How does a shy guy get a girlfriend? I've never had one before?

Im 18 and never had a girlfriend...ever. Im a shy person especially around girls. But I do hang out with friends. All my friends and even my 14 YEAR OLD BROTHER has someone.



My friends told me about 7 months ago that I will get someone soon. It didn't happen. That lie wasn't funny =\.



I really want a girl to cuddle, have my first kiss, spend time with etc. If I do get a girlfriend, I will be really happy. But I feel it will never happen.



Sorry for the sad story lol. But that's what I have been feeling everyday for the past couple of months =(.How does a shy guy get a girlfriend? I've never had one before?
aw:) okay first of all....girls do like shy guys. they are the cute laid back guys that will listen and want to cuddle. seriously, you are the kind of guy that girls really want. no girl likes a loud cocky guy that only cares about being heard. the bad part in ur sitiuation is that no girl is getting to know u cuz ur shy . so u have to get out there and just start off w/ small talk and get to know some girls. first try to be friends cuz that will make u more comfortable and her more comfortable to get a little closer when the time is right. once you feel good about that person then it will be easy to make your move. trust me, once the girl sees how sweet you are, she will be very happy:)How does a shy guy get a girlfriend? I've never had one before?
omg im like that too

only im 15 not 18

and i still havent had my 1st kiss
Ask your friends to hook you up with someone. Sorry but 18 and you've never kissed ANYONE? Okay.......
Be goodlooking.
stop getting shy! start walking around and say helllo to girls!!! pretend trhe girls are celebrities!
Try to get over your shyness by meeting new people. If you like a girl, hang out with her a lot until a relationship builds.
Just be yourself, open and honest. That special someone is out there. Alot of people met online now. Myspace or match.com and things like that.
smile at girls when they look at u. try getting ur friends to hook u up with sumone at SCHOOL! do not use any of those stupid online things like eHarmony or watever. they NEVER work out! good luck, though. try getting morre friends that are girls too. and ALWAYS be urself!!
If you don't have confidence, then you have to either fake it or grow it. Girls will not respect you enough to be with you if you are weak.



Don't believe me, just try it for a while and see if it works.
aww its ok someone will come around. Personly i like shy guys cuz they are hard to aproch and hard to ask out. maybe try to seem more open. or if u like someone have a friend ask then out for you! just try to be a little more open every day, dont just try to b free all in once. you can do it.
Don't feel too bad. A lot of guys in college don't have much in the way of first-hand experience with girls either.



You really need to work on not being shy. Remember that there are plenty of girls out there to start a conversation with. Try simple things to start with, such as asking the pretty girl over there what time it is.... don't worry if she might think you like her, because you do. Work your way up from there. Most of all, be honest. If you think a girl is wonderful, then telling her just that should be your goal.



edit: Ok, what's with the thumbs down. I'm trying to help a guy out here... if you disagree, then answer his question on your own.
im sorry dude.

just be confident and it will happen.

first- do you like anyone as it is?

second- do you notice if anyone likes you?

lots of girls like shy guys, but if the guy seems too shy it will come off as annoying. try to get to know a lot of girls, choose one you like and try to get to know her more. thats all that i really know.
Aww....thats so CUTE! ! !

You should totally go out on a blind date..Totally...Thats how I've met my boy friend almost 10 months ago and were doing great and we have so many plans together for the future, Its amazing...

Well this story is going is going somewhere..Promise...

We went to his prom and at first I was all like, okay does this guy talk, and by the end of the night I guess he got comfy around me and he was just blabbing away and we were haveing such a good time and we shared our first kiss together, and he was so cute about it...

I'm telling you, Blind Date all the way! ! !
Honestly, stop being shy. It's not worth it. If there's a girl you like go up to her and tell her that you like her and can she be your girlfriend. If she agrees, ask her out to a movie.

Also, every time you attempt this, expect 8 rejections out of 10. That way you won't get hurt. After your first girlfriend everything will be easier. Trust me.
Ok dude, you have some work to do.



Here is some tips:



Learn how to be funny and a good guy to be around. Practice this at home and watch how other guys who get girls behave. Try and copy their style as much as you can.



Do some things that you would never normally do. Like just walk up to a complete stranger in the street and tell them you like their shoes. Or go to the make up counter in a shop and ask to try on some make up. Doing random things like this will help get over ya fear of being shy!



Ive been really shy before and most hot girls dont go for shy guys! Learn and read as much as you can about over coming shyness! Confidence goes a long way. Most dudes even if they are ugly get girls because they just have the balls to make the approach! Most hot girls in clubs don't get chatted up or approached by nice guys. If you are nice and make the right approach, you will score all the time!!



Ive had problems with shyness before and I followed the advice I just gave you. This works and Ive had a lot of success since!
You worry too much about your shortcomings, worry too much about how others will see or judge you, worry about what possible things will happen when it hasn't even happen yet.

Basically your shyness stems form being insecure and a worrywart.



Build yourself from inside first.

Your insecurity is visible to everyone but you (girls can see it and often not interested in that sort of thing), because you have yet to admit to it and have yet to deal with it.



Second, no girl is the ONE.

Learn that if you get a GF for the first time, do not smother her with attention and all...that is another insecurity being seen. Bad move.

What will happen if the ONE girl says NO after you get the courage to ask her out?

