Why would she want to keep talking to this guy? GIRLFRIEND PROBLEM!?

guys i need some help here, my girlfriend of almost 3 years now is friends with this guy, okay i hate this guy... not cause hes friends with my girlfriend cause me and this guy have hated each other way before i met my girlfriend... and she knows ive always hated this guy,



okay, she tells me that he sent her a msg saying that if shes looking to get laid to give him a call... damn... i should kill him right? well yes and i plan on it... but 1st! i get mad and confront him, he gets mad as well, i was expecting this...



but what i wasnt expecting was my girlfriend getting mad as well?



what??? she tells me that she will loose some trust in this guy but will keep being really good friends with him, well now i really really hate this guy and im having everything turned around on me saying that im over reacting and i have no right to be this mad... oh oh oh but im super mad... and i do intend on kicking his ***



but shes gonna get super mad...



i dont want these two ever talking again! i have every right to want that right?! how am i in the wrong here!? he knows we have been dating for the past 3 years!



another thing is why does she tell me and then get mad at me for being so upset about it? i dont get it...



some insight please...



it was hard to refrain from cussing... thanks in advance guysWhy would she want to keep talking to this guy? GIRLFRIEND PROBLEM!?
well i don't think you're wrong and you should give her a serious talk about or an ultimatium: If you don't stop talking to him, then we're done. and if she chooses him well do you really want her in your life?Why would she want to keep talking to this guy? GIRLFRIEND PROBLEM!?
WOW he should rlly fk off .
Yes,



I would be just as mad as you if someone said that to my girlfriend. I don't understand why she is still talking to him when he said that, and she knows that it bothers you when she does talk to him. I mean, she needs to realize that sometimes we do have to give up talking to other people to be with the ones we love, especially if they are being dumb and posing a threat to the relationship.



Try to talk to her in a calm manner, and tell her all the reasons again why you feel the way you do. I'm sorry, but I would do the same as you in this situation.
You have every right to be mad, and it kinda sounds like your girlfriend is a bit of a troublemaker. The best arguing point you can make to her is ask her how she would feel if you became really good friends with a girl who invited you sex. She can't say she wouldn't care and she definitely needs to view things from a different perspective. She has no respect for your relationship if she can't even see why you are mad. If she doesn't want you to act on it, fine, but she can't get mad for you being upset about that. It shows that you actually care, and she should be pleased about that. If I were you, I would question their friendship a little more because she seems completely immune to your feelings about the situation. And yeah, if that guy knows she has a boyfriend he should know better than to make comments like that to her and he obviously has no respect for her relationship or for you. HE's a total jerk, and what goes around comes around. He deserves to have his *** kicked. You don't deserve that kind of treatment.

Best of luck
you are completely right bein mad and it sounds to me like she wants you to be protective yet it sounds like she wants this guy you should te her that its you or him then youl know if she is real or fake
Ok, maybe she is honestly just friends with this guy. He might be he one instigating all of this, maybe even just joking.

Also, the fact that she told you either means that she wants you to get jealous (unlikely given her reaction to you getting angry at this guy)...? Or maybe, she just wants there to be no big secrets between the two of you ;-)
If you do anything, you gotta know that it's just gonna push her away from you.

Women are complex creatures and in many cases doing exactly the opposite of what she expects you to do will make her lose interest in hanging with this dkhd, so just deal and play it cool.

You need to play smarter not harder sometimes.