfriends.. and they鈥檙e just crazy about him鈥?But doesn鈥檛 talk about himself with my other girlfriends, but to me鈥nd that just so rare鈥?br>
5. Whenever I talk to him about a guy, who just got interested in me %26amp; asked me out.. He laughs out and says, you鈥檙e popular.. But then, his expression becomes somewhat sad and angry kinda鈥?br>
6. I鈥檝e often noticed that whenever he stares at me secretly鈥?his eyes are full of love, care and concern鈥?
7. He appreciated me openly many a times about my dressing sense and my rawness(I just be who I am.. and I do whatever I feel like and say things I鈥檝e got on my mind)..
8. He observes my every action very closely.. He knows me better than myself鈥?He can just make out with my eyes as to what I鈥檓 thinking of鈥?and when do I get mood-swings鈥?br>
9. He knows my likes and dislikes very well.. even though I鈥檝e not shared anything as such with him about me鈥?br>
He got a matured ideology鈥nd I guess, I am able to match up with him to some extent鈥?br>
But, What got into him鈥?br>
If it true that he likes me鈥hat kind of love is it鈥?
Pure %26amp; true love..
OR
Just a time-being lover鈥?br>
Somehow I feel that he seductive..
How do I know if its that way...
I'm just sooooooo confused...Whats with this guy....?
he obviously likes you ... but u won't know what kind of love it is w/out trying out the relationship!
GL:)Whats with this guy....?
Sooooooo boring to read such kinda things again...search for answers to some earlier similar q's....
1. u r so lucky i feel jealous that you found him first. 2. try flirting and doing that stuff back. 3. dont play games, because evven if he is mature, most guys dont understand the ';i want you thats y i am annoying you'; games.
hope i helped good luck!! d:
Well, all I can say here this is a pure %26amp; true love. He definitely loves you. But, do you love him? Think about that first and than do what you think is best to do!
Hope this helps!
He is in love with you go and propose him
From the information that you have given above, I tell you that he is the best partner for you.....
Love doesn,t have any negative things in it. So you need to become his lover rather than a girl friend.
You can share your day to day affairs with him more than any one. And its your choice whether to choose him as your life partner or not. But you must accepy him as a true lover now. I think you are satisfied with my advice.
aaaaaaaaa may be he likes u. by d way i didnt read all that stuff.
open your eyes girl!
he's so madly in love with you!!!
if you feel the same way about him then its perfect!! ( %26amp; ur very lucky and im very jealous! =p)
But recently I noticed a few things about him鈥?br>
1. He really attentive when I talk something, though I don鈥檛 look at him鈥?But whenever I do, he just looks somewhere else鈥?br>
2. If I catch him looking at me, he looks deep in my eyes.. and gives way to a sweet-soft smile..
3. When he speaks to someone, and if I鈥檓 around鈥e just keeps turning around, keeping an eye on me鈥?br>
4. He famous with my girlfriends.. and they鈥檙e just crazy about him鈥?But doesn鈥檛 talk about himself with my other girlfriends, but to me鈥nd that just so rare鈥?br>
5. Whenever I talk to him about a guy, who just got interested in me %26amp; asked me out.. He laughs out and says, you鈥檙e popular.. But then, his expression becomes somewhat sad and angry kinda鈥?br>
6. I鈥檝e often noticed that whenever he stares at me secretly鈥?his eyes are full of love, care and concern鈥?
7. He appreciated me openly many a times about my dressing sense and my rawness(I just be who I am.. and I do whatever I feel like and say things I鈥檝e got on my mind)..
8. He observes my every action very closely.. He knows me better than myself鈥?He can just make out with my eyes as to what I鈥檓 thinking of鈥?and when do I get mood-swings鈥?br>
9. He knows my likes and dislikes very well.. even though I鈥檝e not shared anything as such with him about me鈥?br>
He got a matured ideology鈥nd I guess, I am able to match up with him to some extent鈥?br>
But, What got into him鈥?br>
If it true that he likes me鈥hat kind of love is it鈥?
