Girls:How can i deal with the fact that i'll never have a girlfriend?

I have a receding hairline that goes back into the corners of my forehead and it's starting to show more and more the older i get.so it's kinda like a V shape now


I have a moustache that's not too thick and not too thin


I have somewhat of a big forehead,but it's not HUGE


I have small dark brown eyes


I have black hair


I have bags under my eyes from sleep deprivation,i've had them for years


I sometimes have a mad/tired look on my face


Not very social,but i will talk when i need to,i'm socially awkward


I don't like to party and drink,only every now and then


I think i think too much





I guess the only thing i have going for me is that i'm a nice guy,and usually treat women with a lot of respect.








I want HONEST answers,don't hold back i want you to tell me the truth,because i'm 18 and i've never had a gf and i've never kissed a girl either.I think most people would say that i have a boring personality and i always keep to myself and i like keeping to myself and not talking much to other people,because honestly people in general annoy me,but i still want a gf to be there for me,i'm just tired of being alone ALL THE TIME.i don't know if i'll ever muster up the courage to ask a girl';do you want to be my girlfriend?';.i'm afraid if i continue like this i'm never gonna get anything,but i don't wanna change for someone else.i know people say';don't worry you'll meet someone eventually or you'll get a gf when you least expect it';.but i'm looking at this realistically and the odds of that happening with the way i am are really slim,and i don't wanna be 30 years old and barely getting my first gf and kiss when it's something that most people do in their early teens.BE HONEST this way so i know if i should just forget about the whole relationship/dating thing and just focus on other things in life.because i'm tired of being depressed about this constantly(almost daily) and want honest opinions.i mean i want to move forward with my life and if i'm depressed about this ,it's only gonna get in the way with my life.And if i forget about this i can at least still find other ways to spend my time,instead of having it always on my mind.





Please, i want completely honest answers.





Thanks...and sorry if this is kinda longGirls:How can i deal with the fact that i'll never have a girlfriend?
First of all--you need to work on your confidence and self-esteem! People, not just ladies, are drawn to others who are confident and think well of themselves. I like to think that noone is better than I am, nor am I better than anyone else. Confidence is key, and nobody likes being around depressed people (you know that already, though).





You probably do think too much. Perhaps get more active, and do something physical like running or swimming. You could be alone while you do these activities, and it would work out your racing thoughts at the same time as strengthening your body. There is something crippling about being stuck in your own mind. It's limiting you; you need to expand your horizons. Get involved in other ways, too. Volunteering is a great way to get out of your own mundane problems. Try something like Habitat for Humanity, where you can be helping others out and be active. If you could exert the same amount of energy helping out other people as you do thinking, you'd be so much more interesting to be around (for both guys and girls).





Your looks are not something that you can change. You can improve them by brightening your spirit, and working on your image. If you are 18, and have a receding hairline, I say to just cut it super super short (the shortest a buzz cut will allow, not razored). Also, facial hair on a teenager always looks creepy, especially a moustache. If you are particularly attached to your moustache, get over it. No girl likes to kiss a boy with a furry lip, period.





Are you going to college next year? If so, good for you. You might find that a change of scenery helps to facilitate the change that you so desperately want in your life. Just remember that even if you do find a girl to date, that noone can make you feel good about yourself if you don't feel good about you. Noone is going to truly love you until you learn to love yourself! It sounds cliche and corny, but it's the truth.





Good luck. It sounds like you're a nice guy, and you will make some girl happy someday.





(P.S. Perk up, when you least expect it you'll find someone special. My husband and I found eachother, and we are an unlikely pair--I'm 13 years younger than him, a college grad and he's a cook.)Girls:How can i deal with the fact that i'll never have a girlfriend?
Ask your doctor for Avodart, it will regrow your hair, and put you back in the game.
You will have a girlfriend! It will happen.
Well.... get enough sleep, smile more, socialize more, shave your moustache. You're overthinking this, so obv u do think too much:p





but seriously... Just talk nicely to a girl, but don't act too shy. Approach her and start talking to her. Girls like for a guy to be assertive and not too shy to talk to her or ask her out.
Your answer is in your very long post. You're only 18 and severely depressed and you say you have been for a long time. This is NOT the answer you want to hear but you need to see a professional therapist. No matter what answers you get here, they won't be a magic bullet to solve clinical depression. Good luck to you...
be thankful you are not lumbered with these b'witches who'll make your life a living hell.
If you want to increase your confidence, start by excersising, jogging is good or join the gym. If your fit, you won't be so self-concious. Hope that helps
Don't worry you've got years before you turn 30. Things may not happen until your 20's and that is totally fine and normal, so for now concentrate on other things and let that portion of your life evolve naturally.
Basically, your not going to be single for ever.