You will get depressed and feel sorry for yourself in some pitiful display of insecurity (saying you aren't good enough for anyone, saying you are ugly and so on).

Learn that there is no ONE girl, there is only MANY girls and MANY opportunities to try variety until you find the one you like the best.



Your friends feel for you in saying you will find someone.

However, unless you rid yourself of your demons, you aren't going to be that appealing.

Educate yourself, better yourself, learn that you need to work on yourself if you want to get something for yourself.

That is life...



LAST NOTE:

Advice that says to be patient and something will come is not right nor accurate.

Advice that says online dating or blind dating is not correct either.

Shyness is cute like a puppy, it wears away and not foolproof.



Waiting will not get women coming to you, blind dating doesnt show how to improve what is lacking on the inside, again...build your confidence and self-esteem.



Learn to better yourself and develop your own style of mannerism and appeal, copying others is fake and unoriginal.
just gotta talk to girls more often and don't be scared to say anything even if its silly.. make a lot of friends and then start dating
be more outgoing, i used to be extremely self contiece but once i got over it i felt better and when you feel better about yourself then others will feel better around you, this will help you get a girlfreind(sorry if this didnt help at all :P)
It's all about how confident you look I would say. I think that you're just so afraid that you will never get a girlfriend that that's what probably keeps on blocking it. Just don't make it such a big issue, relax about it, and once you relax you might be able to appear a bit more serene, more in control of yourself and therefore more confident!



Right now most probably you are giving away the total opposite impression to girls... have you ever thought that maybe the fact that you've been so nervous and anxious about it might actually be showing, and therefore scaring girls off?



But anyway, bottom line is everybody has their own time, and yours is different from your brother's and friend's!! It all comes down to that at the end of the day, and being anxious about it just wont help!!! Do sports, just do plenty of sports until someone shows up!!

Hey that's what I do when I'm single ahah ... and believe me it works! LOL



...but sports is just an idea, cos facts are when you are just far too busy doing what you like, whatever is it, you do feel and look more calm and confident and happy, and it shows, and that, my friend, is what eventually attracts the opposite sex, calm confident people!!



signed: A late bloomer lol



Good luck dude...
Ok dude I think I can help.



First off, know that every girl has different taste.So welcome to the fishing dock. Its hard enough for normal guys to get girls but if you're shy, it just makes it worse.



First off, don't be intimidated by females. Believe it or not, they're intimidated by us too. Keep that in mind.



Secondly, build self confident. Most girls don't like guys who are quiet and seem insecure. They want masculinity. Lose that and you've basically lost your balls.



When you see a girl you like, don't think about being her boyfriend or daydream about her. Just think of approaching her as becoming friends. Know how you're comfortable meeting new guy friends? Well you should approach it the same way. Don't give out any cheesy lines. They're not stupid. Save yourself the embarrassment.



Make yourself presentable and show a mature and considerate side of yourself. Once you find out what she is interested in, do your research and try to accommodate to her interest. Knowing what she likes and catering to her needs will be a bonus. This isn't everything but it is some of the basics...Good luck!



-The Guy Expert
awww...well remember that girls are just as shy as guys so dont expect a girl to make the first move. sitting around and waiting for your crush to say something to YOU is wasting time. plus, girls like it better when a guy asks them out. like my friends been crushing on this guy and she thinks that he likes him but theyre both tooo shy to say anything and now shes convinced that he doesnt like her and shes in depression and im sure the guy feels the same way. your shyness is gonna lose somone important to you in the future. so just go up to a girl you like and ask to see them for a dinner or a movie or maybe just go and catch some coffee. start out slowly with her. make small steps. when you catches yoru eye DONT LOOK AWAY!! look at her and smile or something. ask her to study with you and say that youd like it is she tutored you. start by saying hello every now and then and smile at her. and then start building a relationship like that. trust me, it'll work. just take small steps. the hardest step for you is probably the frist which is getting over your shyness. and think about it, whats the worst that could happen? shes completely disgusted and never want to see you again right? well then what does that tell you? obviously shes not worth it then and you should learn from that and try again with someone who like you for who you are. good luck!
Give yourself the best opportunity to meet as many different types of people. Have a go at sports, voluntary organisations, drama groups anything. Doesn't matter if you think they may not have girls you might want to be with, but the point is learn to get confident with all sorts of people, be it young, old, male and female. This will help with the shyness. Don't forget that those people may also have daughters, female friends or know of a girl that you could like.



The best thing that happened to me was to join a voluntary first aid organisation. I had the chance to learn new skills, meet lots of people as well as confidence building. I eventually found a person who eventually married.
im probliy the last person to be giving advice im like u. . exceped im 15 im really shy. . . i can talk to fellas grand but when it comes to kissing r anything like that im gone haha ....

just be yourself . . .find out if a girl likes u ask her m8te and if its good news ask her out. . . . . . .



picters is best less talkin and when it over u can talk about the movie



(if the girl reay likes u shell bring the confadence out of u)

beast of luck





Eimear
Dude I'm in the SAME EXACT boat as you and with the same feelings.. :(



I'm fixin to graduate high school in a few months and I think I will just go crazy if I can't get to know a girl good enough to be a girlfriend.. it's been driving me insane seeing so many pretty girls/opportunities but I just have no idea what to do/how to do it :(