Pure %26amp; true love..
OR
Just a time-being lover鈥?br>
Somehow I feel that he seductive..
How do I know if its that way...
I'm just sooooooo confused...Whats with this guy....?
he obviously likes you ... but u won't know what kind of love it is w/out trying out the relationship!
GL:)Whats with this guy....?
Sooooooo boring to read such kinda things again...search for answers to some earlier similar q's....
1. u r so lucky i feel jealous that you found him first. 2. try flirting and doing that stuff back. 3. dont play games, because evven if he is mature, most guys dont understand the ';i want you thats y i am annoying you'; games.
hope i helped good luck!! d:
Well, all I can say here this is a pure %26amp; true love. He definitely loves you. But, do you love him? Think about that first and than do what you think is best to do!
Hope this helps!
He is in love with you go and propose him
From the information that you have given above, I tell you that he is the best partner for you.....
Love doesn,t have any negative things in it. So you need to become his lover rather than a girl friend.
You can share your day to day affairs with him more than any one. And its your choice whether to choose him as your life partner or not. But you must accepy him as a true lover now. I think you are satisfied with my advice.
aaaaaaaaa may be he likes u. by d way i didnt read all that stuff.
open your eyes girl!
he's so madly in love with you!!!
if you feel the same way about him then its perfect!! ( %26amp; ur very lucky and im very jealous! =p)
What's the best way to be a supportive girlfriend to a guy who has just begun a long journey to quit drinking?
I'm 24 and he's 26. He has been drinking a lot (atleast a 12 pack 5 days a week) for 2 years straight. I can't tolerate being with him when he's wasted because he gets crazy but I love being with him when he's sober. He wants to quit to keep me because we are in love. What should I do? How can I truly support him?What's the best way to be a supportive girlfriend to a guy who has just begun a long journey to quit drinking?
Good for you for wanting to support him.
I hope he is quitting for his own reasons, not just for you. If he quits just for you, it probably won't last.
Suggest AA - alcoholics anonymous - almost every city and town has meetings - ask him if he wants you to go with him for support. You can go to ';open'; meetings; ';closed'; meetings are just for the person in recovery.
He needs to be sure to get the right level of help - medical help when he first stops drinking (like the same day), counseling to see if he might need to go to a hospital or rehab.
These are all things that you can SUGGEST to him, but you can't MAKE him do anything. The best support you can give him is to stick with him and be patient when he has to go to meetings rather than spend time with you. It sounds like you already have the makings of a great support person. Just don't become his sole source of emotional support, don't become his counselor. He needs some sort of mentor or sponsor, someone who has been there, knows what addiction is like, and is in recovery.
If he's still drinking or starts again, and you can't tolerate being with him when he's wasted, then don't be with him. Leave. Set limits and boundaries, even if he's ';trying,'; because knowing he might lose you may be a motivation for him to stay in recovery - again, you shouldn't be the ONLY reason for him to quit, but it can help him see that he is going to lose things that he loves, to hit bottom, and that can help.
God bless and good luck.What's the best way to be a supportive girlfriend to a guy who has just begun a long journey to quit drinking?
Just don't drink, and stay away from events that involve drinking. It works.
You can go AA with him. Or if he checks into a rehab, be there for all the visiting hours.
Tell him how you feel, and listen to what he has to say about it. Find out why he does it and see if you can help fill the void.
Remember though, those who don't choose to allow help will never be helped. So don't waste to much of your life on someone who will not change by themselves even with aid.
Always tell him how good of a job he's doing, keep his moral boosted. But if it should ever happen that he goes back to drinking, don't blame yourself!!! Quitting and stayin off the booze is his decision and his alone
He should be going to AA and ALANON would be helpful for you in all your questions and any curves thrown your way. Give him positive comments and empathize when he wants a drink, but make it clear that he has to be continuing his sobriety. Also, if you are just friends, but may be more, make sure you take your time in moving on in the relationship, for both of your sakes. He can replace his addiction with you and neither of you will be happy.
opkay sweetie calm down i know this is hurting you and it is going to be hard. i just went through this with somebody whom i was with for the past three years so i know what your going through. just a little hint sweetie if he is doing this just so you wont leave him it is not going to work. he has to want to stop for himself not for the relationship. i tried doing what your doing. like always he went back to drinking.now that we are not together any more he still wants to stop drinking for our relationship. he may love you sweetie but he has to stop drinking for himself or it wont work no matter what you do to try to help.