The key to the whole ';My hair line is receding'; is just going bald.


Workout, Be healthy, and be Clean cut.





If you truly dont want to be single forever, then do something about it.





The honest truth is, IF you are by any chance going to be Gf-less


for the rest of your life, that is a good thing. Just dont stress..





The key to getting a girlfriend is being confident with your mind and body.


Self Esteem, being the absolute AlphaMale.





Have a sense of humor, and dont be a dick.


Its quite easy, just.... understanding how to get into a girls mind is hard.


Discover how they think, and ALWAYS listen.





Always.
i was like this too. i never had a girlfriend till i was 19 and i was depressed about it. but really girlfriends are too much of an expense when you are young and they demand too much effing attention. my advice is to just get out there more and be a social person it's the only way you will meet anyone, you're never gonna meet anybody if you sit at home complaining and wondering why nobody likes you. another thing, girls are all shallow so give them what they want go to the gym and work on your body and get in shape and look into some sort of hair treatment.





goodluck little buddy
Try Being More Social.


Us Women Like Men Who Love To Listen And Talk.


Always Bring Up Any Kind Of Subject When There Is Nothing Else To Talk About.


Try A New Hairstyle; People Change The Way They Are Just With A Small Change Like Cutting; Trimming; Coloring Their Hair; etc.


Always Smile. I Know I Always Do; And That's Mainly The Reason Many People Talk To Me; Because I'm Always With A Positive Look On My Face.





Making Small Changes In your Lifestyle Will Help You Out.





Hope These Tips Help(:
You sound like a great guy...do you like to read? Try going to a library and see if there are any girls there that you would like to speak to and if so..just go and say hi..and ask what she is reading..you will get a signal from her if she is interested. Just don't give up hope. and Good Luck..
Learn to love money more. Think of all the money you'll save without a wife, family or steady girlfriend. Once you've saved, invested your money and become rich you will be able to rent all the girlfriends you can handle.
I'm all about staying true to yourself, unless of course your behavior is preventing you from being happy or healthy. In this case, I'm going to say your shy and low self esteem are what's keeping you from getting the girl of your dreams, nothing else. Girls, no matter what you look like, are attracted to confidence. Someone who has some pride in themselves. No one is asking you to be perfect or even love yourself 100% of the time (I don't think anyone can do that).





Just know that for all your faults and flaws, there IS someone out there that will think they're beautiful because it's what makes you, YOU. I know my answer is super cliche, but it's the truth.





';Realistically'; you are not on the path to loneliness! You're only eighteen!! That's only a small sliver of you're life and not to mention at a time where girls aren't sure what they want or still think the best boyfriend is one with money and six pack. For every girl out there looking for Mr. Model, there are twice as many looking for a good, honest MAN to love them for all THEIR flaws.





As far as getting what you want when it comes to women. Take some pride in yourself. You're obviously not happy with your physical appearance, so take the steps necessary to improve what you can. Eat right for healthy skin, get more sleep to get rid of those bags and if you're hairline is receding, shave it all off! There are plenty of girls who like the shaved look, including myself! When you take care of yourself, that is one way you're showing you have pride in yourself and that you have confidence.





Don't worry about asking someone outright to be your partner. Relationships take time. Instead of trying to be smooth, be who you are. Be nice. Complement a girl. Tell her she looks nice. She might not give you her number, but you'll make her day, I guarantee it. Making someone feel good will make you feel good. Keep it up, and soon when you smile at a girl or compliment a girl, she'll respond and there will be a spark. Find these girls at arenas that you enjoy. Like music? Go see a concert. Like books? Hit up that public library. Going to school, troll the cafe on or around campus.





There are plenty of girls out there who feel just as bad about themselves and may look like a million bucks, it's about how you feel about yourself that decides what your limits and experiences will be.





I know this is all easier said then done, but love and relationships require a little work. And if you're not willing to put in a little work to find her you wont get the opportunity to put that effort into a real, loving relationship.





Good luck!!!!!!!!!!
Do you want someone to agree with you? Sorry, not me. You're 18. Your brain is still developing and you are changing whether you like it or not, so you can't throw in the towel yet. I know it's annoying when people tell you it's just teenage angst or whatever, but instead of griping about your problems put the energy towards improving yourself as a person. I don't want to patronize you, I'm not that much older, but really this is what you have to do.





