How can a shy guy get a girlfriend?

ok, i'm 18 and i've only ever had 1 girlfriend (last year, it lasted for 2 weeks) and i feel terrible for what happened, i kinda used her because i was desperate for a girlfriend at the time. (she understands and we are still good friends) but i still feel i have never had a girlfriend since i rarely saw this girl during the 2 weeks we were together.


anyway, i want to know this big secret, how can a shy guy get a girlfriend? don't tell me it will come or to 'get out more' that is impossible if all your friends prefer a quiet drink in a pub or around somebody's house rather than a night in the clubs.


basically, i'm a geek, and hang around with the geeks. is there any way i can try to come out of my shell (i'm afraid to try and go out on my own without my friends there)


Also, what is this deal with the classic 'lets be friends'? always the friend, never the boyfriend, i'm kinda sick of itHow can a shy guy get a girlfriend?
okay well im a girl


but if i were u i would change my look!


cut ur hair get a new style, i know looks arent everything


but it will give u more confidence!


and go out with ur guy friends go to a club practice talking to girls!


or go somewhere where girls can be approacheable


u will have confidence, it may sound silly doing these things but u should and its true u only live once take a risk like thatHow can a shy guy get a girlfriend?
stop being shy.you only live once my man! make the best of it. no regrets!
There is no much u can do... cept just stop being shy and face your fear.....
well maybe theres a shy girl also in your group of friends and you wont be intimidated to go up to her and say what you want cause shes scared too? you know?





try that, and if not people bond over things they love, so do the things or hobbies you love and you might meet a girl who has the same interests and is interested in you.
If totse.com was still up id refer you to some REALLY good self empowerment guides. Basically lots of crap about making yourself superior to everyone else without changing anything at all. But in my experince with gf's, i think they are WAY overrated and every1 else i know who has had a proper gf usually just finds one by accident thats how i found my first gf :)
The answer is to be confident. You are the man and you know the answer to everything. I'm not saying be a know it all, but if you come across that you know what's up then chicks will notice that in the way you carry yourself.
well try this if you are shy then try looking for a girl who is also shy
since you've cut out the obvious options I'm going to say...try to at least know your friends friends. When a girl notices and really likes you it doesn't matter if your shy. She'll try to get your attention.
be your self let your persinality run wild let your wild side show, and the friend thing is because your looking at the rong tipe of girl.
Girls want to go out you just ask them to do something fun on a first date.


Or just ask a girl if she likes your type of music.


Or just ask a girl what kind of music she likes.


Or movies


Of anything, just start talking.


After you learn that girls can talk without it being a date


Then you talk some more with other girls.


Then soon you are comfortable with a girl and you ask her to go somewhere fun, safe and not scary.


Then you are on a date.


Congratulations.


Try places that you don't usually go to.


School


Library


Church


Old Navy


etc
Just chillax for a second alright? Trust me theres a girl out there for you, you just haven't seen her yet. Just take it slow, if you see this chick you like, then maybe once or twice say HI or just be a man and walk up to her and say ';hey.. umm.. hey, i like you let's go on a date';. 5 simple words ';let's go on a date';.. and man, rejection won't scar your life forever..





And how to get a girlfriend?? Find someone you LIKE first, someone you think is hot and you would like to go out with sometime, because if you go out with another girl just because your desperate, then 3 hours later BOOM! shes gone, your gonna be deperessed.
I think that when you find someone you are attracted to, tell them. I know if sounds impossible, I should know, I'm really shy and not only that, I'm AWKWARD. But I think you should tell girls whom you like, that you like them. I know that sounds redundant but I can't think of any other way to say it. The worst thing they can say to you is that they don't like you...move on. Most importantly be yourself. Go hang out where you normally and try to find some girls you have things in common with and talk to them. If they're worth your time, they would like you for who you are and maybe you'll start to be less shy if you're talking to the right person. I hope this helps!
Well, don't go out with a girl if you're going to be using her just so you have a gf! Girls don't like that (obviously). Girls TALK and they WILL tell their friends about why you broke up. And they they will tell their friends and so on. So basically: DON'T DO THAT! Ever again!





You could try these steps:





1.) Dress well. Girls like a guy who can dress well. Sweater vests and Star Wars shirts are not included.





2.) Start going to the gym. There are girls there and it's nice to see a guy who is into keeping himself fit and looking good for you.





3.) If you simply must go out to parties or w/e with a friend, try picking a friend that doesn't dress/act in a dorky way.





4.) I know you don't want to hear this, but go up to girls and talk to them! Shy guys can be cute =]





5.)BE YOURSELF! Don't act in a way that you think girls will like because chances are, they won't like it, or you'll be dragging yourself into a sucky relationship.





Hope I helped =)
There is no point in people telling you to come out of your shell or change your image because you should be able to find someone who loves you just the way you are. But the best thing to do is try to build up your confidence. Just start off simple by talking to somebody in the pub, strike up a conversation with the barmaid about something simple like the weather! just try talking to people outside your group of friends even if it might seem dumb! when your out shopping just smile at others as you walk past or start a conversation with the checkout assistant. Get used to talking to strangers before you start chatting people up. And stop branding yourself as a geek! that is doing nothing for your confidence! a lot of girls prefer to be with a guy that is rather shy and sensitive so dont try and be someone your not. and dont settle for second best! Try going out with a couple of your friends to the pub rather than a big group of you this way you will seem less intimidating and are more likely to be approached. Keep you head up and keep smiling thats the main thing!
There is no easy way, you need to relax more around girls, try to strike up a conversation and get out of your comfort zone. You have to put yourself out there and not get too upset about knock backs, they happen to all of us.


I've never said lets be friends to a guy but I'm guessing that you're not saying the right stuff to them. Look and listen to your friends who are successful with girls and if you think of yourself as a 'geek' then they will too. Have a better self opinion and think of yourself as intelligent rather than geeky. Dress to impress and carry it off.
I'm sorry your having a problem finding someone.I have always liked guys that were shy but I don't know if every girl does and in your age group if is different than mine.Try to meet someone in church or through a friend.I think men that are polite and gentlemen are the best so don't give in to trying to act like the popular ones which are not the ones tha are the best.I know you will do best with your personality.Debbie.
Talk to them?





A ';Hello!... Hey did you had a haircut recently? ... You look nice with it, we should hang out sometime! Oh well gotta run catch you later! :)';





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Seriously it's not that hard. Trust me.





I was in a worst shell that you could have even possibly be.





Just set your goal to be talk to them if you are scared you MUST talk to them.





K? k.