He wants to quit because he wants to keep u? Heard that story before from the jerk my sister married and later divorced. He needs to quit for HIMSELF and for no other reason. Good luck. Sorry if I sound harsh but trust me im well versed on the subject of alcoholism.
The answer here is obvious and that is that he needs to get into an AA program and on your end there are plenty of programs that you can attend also. Talk to someone from your local AA and they can let you know. But again if he really is serious about quitting he really needs the support from AA and has to be willing to go through the program if he wants to get and remain sober. Good luck and God bless.
I'll say what everyone else is already saying, ';You can't help someone who won't help themselves';. Yes, it is a HARD battle, one I've personally went through also. It is one of the hardest things in the world, to overcome addiction, but, it CAN be done. I had to step back and take a look at my life, to realize all of the people I was hurting, most of it, unintentional. He definately needs to join a support group, like Alcoholics Anonymous. You have to re-arrange your emotional outlets. For example, when you guys get in an argument, he wants a couple of shots, right? He has to learn to channel his emotions in another way. I started out going for long (sometimes REALLY long) walks, to try to clear my head. I had to drop all of my ';friends'; who drank. He'll have to do the same, because temptation makes you very very weak. You CAN help him, but just let him know that you are there for him. Schedule activities that are in a non-alcoholic environment. Don't be too pushy, and don't throw up your relationship every time he fails. It takes more than just time. It takes commitment and understanding. Good luck to the both of you.
go to AA with him
Good for you for wanting to support him.
I hope he is quitting for his own reasons, not just for you. If he quits just for you, it probably won't last.
Suggest AA - alcoholics anonymous - almost every city and town has meetings - ask him if he wants you to go with him for support. You can go to ';open'; meetings; ';closed'; meetings are just for the person in recovery.
He needs to be sure to get the right level of help - medical help when he first stops drinking (like the same day), counseling to see if he might need to go to a hospital or rehab.
These are all things that you can SUGGEST to him, but you can't MAKE him do anything. The best support you can give him is to stick with him and be patient when he has to go to meetings rather than spend time with you. It sounds like you already have the makings of a great support person. Just don't become his sole source of emotional support, don't become his counselor. He needs some sort of mentor or sponsor, someone who has been there, knows what addiction is like, and is in recovery.
If he's still drinking or starts again, and you can't tolerate being with him when he's wasted, then don't be with him. Leave. Set limits and boundaries, even if he's ';trying,'; because knowing he might lose you may be a motivation for him to stay in recovery - again, you shouldn't be the ONLY reason for him to quit, but it can help him see that he is going to lose things that he loves, to hit bottom, and that can help.
God bless and good luck.What's the best way to be a supportive girlfriend to a guy who has just begun a long journey to quit drinking?
Just don't drink, and stay away from events that involve drinking. It works.
You can go AA with him. Or if he checks into a rehab, be there for all the visiting hours.
Tell him how you feel, and listen to what he has to say about it. Find out why he does it and see if you can help fill the void.
Remember though, those who don't choose to allow help will never be helped. So don't waste to much of your life on someone who will not change by themselves even with aid.
Always tell him how good of a job he's doing, keep his moral boosted. But if it should ever happen that he goes back to drinking, don't blame yourself!!! Quitting and stayin off the booze is his decision and his alone
He should be going to AA and ALANON would be helpful for you in all your questions and any curves thrown your way. Give him positive comments and empathize when he wants a drink, but make it clear that he has to be continuing his sobriety. Also, if you are just friends, but may be more, make sure you take your time in moving on in the relationship, for both of your sakes. He can replace his addiction with you and neither of you will be happy.
opkay sweetie calm down i know this is hurting you and it is going to be hard. i just went through this with somebody whom i was with for the past three years so i know what your going through. just a little hint sweetie if he is doing this just so you wont leave him it is not going to work. he has to want to stop for himself not for the relationship. i tried doing what your doing. like always he went back to drinking.now that we are not together any more he still wants to stop drinking for our relationship. he may love you sweetie but he has to stop drinking for himself or it wont work no matter what you do to try to help.
