Im 18 and never been in a relationship. Im a shy person especially around girls. But I do hang out with friends. Its just a horrible feeling when everyone including my 14 year old brother has someone in their lives and I am still alone. Like I said I have never had a girlfriend and I really want someone. If I do find someone, I will be the happiest I have been in a while, but I don't know how to start.
I don't know how I am going to feel on another Valentine's day knowing I have never had a girlfriend.How does an 18 year old shy guy get a girlfriend?
shyness is cute, if she starts trying to find an excuse to touch you even just a poke or a pinch, find an excuse to give her a hug it's okay to be a little embarrassed after you hug her, it's so sweet! Help her with her homework a few times, if she tries to get close to you while you're helping her, Like if you're bent over a book and your heads are close lean a little until you just barely feel her hair in yours if she pulls away just be all like, ';Oh sorry,'; and have a little smile. Do you like a girl? For Valentines Day get her a massive box of chocolates, and ask if she wants to study with you later. Because you're shy you will probably do better in one-on-one situation without you're friends to embarrass you or her friends to giggle and make you feel awkward.
Yeah, I know the Valentines day feeling, I've never had a bf for Valentines day none of my friends know I hate Febuary 14th for that reason. I just go around giving candy to everyone and avoid hallways where new couples are kissing. I find it works great.How does an 18 year old shy guy get a girlfriend?
Dude girls suck. You need to get a good job and get yourself a Lotus Elise or a nice BWM and life is complete.
If you are that desperate you can go and take a seat in your local starbucks or do what most retards do and poke randoms on facebook.
You dont
Get down the gym and 'beast' yourself, not only will this make you more attractive to females but you will also grow in self confidence and find it easier to approach the opposite sex.
Good luck.
aw, I'll be your girlfriend ;)
try and find a girl that you like...start talking to her...its not like shes going to bite your head off...start to get to know her and then ask her out
Learn to be funny - have a few drinks and don't be **** around women.
Don't be afriad to talk to complete female strangers (Rose West and Karen Matthews excluded).
And Valentines Day? Give your self a slap man - its a corporate money making americanised rip off - me and my good lady (of 7 years) stop in witha chinese - an little drink and some quality dvds.
You have to find that person that interest you and take that leap and get to know them. Ask questions. It will show a girl you have interest in her.
just stand at the bar and wait for a girl to start talking to you, but beware you may wait a long time? try talking about your favourite football team and see how that goes or simply ask them what they are doing there and are they with someone special, don`t forget girls are human as well.
Do you have a girl in mind?
Talk to her, make her laugh, ask her about herself.
When you get comfortable talking, ask her to coffee, bowling, or something fun that you can talk and laugh over. Making girls laugh is a key I think. My favorite traits in guys are when they can make me laugh/smile.
I know you're shy, but you just have to open up. No one can tell you exactly how to do it, you just have to take a deep breath and go for it.
Ask her on a date somewhere and hopefully it will go from there.
Good luck!
1. be yourself
2. dont rush it.. you ';Cant find love'; love finds you.. when you least expect it. People who look for love almost always find the wrong thing.
3. be happy people are most attractive when they are happy.
4. apply yourself at school or your job.
5. surround yourself with friends.. dont look or expect more.. one day you might find one of those friends is more than a friend. Friends are fantastic place for love to grow.
6. if you like someone .. smile and say hi. if your shy.. do it anyway. face your fears.. and they disipate.. in meeting people you have nothing to fear but fear itself.. i know churchill said that.. but it's very appropriate here.
I used to be extremely shy around people that I didn't know, especially guys! But this year it all changed. At the beginning of the year, this guy started flirting with me and he would ask me questions and stuff and make me feel comfortable so I opened up to him. He made me realize that I have a lot to offer! He turned out to be not such a great guy, but I'm secretly thankful to him to this day for helping me come out of my shell. Along with some other influences, I'm now not a shy person at all. I had my first boyfriend this year (also not such a good guy, but now I know not to be so desperate and what to look for) and am I'm finally opening up to people. I just take risks and realize that people aren't as judgmental as I thought they were. I'm not inferior, and I don't care what other people think as long as I like who I am. But the big thing that changed me was that I realized you only live once, so make the most of it. If a cute girl started talking to you, you'd probably be flattered! So make yourself look good (have confidence, don't doubt yourself!) and talk to girls. We are happy when we are approached! This sounds bad, but I started out talking to sort of weird guys and worked my way up to classier ones. Now I'm going to winter formal with a guy that I'd been too shy to talk to but finally got the courage! Even if he'd said no, at least I tried and if I hadn't, nothing would've happened. I'm only 15, but this is what I'm living by and I'm a much happier person than I used to be. When I was shy, people would think I was stuck up. Now they think I'm friendly, and who doesn't like a friendly person? Don't try too hard with one person...talk to a bunch and see who you like, but never lose that quiet person within you because it's who you are. Mine comes out from time to time but it makes me more unique than the air heads that just talk to talk. Good luck!!