Sometimes it's as simple as figuring out an interest. If you like anime conventions, hit em up man. Single ladies. It could be alligator wrestling, book club, soccer, mathletes, whatever. Soon enough, you'll meet a girl with a similar interest. Saying you ';can't muster up the courage to ask a girl out'; is such a cop out. It's not like you have to ask some random girl out of the blue. Let yourself make friends first, it's easier to open yourself up to a friend than a stranger.





Also, it will always be on your mind. Try not to worry. People pick up on your energy so try to make a positive energy. Step one... try to make this your own responsibility and personal mission. Forget your excuses and complaints.
Well if you look the way you say, then you have no choice but to try something new...


get a new look... there is nothing wrong with changing your appearance in order attract someone...


You're only 18 anyway, but here's a tip...go through some magazines and find pix of dudes that have similar features and follow their look...check out a surf magazine, or skateboard mag...the dudes usually look pretty cool...try to be a little more sociable, chill with the ';deep in thought'; action,and get some sleep to rid the bags...but don't over do the ';make over'; or it will totally not be you and others will notice...small personal changes can make a big difference in appearance...and don't worry about girls right now, they're expensive anyway...hehehe,....good luck!
Hi...





Why so much pressure placed on kids today with sex, relationships, etc......you are only 18 you have a lifetime in front of you. Be yourself, don't try and be something your not. You want someone who is interested, really interested in you. Looks go as we get older so there needs to be something other than looks to attract someone. Quit worrying and just live your life and enjoy the ride.





I am much older than you and I use to worry so much once it hit 30..it's really not worth it as you will miss out on so much in life and feel depressed. Just remember, no one wants to be alone.. some people remain single and some married..that does not mean it's bad. What is bad is not living your life to it's fullest. We all grow and learn from our mistakes, whilst it is good to get other opinions...it's your life and no one else's.





OK, I'll be brutally honest...I think you need to get out and meet people.





If you lack confident, social skills take up public speaking. A good way to start is to join 'Toastmasters' they are located all around the globe. http://www.toastmasters.org/


You will find not only your social networking will improve but it will help later in the workplace no matter what profession you work..being able to interact comfortably and confidently with peers.





Next, I would be joining a club whether it be tennis, bush walking, ten-pin bowling league...where ever your interest lies or take up volunteering that way you are also giving back to the community and enriching your life. No one really meets people by staying at home and not getting out.





Life is too short..enjoy the ride.
Hair dont mean ****, when the last time you heard a girl saying ';Yeah he so amazing but most of all he has hair!'; like never? you need to go out more get your friends and go out, i know it feel awkward and hard and you will so not be bothered a lot fo the time but force your sell, when you force your self to go out it teaches you to be socially even when you don't want to be and that is an amazing tool used by therapist for people with low self esteem, why the difference between now and 5 years? absolutely nothing if you don't change today.





we are not traveling to the future but creating it, and you have the power to create yours. by not going out you starve your future self of a good time and chances to get a GF, if you really want a GF you would:





start working out, even if you are fit its always good to work out,





find a career you want to do and stick with it





Go out more and make your self socialize more(even if it dose feel extremely awkward try to think ';why is this awkward? is it me that is awkward? what have i done? what can i do to fix it?'; basically going out and getting yourself into situations that you would never get yourself into at home





Go college/Move out





Get a job, a good way to interact with people from all walks of life from young and old.





Basically the things im saying are from a list i made once, i decided to make a list of all the unattractive things i do. and then all the things that girl find attractive in a man. Once you done that you go a target a list to aim for, its a way to get you more confident and noticed by the opposite sex. Now im not saying it easy some time it takes years if you like me to put it into practice but the rewards you get...life long happiness.....Love.....children.....sex. you see where im coming from, i mean i know its nice to wallow around in self pity and dis belief and low self esteem\confidence i been there, but how long have you been like that for? where has it got you? asking the same questions? do something spontaneous get outside the loop which is depression, low self esteem\confidence and just do something you wouldn't then you start to ask different question and that is where life become more for filling and give it purpose,





i used to think i would be better off being by myself and try to avoid most social situations because i wasn't any good at them but it just leaves you feeling unconnected and that not what life is about dude. just go out there and not be yourself, another trick therapists use is to pretend you a character get pen and paper and write down all the things you want this character to be loud? funny? caring? not afraid? just write them down and when you go out just hide your real self behind the chariter that way if some one says something offensive you know its about the character and not you! some of them techniques work better for some than other so dont expect it to be a wonder cure. any way i think that what pretty much helped me back then.


hope it helps you dude!!