He wants to quit because he wants to keep u? Heard that story before from the jerk my sister married and later divorced. He needs to quit for HIMSELF and for no other reason. Good luck. Sorry if I sound harsh but trust me im well versed on the subject of alcoholism.
The answer here is obvious and that is that he needs to get into an AA program and on your end there are plenty of programs that you can attend also. Talk to someone from your local AA and they can let you know. But again if he really is serious about quitting he really needs the support from AA and has to be willing to go through the program if he wants to get and remain sober. Good luck and God bless.
I'll say what everyone else is already saying, ';You can't help someone who won't help themselves';. Yes, it is a HARD battle, one I've personally went through also. It is one of the hardest things in the world, to overcome addiction, but, it CAN be done. I had to step back and take a look at my life, to realize all of the people I was hurting, most of it, unintentional. He definately needs to join a support group, like Alcoholics Anonymous. You have to re-arrange your emotional outlets. For example, when you guys get in an argument, he wants a couple of shots, right? He has to learn to channel his emotions in another way. I started out going for long (sometimes REALLY long) walks, to try to clear my head. I had to drop all of my ';friends'; who drank. He'll have to do the same, because temptation makes you very very weak. You CAN help him, but just let him know that you are there for him. Schedule activities that are in a non-alcoholic environment. Don't be too pushy, and don't throw up your relationship every time he fails. It takes more than just time. It takes commitment and understanding. Good luck to the both of you.
go to AA with him
Help me guys!!! My girlfriend needs me and I don't know what to say.?
Ok, my girl is having problems. Her parents treated her badly and finally her dad told her to move out. Well, she stayed with me until she got her own place and now she's miserable because her mom is giving her a hard time. Her mom wanted this for her and told her this would be a good experience. Well now her mom is mad at her because she doesn't stay at home. She has responsibilities now and she's trying her best to please everyone while she's miserable. She told me last night that she missed her mom and wanted to go home because her apartment doesn't feel like home. Her roommate is a total ***** so that makes it harder on her. She is sad and I don't know how to make it better for her. I try to do things to take her mind off of it but I know she's only pretending to be happy. I love her deeply and I want to help her but I don't know how. This seems like something only she and her mom can work out. She loves her mom so much after all they have put her through and I don't get it.Help me guys!!! My girlfriend needs me and I don't know what to say.?
The best thing yu can do for her is be there for her. Be there when she needs to talk about it, or when she just wants to be held or just needs to cry! Be supportive of her in every way possible. She is at a hard time and she just needs you to be there for her. Just make sure she knows you love and care about her no matter what and you'll always be there if she needs any help!Help me guys!!! My girlfriend needs me and I don't know what to say.?
You just need to let her know you love her and will always be there for her! Treat her like a princess! Good luck
this depends on which is the true problem - home or roommate - if it is roommate then get another place or go home - if its home then get another roommate - you can not resolve her problems - she needs to know what is wrong and has to say it aloud.
Parents are control freaks, and her mum is trying to guilt her into feeling bad. Her home never felt like home either, especially if she was treated like crap and forced to move out. She's better off not living in that environment. If she went back, it would be worse than before.
sorry
Bring her flowers for a surprise date... girls love flowers... and surprises... like dinner and a movie date... this would help take her mind off the problems she is having... it would help even if it were for only a couple hours... maybe make her realize that things are not that bad for her
Just talk to her and help her any way that you can. Try to move with her. Good luck
Tell your girlfriend to cut her loses. Nothing well be improved upon my move back home. The best thing she could do try to plan out her new life. Away from her old home.