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Sunday, November 21, 2010
My girlfriend cheated on me and is now pregnant (Long Question)?
Please either take the time to read the entire question, or don't answer. Thank you.
Here's the deal. I am 25 and my girlfriend is 23. I have a college education and a stable job in an office environment. I understand the ramifications of having sex. Please don’t give me any answers like, “You shouldn’t be having sex if you aren’t ready for a kid.“ I am fully capable of supporting a child, I just don’t want to, especially if it isn’t mine. If it is mine, I will support it.
I've been with my girlfriend about 10 months. We've known each other about 3 years. She decided we should take a break on or around March 15th and we broke up on March 30th of this year. She went to the doctor yesterday (not an OBGYN) and he said she was approximately 5 and 1/2 weeks pregnant. I just found out today that on the night we took a break or possibly the day after, she got drunk because she was feeling upset and wound up having sex with this guy. (Her roommate’s brother) I’ve met this guy twice, he knew we were together.
--It is my opinion that there are no such things as drunken sexual accidents. I've been blitzed out of my mind on many occasions with girls who wanted to have sex with me and I didn't do it. I don't believe that you can accidentally have sex with someone. I'd like some opinions on this. Back to the story.--
She doesn't know exactly what type of test the doctor performed but they were urine tests. Neither she nor I can remember the last time we had sex. Without knowing the specific type of test, I realize it's hard to determine a margin of error but I'm hoping the someone on Y/A will have some expertise in this field and could maybe help me out. I don't remember if the most recent time we had sex was more than 6 weeks ago but I know we haven‘t had sex since on or around March 15th. I've been straining to remember this all day, I just can't. Neither can she. Obviously there is a chance that this kid could be mine. We were not using contraception, just doing the pull out method. There was never one time when I finished inside of her. I realize that sometimes the ejaculate kind of squirts out of the penis before the orgasm itself. She DID have a period in March, starting on the 8th. I know there is a remote chance of being pregnant and still having your next period.
I want to know how I should proceed here. I’ve looked at prenatal paternity tests, but that’s still several weeks away and I don’t know if she’d want to do that anyway. This guy is a deadbeat. He already has a kid, no job that I know of, etc.. Your typical trailer trash kind of guy. My girlfriend has had a troubled life. She isn’t trashy, I think she just makes mistakes because of what she witnessed growing up. Her family of origin is full of chaos, and to some degree I guess I should have known something like this would eventually happen.
I’ve repeatedly asked her how she could do this to me, how she didn’t realize what she was doing, all the usual questions you would ask in this situation. All she could say was I was drunk, I made a mistake, and I’m sorry. As you can imagine, that’s not good enough for me. I’ve treated this girl like a princess. Her last boyfriend cheated on her with her best friend and now she turns around and does it to me. Do you guys consider this cheating? Technically we weren’t together, but it’s only one day apart at the most.
Now for the really messed up part. Last week I contacted her telling her that I wanted to work through our issues. She said she felt the same way. We spent the week together from last Wednesday the 8th until this Sunday the 12th. She stayed at my house 3 nights out of 5 days. The last thing she said to me on Sunday was “I love you. Call me tomorrow.” Then on Monday she avoided me all day saying she wasn’t feeling well. She said she went to sleep at like 8 pm. Same story yesterday. After she went to the doctor, she said she was feeling crappy and tired and she went to bed at 6:45pm. And I truly don’t believe that she would have ever told me she slept with that guy if she didn’t turn up pregnant.
But as much as all this hurts me, I still love her. Should I try to salvage our relationship and be supportive of her pregnancy even though it may not be mine? What if I do stay supportive and then it’s not mine…do I just walk away from her? I’ve always wanted my own family one day, I just don’t want to be with a girl who already has kids. Nothing against girls who do, I just want to start a family with someone who doesn’t already have kids. What if we don’t try to work it out, and it does turn out to be my kid. I don’t want to put my child through the stress of being from a broken home. I came from a broken home, and so did every single on of my friends. Her parents got divorced, then remarried, but based on what I know of their relationship, they should not be together.
