Boyfriend's roommate's girlfriend has more privileges than I do....

I never really liked my boyfriend's roommate. They were friends since High School, and I've been dating my boyfriend since high school as well. We intend to live together in the next year. Well, this guy's girlfriend practically LIVES there. She lives with her mom right now, and spend about 5 / 7 days a week there... and not just to visit. She is there when my boyfriend is there, but hers isn't. She's there when NO ONE is there and sits and plays on his computer all day. She showers there, gets ready for work there, does her laundry there... everything. Now me on the other hand live on my own, as I am 4 years older than her. I am there a lot as well, but lately we've confronted a problem. My boyfriend was gone for 5 days visiting some friends, and I knew he had just gotten back. I missed him so I came over, and his roommate answered. He covered his arm and wouldn't let me in and argued with me for 20 minutes why I wasn't allowed in. I explained that if his girlfriend could be there ALL DAY when NO ONE was home, almost every single day, why I couldn't come in and wait a few more minutes for my boyfriend to return from the store. He said, ';Well she's here because she doesn't have a car to get home so she's either waiting for her mom to pick her up or waiting for me to get off work to drive home, I'm not going to make her wake up at 8am with me and kick her out.'; I told him, ';Honestly, I don't care how much she's around because she's a nice girl, but if she can... why can't I?'; He just replies, ';Well that's something we can talk about later then.'; I said, ';What's there to TALK about, you're the one with your arm blocking the door, and having a problem with it.'; I talked to my boyfriend about this and he told me that he didn't realize she was around that often because he's at work when she's around, and is normally gone by the time he gets home. BUt I know she's there because I work short shifts throughout the day with my job so when I go home for my two hour breaks I go on xbox live and see she's on as well playing on her boyfriend's computer, AND he even admitted to me his girlfriend is there all the time. I am really tired of his roommate and just wanna tell him to mind his own business. What can I say? Just because his girlfriend is a younger girl with no place of her own, no car, etc doesn't mean she has more right than I do to be there because she can't drive home. They've been dating for 10 months and I've been in the picture for 5 years. Should I confront them or have my boyfriend confront the situation or let him know I'm okay to be there whenever just like her? Honestly, I don't need to sit at my boyfriend's place all day waiting for him like a bum. I can go home and shower. I drive myself home. But if I am waiting for him to get home, I would prefer to come inside instead of in my car because his roommate makes all the rules. I hardly said anything to my boyfriend about it because i'm not sure if I should say much because I honestly don't NEED to be there when he's not there. But I would like to be invited in once in a while when I'm waiting for him to come home if we were meeting up.Boyfriend's roommate's girlfriend has more privileges than I do....
You said ';She is there when my boyfriend is there, but hers isn't.'; That seems fishy that the girl is around when your boyfriend should be alone. Your boyfriend should leave and NOT be alone with the opposite sex ever. Why would his friend hold the door and not allow you in? What is he hidding? If they were getting their grove on HE would have never wasted his time arguing for 20 minutes at the door. You need to have a closer look at your boyfriend. It just doesn't seem right. Besides, he should have called you when he got back from visiting his friends that day and it would have eliminated that 20 minute confrontation at the door.Boyfriend's roommate's girlfriend has more privileges than I do....
You have every right to come in and wait for ur b/f if he's on his way. I think the roommate was just being a prick. You have a life and his chickenhead doesn't maybe he's just made cuz ur B/F has the better deal.
How F***ing petty is this? Don't you know that you probably interrupted them and that is why the roomate would not let you in? How dense are you?





So she is there and you are not? What are you getting upset about. You said yourself that you do not need to be there when your boyfriend is not there so what is the big deal. The roommate lives there and he can have anyone he wants be there whenever he wants. The only one with a right to complain is your boyfriend but he is OK with this. Go about your onw business and let this go. Life has real problems in store don't waste time with petty nonsense.
Honestly, I think the roommate is being rediculous and a complete jerk! What is the big deal if you sit in the living room, or your boyfriend's bedroom even, as you wait? I think your boyfriend should be the one to talk to the roommate as they need to agree upon their own house rules.