She's a damn lucky girl to have someone who cares.
I would say, sit her down and explain all that to her. Tell her that you always want to be there for her, but you dont know how, and you're afraid of losing her to this huge mess.
It could be that she might want some time off while she sorts things out with her parents. I dont know, but iam just saying it wouldnt be an impossible move on her part. So you should be willing to give her that space if she wants it. Chances are she will change her mind and come back to you for the support she knows you provide.
Its really between her and her parents, and theres nothing more for you to do except be an unbiased voice of reason, and always understanding. Help her to realize that she can have a life without her parents, and still love them. And also that things will work out in the end, but not at the expense of her health and happiness. She should know that its good for her to still love her mom, and to want her to be happy, but she also needs to know that her mom is a person, a human, and more than capable of selfish feelings and reactions. Sometimes the best way to love a parent in this situation is to love them from a distance, until they can find a way to cope, but always expressing your love to them.
She's allowed to set limits. ';mom i love you, but i have work and life right now, we'll have to talk about this later.'; ';mom, i know you're upset, and it tears me up that we're fighting, but i cant give up my life to make you happy, we have to work it out some other way'; ';i love you, we'll talk about this when you're not so angry';. Its okay to have limits.
She's a very very lucky girl to have you. Just stay the course and be there for her when she needs you.
She needs to patch things up with her mom tell her dad to kiss her *** and worry about collage right now,after all a education is Evey thing now days,the best thing you can do is to keep up what you are doing be there for her when she needs to talk or a shoulder to cry on .If she is strap for cash she probably wont take money from you as she sounds like a very proud person so what you can do in that regard is to secretly find out what bills she needs the most help on and take some money up with out her knowing and pay it or put some money on it to help catch up,if she ever finds out that you did just explain that she is your world and that's what people who love each other do for one another.Good luck partner hope everything works out for you and your girl.
A girl's relationship with her mother is deep and never ends. first you have to realize your role in this situation.your role in life as the male is to protect and provide for the female. A woman's role is to nuture and satify the needs of others around them. The best thing that you can do is let her go and talk to her mom. Her aprtment doesn't feel like home bcause she left her house without an inheritance or a birth right. Aother ting that you can do for her since she is miserable is to support her. Since you love her you have to e the wind beneath her wings and help her fly. This process will take a long time but in the long run she will be grateful for you and your support. In the meantime let her and her mom work this out. Just her and her mom. But support her like a beam and listen to her. always listen to her and only ofer suggesitons if she asks. A woman in a state of misery will be unpredictable. Support her witha kind word. A hug and ask how she is doing. and she will always need some alone time.And don't pester her with your needs. Try and be a moderater between her and her parents. If she goes to talk to them go with her. If she needs a job help her find one. Women can be a little confusing and demanding at times so help her out. She is starting college soon and that is great. Take the time maybe when she is quiet to tell her to focus on herself. Tell her to focus on college and on getting a job. tell her to focus on herself. And as for you think of this as her being pregant. instead of retaining water she retains stress. Instead of birthing a baby she birthing a dream that she has. But like pregnancy problems she is not getting a good amount of nutrition and food. instead of nutrition and food provide her with support and love. Let her know that someone does love her. Some girls face a ';dreamkiller'; everyday. One of those dream killers is influence and pressure. Instead of blocking out fears and insults that proibit there dreams they retain that also. So it is stuck in their mind like gum on the bottom of your shoe. and no matter how much you try to get it off there will always be that sticky residue. Let har go back home and if she is still treated badly then she should realize her mistake and heed the words that you have to say. Do not let her be afraid. comfort her and let her know that you and god are there.
if she go back to her parents house she will have the same problem again well you can help her by let her stay with you that the best way for you to help her, she have to move out one day better make it today, and if she and her parents are apart everyone can live happily it very good for all they can see each other once a week and there is no fight
dude listen to me
If u guys get married move far away from her parents
In till then be with her make her happy and forget her parents and support her
I'm sorry to hear all this. If you were older I'd say MARRY HER if youa re compatible. If you both wanted it but it seems that you guys want to stay dating still.