I really appreciate your help with this matter. I will award best answer within one day's time. If you feel coMy girlfriend cheated on me and is now pregnant (Long Question)?
Well, let's start with why you guys took a break. Did you initiate the 'break' or did she? Was it a heated argument that led to the decision? The reason why I ask is because as a woman I feel compelled to tell you that if the girlfriend initiates a 'break' in the relationship she is really just keeping her options open. She wants to see if there are other guys out there, but is too scared of losing what could be a 'good thing'. That could explain why she ended up in bed with another guy so soon after the 'break'. And since it's someone she knows, it's safe to say she pretty much planned it or at the very least knew this guy wanted her.
As for the pregnancy, there's no easy answer to that. It's entirely possible that your father, but in my experience with the pull out method it's unlikely if you are as smart a guy as you sound. My husband and I practiced the pull out method for over three years successfully because he knows his body and his limits (he's 27 years old). I became pregnant on birth control when he was actually ejaculating inside (we welcome our unexpected surprise). I don't believe in the pre-ejaculate theory, there is no valid scientific evidence to even suggest that live sperm are in pre-c*m. It really just acts as a lubrication for intercourse. Women who become pregnant from the pull out method have partners who never truly pulled out! This scummy guy, who I'm assuming she also had unprotected sex with, is a more likely candidate for paternity and it sounds like she knows it.
I can completely understand why you want to support her and work things out, especially if this child is yours. At this point, all you can do is go on your instincts and feelings until paternity can be resolved.My girlfriend cheated on me and is now pregnant (Long Question)?
If the child isn't yours, you will resent it all your life, and her as well. Don't make up your mind on what to do until you are certain that this is your child.
if u truly love her u wont walk away from her! i kno that she had sex withn som! else but u all wern together and im sure she really regrets it! also since she is pregnant dont put her through any more stress than she is already in. i kno its hard on you but i doubt it is this other guys kid and anyways he means nothing to her obviously if she had sex with him while she was drunk! i am 33 weeks pregnant and my baby daddy broke up with me the night i told him i was pregnant it was the hardest the i have ever been through and i was heart broken but we are slowly working things out and we are best friends we were together for 3 yrs and we still dearly love eachother dont leave her if u truly love her she needs u now more than ever %26amp; i know its gonna b hard to hear this but if you can be a better dad to this baby than tht other guy than u would mean the world to that baby i know that sounds lik a hard thing to do but if it is the other guys and you know he aint gonna support the baby than you step up and support the baby and support the girl u love! i hope this helped and gud luck!!!
hey,
well to start off i am no expert whatsoever but it seems like you are in a bit of a ditch,
if it is your child and you are willing to support it, you should talk to her and try to work out if living together and staying together for child's sake is a good idea. if you don't love her or have any reason for staying together then it will obviously not work even if you want it to, but if you love her and will accept a lot of what goes on the relationship for the child that is great and you should of you can.
the guy she is with sounds very bad news. he might be a great guy but if she doesn't remember what happened and it all comes down to a drunk night full of sex then is he really worth it and would she of slept with him if she wasn't drunk? i agree with you that there is no such thing as drunk sex, you do remember what happened and i don't think you can forget a thing like sex, even if you are drunk
i think there is a small chance that the child could be yours but if it has been that long since you guys had sex that you cant remember then im not too sure, don't take my word for it thought.
maybe if you explain to her that if you are the father you are willing to support the child and will help her through the pregnancy even if she doesn't want you there but i really do think if you are the father you have to help out the child no matter what you think of the mum.
so after all the ramble i think you just need to find out if the child is yours and if it is be there to support the child and the mother, if it is not yours then give her support if she needs it but don't make it entirely your problem as it isn't but still be there if she needs. because you have been in a relationship with her i think its important to support her and allow her to talk to you about what has happened.
i hope it helped, it might be just a long ramble on and if so im sorry...
good luck :-)
Here's the deal. I am 25 and my girlfriend is 23. I have a college education and a stable job in an office environment. I understand the ramifications of having sex. Please don’t give me any answers like, “You shouldn’t be having sex if you aren’t ready for a kid.“ I am fully capable of supporting a child, I just don’t want to, especially if it isn’t mine. If it is mine, I will support it.
I've been with my girlfriend about 10 months. We've known each other about 3 years. She decided we should take a break on or around March 15th and we broke up on March 30th of this year. She went to the doctor yesterday (not an OBGYN) and he said she was approximately 5 and 1/2 weeks pregnant. I just found out today that on the night we took a break or possibly the day after, she got drunk because she was feeling upset and wound up having sex with this guy. (Her roommate’s brother) I’ve met this guy twice, he knew we were together.