I personally would never go back to my parents after she's so miserable bc of their attitudes or her mom's. She has to learn that life is what it is and one day at a time sometimes one second at a time.
I'd also tell her to talk to her mom perhaps in a way that her mom would recognize she's making a mistake with her own daughter. Maybe have her say to her about many of the problems as if it was somebody else's just to see if her mom would get a clue!
Parents are not infallible. HOWEVER SHE CANT DO THINGS FOR OTHER PEOPLE'S SAKE. first. It has to be for her sake. She has to think of her first. Not selfishly but if she is healthy and can work and study and have a home she can call hers (yes she can make it her own comfort zone but she needs a few know how's).
I'd tell her to decorate her apt with things that would appear to be her mom's home so she feels perhaps more comfortable in her own place.
Tell her she has to leave mom's demands at mom's house and take care of herself. That does not mean she doesnt love her mom.
Its natural to miss one's parents. But circumstances many a time never change. If she was to go back to her mom's she will till be treated badly. Perhaps she needs to seek counseling so she comes face to face with the fact that she has abusive parents and she is used to it now. Its very easy to ignore reality and pretend our parents are good when they are not. Its protecting our self esteem and heart all the way. a basic instinct for survival too in today's world.
Have both her and mom go to a counselor maybe they still can work things out.
I think the only thing you can do to help your girlfriend is exactly what you are currently doing. You can be there to listen to her, but you can't fix her problems. She will have to do that herself. Most of the things she is facing are exactly what a lot of other people face.....young, just starting out on her own, insecure in her abilities to truly ';Be'; on her own and survive. One of the greatest lessons she will learn in life is that NO ONE can please everybody ALL the time. The best she can hope to do is please herself, and the rest will fall into place.
Those ARE a lot of issues to deal with all at once. Her best bet is to priortize them and deal with one at a time.
I would like to caution you not to do anything hasty, in an attempt to be her rescuer. It might seem like a good idea, but it would only hurt her in the long run. Tell her to give it some time with her mom.....as soon as her mom sees she can be an adult on her own, she will probably ease up.
Just stay in her corner, and try not to let her get to depressed, take the initiative to spend as much time as possible with her and reassure her that it will all be fine. I know this is superficial and doesn't really solve the problem but some problems can solve themselves with a little understanding just be supportive of what she wants and needs and you two will be fine.
GOOD LUCK !!
The best thing yu can do for her is be there for her. Be there when she needs to talk about it, or when she just wants to be held or just needs to cry! Be supportive of her in every way possible. She is at a hard time and she just needs you to be there for her. Just make sure she knows you love and care about her no matter what and you'll always be there if she needs any help!Help me guys!!! My girlfriend needs me and I don't know what to say.?
You just need to let her know you love her and will always be there for her! Treat her like a princess! Good luck
this depends on which is the true problem - home or roommate - if it is roommate then get another place or go home - if its home then get another roommate - you can not resolve her problems - she needs to know what is wrong and has to say it aloud.
Parents are control freaks, and her mum is trying to guilt her into feeling bad. Her home never felt like home either, especially if she was treated like crap and forced to move out. She's better off not living in that environment. If she went back, it would be worse than before.
sorry
Bring her flowers for a surprise date... girls love flowers... and surprises... like dinner and a movie date... this would help take her mind off the problems she is having... it would help even if it were for only a couple hours... maybe make her realize that things are not that bad for her
Just talk to her and help her any way that you can. Try to move with her. Good luck
Tell your girlfriend to cut her loses. Nothing well be improved upon my move back home. The best thing she could do try to plan out her new life. Away from her old home.
She's a damn lucky girl to have someone who cares.
I would say, sit her down and explain all that to her. Tell her that you always want to be there for her, but you dont know how, and you're afraid of losing her to this huge mess.
It could be that she might want some time off while she sorts things out with her parents. I dont know, but iam just saying it wouldnt be an impossible move on her part. So you should be willing to give her that space if she wants it. Chances are she will change her mind and come back to you for the support she knows you provide.
Its really between her and her parents, and theres nothing more for you to do except be an unbiased voice of reason, and always understanding. Help her to realize that she can have a life without her parents, and still love them. And also that things will work out in the end, but not at the expense of her health and happiness. She should know that its good for her to still love her mom, and to want her to be happy, but she also needs to know that her mom is a person, a human, and more than capable of selfish feelings and reactions. Sometimes the best way to love a parent in this situation is to love them from a distance, until they can find a way to cope, but always expressing your love to them.
She's allowed to set limits. ';mom i love you, but i have work and life right now, we'll have to talk about this later.'; ';mom, i know you're upset, and it tears me up that we're fighting, but i cant give up my life to make you happy, we have to work it out some other way'; ';i love you, we'll talk about this when you're not so angry';. Its okay to have limits.
She's a very very lucky girl to have you. Just stay the course and be there for her when she needs you.
She needs to patch things up with her mom tell her dad to kiss her *** and worry about collage right now,after all a education is Evey thing now days,the best thing you can do is to keep up what you are doing be there for her when she needs to talk or a shoulder to cry on .If she is strap for cash she probably wont take money from you as she sounds like a very proud person so what you can do in that regard is to secretly find out what bills she needs the most help on and take some money up with out her knowing and pay it or put some money on it to help catch up,if she ever finds out that you did just explain that she is your world and that's what people who love each other do for one another.Good luck partner hope everything works out for you and your girl.
A girl's relationship with her mother is deep and never ends. first you have to realize your role in this situation.your role in life as the male is to protect and provide for the female. A woman's role is to nuture and satify the needs of others around them. The best thing that you can do is let her go and talk to her mom. Her aprtment doesn't feel like home bcause she left her house without an inheritance or a birth right. Aother ting that you can do for her since she is miserable is to support her. Since you love her you have to e the wind beneath her wings and help her fly. This process will take a long time but in the long run she will be grateful for you and your support. In the meantime let her and her mom work this out. Just her and her mom. But support her like a beam and listen to her. always listen to her and only ofer suggesitons if she asks. A woman in a state of misery will be unpredictable. Support her witha kind word. A hug and ask how she is doing. and she will always need some alone time.And don't pester her with your needs. Try and be a moderater between her and her parents. If she goes to talk to them go with her. If she needs a job help her find one. Women can be a little confusing and demanding at times so help her out. She is starting college soon and that is great. Take the time maybe when she is quiet to tell her to focus on herself. Tell her to focus on college and on getting a job. tell her to focus on herself. And as for you think of this as her being pregant. instead of retaining water she retains stress. Instead of birthing a baby she birthing a dream that she has. But like pregnancy problems she is not getting a good amount of nutrition and food. instead of nutrition and food provide her with support and love. Let her know that someone does love her. Some girls face a ';dreamkiller'; everyday. One of those dream killers is influence and pressure. Instead of blocking out fears and insults that proibit there dreams they retain that also. So it is stuck in their mind like gum on the bottom of your shoe. and no matter how much you try to get it off there will always be that sticky residue. Let har go back home and if she is still treated badly then she should realize her mistake and heed the words that you have to say. Do not let her be afraid. comfort her and let her know that you and god are there.
if she go back to her parents house she will have the same problem again well you can help her by let her stay with you that the best way for you to help her, she have to move out one day better make it today, and if she and her parents are apart everyone can live happily it very good for all they can see each other once a week and there is no fight
dude listen to me
If u guys get married move far away from her parents
In till then be with her make her happy and forget her parents and support her
I'm sorry to hear all this. If you were older I'd say MARRY HER if youa re compatible. If you both wanted it but it seems that you guys want to stay dating still.
I personally would never go back to my parents after she's so miserable bc of their attitudes or her mom's. She has to learn that life is what it is and one day at a time sometimes one second at a time.