--It is my opinion that there are no such things as drunken sexual accidents. I've been blitzed out of my mind on many occasions with girls who wanted to have sex with me and I didn't do it. I don't believe that you can accidentally have sex with someone. I'd like some opinions on this. Back to the story.--
She doesn't know exactly what type of test the doctor performed but they were urine tests. Neither she nor I can remember the last time we had sex. Without knowing the specific type of test, I realize it's hard to determine a margin of error but I'm hoping the someone on Y/A will have some expertise in this field and could maybe help me out. I don't remember if the most recent time we had sex was more than 6 weeks ago but I know we haven‘t had sex since on or around March 15th. I've been straining to remember this all day, I just can't. Neither can she. Obviously there is a chance that this kid could be mine. We were not using contraception, just doing the pull out method. There was never one time when I finished inside of her. I realize that sometimes the ejaculate kind of squirts out of the penis before the orgasm itself. She DID have a period in March, starting on the 8th. I know there is a remote chance of being pregnant and still having your next period.
I want to know how I should proceed here. I’ve looked at prenatal paternity tests, but that’s still several weeks away and I don’t know if she’d want to do that anyway. This guy is a deadbeat. He already has a kid, no job that I know of, etc.. Your typical trailer trash kind of guy. My girlfriend has had a troubled life. She isn’t trashy, I think she just makes mistakes because of what she witnessed growing up. Her family of origin is full of chaos, and to some degree I guess I should have known something like this would eventually happen.
I’ve repeatedly asked her how she could do this to me, how she didn’t realize what she was doing, all the usual questions you would ask in this situation. All she could say was I was drunk, I made a mistake, and I’m sorry. As you can imagine, that’s not good enough for me. I’ve treated this girl like a princess. Her last boyfriend cheated on her with her best friend and now she turns around and does it to me. Do you guys consider this cheating? Technically we weren’t together, but it’s only one day apart at the most.
Now for the really messed up part. Last week I contacted her telling her that I wanted to work through our issues. She said she felt the same way. We spent the week together from last Wednesday the 8th until this Sunday the 12th. She stayed at my house 3 nights out of 5 days. The last thing she said to me on Sunday was “I love you. Call me tomorrow.” Then on Monday she avoided me all day saying she wasn’t feeling well. She said she went to sleep at like 8 pm. Same story yesterday. After she went to the doctor, she said she was feeling crappy and tired and she went to bed at 6:45pm. And I truly don’t believe that she would have ever told me she slept with that guy if she didn’t turn up pregnant.
But as much as all this hurts me, I still love her. Should I try to salvage our relationship and be supportive of her pregnancy even though it may not be mine? What if I do stay supportive and then it’s not mine…do I just walk away from her? I’ve always wanted my own family one day, I just don’t want to be with a girl who already has kids. Nothing against girls who do, I just want to start a family with someone who doesn’t already have kids. What if we don’t try to work it out, and it does turn out to be my kid. I don’t want to put my child through the stress of being from a broken home. I came from a broken home, and so did every single on of my friends. Her parents got divorced, then remarried, but based on what I know of their relationship, they should not be together.
I really appreciate your help with this matter. I will award best answer within one day's time. If you feel coMy girlfriend cheated on me and is now pregnant (Long Question)?
Well, let's start with why you guys took a break. Did you initiate the 'break' or did she? Was it a heated argument that led to the decision? The reason why I ask is because as a woman I feel compelled to tell you that if the girlfriend initiates a 'break' in the relationship she is really just keeping her options open. She wants to see if there are other guys out there, but is too scared of losing what could be a 'good thing'. That could explain why she ended up in bed with another guy so soon after the 'break'. And since it's someone she knows, it's safe to say she pretty much planned it or at the very least knew this guy wanted her.
As for the pregnancy, there's no easy answer to that. It's entirely possible that your father, but in my experience with the pull out method it's unlikely if you are as smart a guy as you sound. My husband and I practiced the pull out method for over three years successfully because he knows his body and his limits (he's 27 years old). I became pregnant on birth control when he was actually ejaculating inside (we welcome our unexpected surprise). I don't believe in the pre-ejaculate theory, there is no valid scientific evidence to even suggest that live sperm are in pre-c*m. It really just acts as a lubrication for intercourse. Women who become pregnant from the pull out method have partners who never truly pulled out! This scummy guy, who I'm assuming she also had unprotected sex with, is a more likely candidate for paternity and it sounds like she knows it.