I'd also tell her to talk to her mom perhaps in a way that her mom would recognize she's making a mistake with her own daughter. Maybe have her say to her about many of the problems as if it was somebody else's just to see if her mom would get a clue!
Parents are not infallible. HOWEVER SHE CANT DO THINGS FOR OTHER PEOPLE'S SAKE. first. It has to be for her sake. She has to think of her first. Not selfishly but if she is healthy and can work and study and have a home she can call hers (yes she can make it her own comfort zone but she needs a few know how's).
I'd tell her to decorate her apt with things that would appear to be her mom's home so she feels perhaps more comfortable in her own place.
Tell her she has to leave mom's demands at mom's house and take care of herself. That does not mean she doesnt love her mom.
Its natural to miss one's parents. But circumstances many a time never change. If she was to go back to her mom's she will till be treated badly. Perhaps she needs to seek counseling so she comes face to face with the fact that she has abusive parents and she is used to it now. Its very easy to ignore reality and pretend our parents are good when they are not. Its protecting our self esteem and heart all the way. a basic instinct for survival too in today's world.
Have both her and mom go to a counselor maybe they still can work things out.
I think the only thing you can do to help your girlfriend is exactly what you are currently doing. You can be there to listen to her, but you can't fix her problems. She will have to do that herself. Most of the things she is facing are exactly what a lot of other people face.....young, just starting out on her own, insecure in her abilities to truly ';Be'; on her own and survive. One of the greatest lessons she will learn in life is that NO ONE can please everybody ALL the time. The best she can hope to do is please herself, and the rest will fall into place.
Those ARE a lot of issues to deal with all at once. Her best bet is to priortize them and deal with one at a time.
I would like to caution you not to do anything hasty, in an attempt to be her rescuer. It might seem like a good idea, but it would only hurt her in the long run. Tell her to give it some time with her mom.....as soon as her mom sees she can be an adult on her own, she will probably ease up.
Just stay in her corner, and try not to let her get to depressed, take the initiative to spend as much time as possible with her and reassure her that it will all be fine. I know this is superficial and doesn't really solve the problem but some problems can solve themselves with a little understanding just be supportive of what she wants and needs and you two will be fine.
GOOD LUCK !!
I like a guy that my ';friend'; also may like...what to do?
so there's this girl who I've known for 3 years and we used to be best friends but we gradually drifted away
she's very popular and preppy and a big flirt
no guy is offlimits to her including guys with girlfriends that are her friends
she's extremely manipulative to her friends and mean to her enemies
so I decided to stay on her good side but not be within manipulating limit.
I started to like this guy a few months ago.
but shed flirt with him although she liked someone else
I told her I liked him so shed stop
she did
but for the past week I've been visiting family and not been at school
my extremely good friend told me that she and him have now became all buddy buddy on each other.
to the point where she has a picture of him in her locker
they aren't a couple and I haven't directly asked her if she likes him but I will when I get back
but at this point im so angry that she's putting a move on him even though she knows I like him
we r good enough friends that she shouldn't do this
I just have no idea how to handle the situation.I like a guy that my ';friend'; also may like...what to do?
you tell your friend what shes doing if she knows that you like this guy then shes really not a friend at all then
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then your tell the guys whats up lol
she's very popular and preppy and a big flirt
no guy is offlimits to her including guys with girlfriends that are her friends
she's extremely manipulative to her friends and mean to her enemies
so I decided to stay on her good side but not be within manipulating limit.
I started to like this guy a few months ago.
but shed flirt with him although she liked someone else
I told her I liked him so shed stop
she did
but for the past week I've been visiting family and not been at school
my extremely good friend told me that she and him have now became all buddy buddy on each other.
to the point where she has a picture of him in her locker
they aren't a couple and I haven't directly asked her if she likes him but I will when I get back
but at this point im so angry that she's putting a move on him even though she knows I like him
we r good enough friends that she shouldn't do this
I just have no idea how to handle the situation.I like a guy that my ';friend'; also may like...what to do?
you tell your friend what shes doing if she knows that you like this guy then shes really not a friend at all then
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then your tell the guys whats up lol
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