I can completely understand why you want to support her and work things out, especially if this child is yours. At this point, all you can do is go on your instincts and feelings until paternity can be resolved.My girlfriend cheated on me and is now pregnant (Long Question)?
If the child isn't yours, you will resent it all your life, and her as well. Don't make up your mind on what to do until you are certain that this is your child.
if u truly love her u wont walk away from her! i kno that she had sex withn som! else but u all wern together and im sure she really regrets it! also since she is pregnant dont put her through any more stress than she is already in. i kno its hard on you but i doubt it is this other guys kid and anyways he means nothing to her obviously if she had sex with him while she was drunk! i am 33 weeks pregnant and my baby daddy broke up with me the night i told him i was pregnant it was the hardest the i have ever been through and i was heart broken but we are slowly working things out and we are best friends we were together for 3 yrs and we still dearly love eachother dont leave her if u truly love her she needs u now more than ever %26amp; i know its gonna b hard to hear this but if you can be a better dad to this baby than tht other guy than u would mean the world to that baby i know that sounds lik a hard thing to do but if it is the other guys and you know he aint gonna support the baby than you step up and support the baby and support the girl u love! i hope this helped and gud luck!!!
hey,
well to start off i am no expert whatsoever but it seems like you are in a bit of a ditch,
if it is your child and you are willing to support it, you should talk to her and try to work out if living together and staying together for child's sake is a good idea. if you don't love her or have any reason for staying together then it will obviously not work even if you want it to, but if you love her and will accept a lot of what goes on the relationship for the child that is great and you should of you can.
the guy she is with sounds very bad news. he might be a great guy but if she doesn't remember what happened and it all comes down to a drunk night full of sex then is he really worth it and would she of slept with him if she wasn't drunk? i agree with you that there is no such thing as drunk sex, you do remember what happened and i don't think you can forget a thing like sex, even if you are drunk
i think there is a small chance that the child could be yours but if it has been that long since you guys had sex that you cant remember then im not too sure, don't take my word for it thought.
maybe if you explain to her that if you are the father you are willing to support the child and will help her through the pregnancy even if she doesn't want you there but i really do think if you are the father you have to help out the child no matter what you think of the mum.
so after all the ramble i think you just need to find out if the child is yours and if it is be there to support the child and the mother, if it is not yours then give her support if she needs it but don't make it entirely your problem as it isn't but still be there if she needs. because you have been in a relationship with her i think its important to support her and allow her to talk to you about what has happened.
i hope it helped, it might be just a long ramble on and if so im sorry...
good luck :-)
How bad is it if a guy dates his girlfriend's friend when broken up?
My friend was with his girlfriend for 3 months. She broke up with him out of nowhere saying it's not what she wanted in a relationship. A week later, he hooked up with another girl. His girlfriend changed her mind and wanted to get back 2 days later and they did. The girl he did stuff with when they were broken up, turned out to be his gf's friend and his gf found out a week after getting back together and broke up with him immediately.
Was this his fault since she broke up with him? Can they ever get back together again or is this pretty much the end from a girl's point of view?How bad is it if a guy dates his girlfriend's friend when broken up?
so the guy had two girlfriends at one time?
if that happened, no way. he is not ready to date
maybe. tho.idk
Was this his fault since she broke up with him? Can they ever get back together again or is this pretty much the end from a girl's point of view?How bad is it if a guy dates his girlfriend's friend when broken up?
so the guy had two girlfriends at one time?
if that happened, no way. he is not ready to date
maybe. tho.idk
Friday, November 19, 2010
How can this guy find a girlfriend?
I'm trying to help a guy find a nice girl, but its tricky, and he doesn't make it any easier. He rarely goes out, and says he works too much to meet any'meanone. He also is difficult to get along with. While he doesnt mean to be, he is often rude, sexist, and he can come off as homophobic and closed minded about, well... anything outside of his own life! I really think a nice girl would help him out a lot, but I have no idea where to begin and he certainly isn't going to do it himself!
And please, nothing abot minding my own business or letting him find his own girl. I'm not trying to run his life and we've already talked about this. He doesn't think it will work, but he also didn't disagree.How can this guy find a girlfriend?
This is really really harsh and cruel, but it will seriously make him a better person.
You need to find a girl that he will absolutely fall in love with, but she needs to reject his butt. His heart will break, but he will learn from his mistakes and be more open. Kind of like John Tucker Must Die...
And please, nothing abot minding my own business or letting him find his own girl. I'm not trying to run his life and we've already talked about this. He doesn't think it will work, but he also didn't disagree.How can this guy find a girlfriend?
This is really really harsh and cruel, but it will seriously make him a better person.
You need to find a girl that he will absolutely fall in love with, but she needs to reject his butt. His heart will break, but he will learn from his mistakes and be more open. Kind of like John Tucker Must Die...
How does a guy get a girlfriend if he doesn't have a lot of friends and is sort of a ';loner';. what can I do?
I don't have a lot of friends, like they can't introduce me to anyone, like I can't meet new people or girls through them, that's just how they are. Also I don't have a job at the moment but I am looking for one, that way I can be productive and meet new people, because having a job like at a retail place, or just any kind of job, is another place where people make new friends and socially interact with them on a daily basis, besides school. Basically I have no other place to meet girls besides school, I can't go to any bars or most clubs because I am not 21 yet, and I don't have a fake ID. Also how do I not try so hard and not be desperate? how do you start talking to a girl I like without appearing desperate or clingy? I'm not a partier, the party scene does not seem to be an option for me at the moment because I don't have friends that are party-goers. So where can I meet girls besides school or a job since I don't have a job at the moment? what can a loner guy do? help me?How does a guy get a girlfriend if he doesn't have a lot of friends and is sort of a ';loner';. what can I do?
Sorry brah at your age, the only conceivable thing that comes to mind is to join a club, pertaining to some hobby / interest of yours.
Since you're not the party-goer type, your best bet is to just wait until you reach 21. Then hit the bars and clubs. Trust me, it's a great way of hooking up with / meeting women.
Basically if you're out and about, talking to a girl requires confidence; you gotta have the right things to say. Just read about the PUA system; learn, understand, develop a strategy and adapt. It takes game and skill to further any prospect to picking up a chick.How does a guy get a girlfriend if he doesn't have a lot of friends and is sort of a ';loner';. what can I do?
local coffee shop.
its a fun environment to be in.
lots of chairs/sofas, drinks, and poeple come pouring in all the time.
hope all works out for you!
well try to change and be more social and alwas remember t be yourself with girls and one ay u might find the right one that would accept you for who u are man and hey if your that much of a looner u should try to go out and try to meet some new people
you practice being sociable and ofcourse i can be your friend email me vhenzmae_09@yahoo.com
Have you ever tried any of the online dating services?? Like match.com I know theres a lot more but that was the one that comes to mind.
So I assume that you are a student. Try joining organizations on campus. Also, do you grocery shop? I heard a lot of couples meet like that. You just never know when you will met a potential girlfriend. I would recommend that you don't go out looking for a girlfriend per say, but more for a female to date. You don't want to scare her off or get attached to a girl that you don't really like. Dating can be fun, then it can evolve into something more serious over time. Just take it slow and be yourself.
Wow you need to get a life. Uhhmm chicks love to party so if you dont like to party then your in for it especially since you are under 21 girls in that age love to party break out of your shell bro i'm not the party type but get some buds and go out. Or just befreind a girl.You have to befriend a girl before you start a relationship Find a girl who is a friend and then work from there.
You got some hobbies and interests? How about join a club that's focussed on one of those, and you can meet some ppl of all ages who are interested in something you're interested in. You can get talking with them (good practice for other social situations) and you might get invited to social events that they have (good for meeting new ppl) and don't forget the six degrees of separation - we all know each other through someone else. you just have to find the ones who know the ones who know the ones who know your next g/f.
I don't see the reason why a loner can't get a girl. Girls are everywhere - schools, bookstores, libraries, etc. If there are places you must avoid when looking for a girl - it's the bars. Getting a girl is fairly easy. You don't have to become a hot-shot to make a girl like you. Most girls prefer guys that don't mingle with other people because it means that the guy will have all the time to be with her. Approach a girl you like, talk to her, make her laugh - that's the best way to start. Don't act stupid, it will turn her off. Good luck!
Well u can meet girls any where. starbucks, the mall, the club. try joining a club and mayb u will meet a girl with the same interest as u. Jst tlk them jst dnt ask any weird questions its easy be urself and the right girl will come along when u least expect it
It would help if you got some sort of a job or something where you got out more often. I'm very independent too and don't need to be with people all the time and thats okay. But it's very healthy to interact with people. You're not 21 yet, so i don't know if you're in school at all, but if you are you can always get hooked up in an organization which allows you to meet more people. You could get hooked up in a church and be in a youth or college group.
If you haven't had much interaction then the first chance you get don't throw yourself at a girl for sure. Go to a fitness club and workout or something and you can see people all the time and eventually get to know them. Join clubs of some sort!
I know there are plenty of girls that like shy guys, but at the same time you have to be confident in yourself. There's no need to rush dating. You need to get some friendships first and start with some interactions.
Being a 'lone wolf' is the best way to meet girls...trust me: I've been a loner my whole adult life and women are much more likely to target you when you seem vulnerable and alone than they will if you're in a pack like a bunch of dogs!
Your problem seems to be your shyness or lack of self-confidence. Why don't you think about it this way...how much worse is being turned down than sitting at home alone on a Friday night?
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Sorry brah at your age, the only conceivable thing that comes to mind is to join a club, pertaining to some hobby / interest of yours.
Since you're not the party-goer type, your best bet is to just wait until you reach 21. Then hit the bars and clubs. Trust me, it's a great way of hooking up with / meeting women.
Basically if you're out and about, talking to a girl requires confidence; you gotta have the right things to say. Just read about the PUA system; learn, understand, develop a strategy and adapt. It takes game and skill to further any prospect to picking up a chick.How does a guy get a girlfriend if he doesn't have a lot of friends and is sort of a ';loner';. what can I do?
local coffee shop.
its a fun environment to be in.
lots of chairs/sofas, drinks, and poeple come pouring in all the time.
hope all works out for you!
well try to change and be more social and alwas remember t be yourself with girls and one ay u might find the right one that would accept you for who u are man and hey if your that much of a looner u should try to go out and try to meet some new people
you practice being sociable and ofcourse i can be your friend email me vhenzmae_09@yahoo.com
Have you ever tried any of the online dating services?? Like match.com I know theres a lot more but that was the one that comes to mind.
So I assume that you are a student. Try joining organizations on campus. Also, do you grocery shop? I heard a lot of couples meet like that. You just never know when you will met a potential girlfriend. I would recommend that you don't go out looking for a girlfriend per say, but more for a female to date. You don't want to scare her off or get attached to a girl that you don't really like. Dating can be fun, then it can evolve into something more serious over time. Just take it slow and be yourself.
Wow you need to get a life. Uhhmm chicks love to party so if you dont like to party then your in for it especially since you are under 21 girls in that age love to party break out of your shell bro i'm not the party type but get some buds and go out. Or just befreind a girl.You have to befriend a girl before you start a relationship Find a girl who is a friend and then work from there.
You got some hobbies and interests? How about join a club that's focussed on one of those, and you can meet some ppl of all ages who are interested in something you're interested in. You can get talking with them (good practice for other social situations) and you might get invited to social events that they have (good for meeting new ppl) and don't forget the six degrees of separation - we all know each other through someone else. you just have to find the ones who know the ones who know the ones who know your next g/f.
I don't see the reason why a loner can't get a girl. Girls are everywhere - schools, bookstores, libraries, etc. If there are places you must avoid when looking for a girl - it's the bars. Getting a girl is fairly easy. You don't have to become a hot-shot to make a girl like you. Most girls prefer guys that don't mingle with other people because it means that the guy will have all the time to be with her. Approach a girl you like, talk to her, make her laugh - that's the best way to start. Don't act stupid, it will turn her off. Good luck!
Well u can meet girls any where. starbucks, the mall, the club. try joining a club and mayb u will meet a girl with the same interest as u. Jst tlk them jst dnt ask any weird questions its easy be urself and the right girl will come along when u least expect it
It would help if you got some sort of a job or something where you got out more often. I'm very independent too and don't need to be with people all the time and thats okay. But it's very healthy to interact with people. You're not 21 yet, so i don't know if you're in school at all, but if you are you can always get hooked up in an organization which allows you to meet more people. You could get hooked up in a church and be in a youth or college group.
If you haven't had much interaction then the first chance you get don't throw yourself at a girl for sure. Go to a fitness club and workout or something and you can see people all the time and eventually get to know them. Join clubs of some sort!
I know there are plenty of girls that like shy guys, but at the same time you have to be confident in yourself. There's no need to rush dating. You need to get some friendships first and start with some interactions.
Being a 'lone wolf' is the best way to meet girls...trust me: I've been a loner my whole adult life and women are much more likely to target you when you seem vulnerable and alone than they will if you're in a pack like a bunch of dogs!
Your problem seems to be your shyness or lack of self-confidence. Why don't you think about it this way...how much worse is being turned down than sitting at home alone on a Friday night?
Best choice, turn gay...I did and it rox! ;-)
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How to get a guy with a girlfriend to like me again? ( im not a home wrecker i swear!)?
i liked this guy in 4th grade and last year, in 8th grade. he liked me both those times too, but he never told me until last summer. hes kind of a player so normally if he likes a girl he tells her right away. i really like him, maybe love him, now. ( probably not real love just puppy love, whatever you want to call it but as much as a girl in ninth grade can like a guy.) now hes going out with some slut from another school and shes 16. im almost 15. im pretty sure he liked me before he started dating her, he would talk to me at 530 in the morning on facebook for no reason. no heres the question:
how do i get him back? he acts like hes never met me and im invisible ever since he met this girl. i know he would like me again if they were going out, becuase i dont think weve ever stopped liking each other, we just forgot until we saw each other again. how do i get him to like me and notice me again? that girl is horrible and doesnt deserve him, at all. help?How to get a guy with a girlfriend to like me again? ( im not a home wrecker i swear!)?
first things first. dont turn into a slut yourself. try playing hard to get. make him kno that ur the girl he really wants. talk to him more and flirt. make him kno ur interested, but ur not gonna wait around forever(even if u do, make him think ur not).How to get a guy with a girlfriend to like me again? ( im not a home wrecker i swear!)?
A girl like you thought i didn't deserve my boyfriend. She became so obsessed with tearing us apart that she spread lies about him to tear us apart. Were still together, Stronger than we have ever been. And now she is completely out of his life because of how she was acting.
Leave him be when hes with someone, if hes single make a move, if hes not, let him be with her.
If it turns out to be a mistake then so be it, he will learn his lesson.
how do i get him back? he acts like hes never met me and im invisible ever since he met this girl. i know he would like me again if they were going out, becuase i dont think weve ever stopped liking each other, we just forgot until we saw each other again. how do i get him to like me and notice me again? that girl is horrible and doesnt deserve him, at all. help?How to get a guy with a girlfriend to like me again? ( im not a home wrecker i swear!)?
first things first. dont turn into a slut yourself. try playing hard to get. make him kno that ur the girl he really wants. talk to him more and flirt. make him kno ur interested, but ur not gonna wait around forever(even if u do, make him think ur not).How to get a guy with a girlfriend to like me again? ( im not a home wrecker i swear!)?
A girl like you thought i didn't deserve my boyfriend. She became so obsessed with tearing us apart that she spread lies about him to tear us apart. Were still together, Stronger than we have ever been. And now she is completely out of his life because of how she was acting.
Leave him be when hes with someone, if hes single make a move, if hes not, let him be with her.
If it turns out to be a mistake then so be it, he will learn his lesson.
How can a shy guy get a girlfriend? How can I learn to be myself?
I'm kinda shy and I've never had a GF before... I'm 19 and I'm not a bad looking guy at all, but I just have a hard time in attracting the ladies. And if I do get closer with a girl, I'm just kinda thought of as a friend and nothing more.
I can be funny, but I don't try to be or act stupid... I don't know, I just kinda have a hard time being myself in certain environments, like in formal settings or at school, where most people see and get to know me. Its like I'm judged as being serious all the time, or something. But if people just got to know me, they'd find a pretty cool guy. Not to brag. It's just I know who I am, and I'm not really how most see me as.
How do I just learn to be myself. Maybe its some of my insecurities holding me back, like I used to be kinda fat, but I'm skinny now and I still haven't gotten over that completely I don't think. Like I'm still self-conscious without having to be or something...
Any tips on how to be more comfortable being myself and in finding a GF that I can fall in love with? I feel alone and just want someone to love.
Thanks.How can a shy guy get a girlfriend? How can I learn to be myself?
sorry this isnt an answer, but im letting you know I am in the EXACT same situation as you... shyness sucks but then again society dictates that guys have to approach girls. rarely do girls approach guys
I can be funny, but I don't try to be or act stupid... I don't know, I just kinda have a hard time being myself in certain environments, like in formal settings or at school, where most people see and get to know me. Its like I'm judged as being serious all the time, or something. But if people just got to know me, they'd find a pretty cool guy. Not to brag. It's just I know who I am, and I'm not really how most see me as.
How do I just learn to be myself. Maybe its some of my insecurities holding me back, like I used to be kinda fat, but I'm skinny now and I still haven't gotten over that completely I don't think. Like I'm still self-conscious without having to be or something...
Any tips on how to be more comfortable being myself and in finding a GF that I can fall in love with? I feel alone and just want someone to love.
Thanks.How can a shy guy get a girlfriend? How can I learn to be myself?
sorry this isnt an answer, but im letting you know I am in the EXACT same situation as you... shyness sucks but then again society dictates that guys have to approach girls. rarely do girls approach guys
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