My girlfriend was raped/taken advantage of, how can I let it go?

I'm 20 and my girlfriend is 20 also. We started going out in high school and we're in college now. I've been going out with her for 4 years now and I'm her first boyfriend and she's my first girlfriend. During one of our breakups she stood with a cousin of hers and them two didn't have a place to sleep one night so they went to meet her aunt at a house party. i think it was her aunts house and her aunt is young. (shes 21). while my girlfriend and her cousin were in the house trying to sleep on one of the beds some guy, whom she knows, came in and sat on the bed beside them and put a condom on and tried to take of my gf's cousins clothes...she was half asleep and my girlfriend didn't want anything to happen to her so instead i think she gave in to the guy...her cousin left and the guy and my girlfriend did it for 5 minutes she tells me. and when it's done she cries and goes to her cousin and is ashamed...



I think since we were broken up and thought we might not get back together she might have voluntarily gave herself...she told me all she thought about was me during it. and I can't get over it....





I feel like its my fault...and i feel like she could have been the one from the start. my first girlfriend and my wife but now she's spoiled...and now every now and then i get angry with her and don't know how to let go.



i think she just had a one night stand with the guy and was too guilty so she told me it was rape.





during another break up she's kissed another guy from work...this time it happened while she and him were talking about me and the guys ex girlfriend and she says they were both sad about their ex's and then got close and made out.





i love her so much, but i don't know how to deal with this or even how to move on...My girlfriend was raped/taken advantage of, how can I let it go?
Dude the girl isn't dirty or used goods she's the same girl you fell in love with. Sure she's tramatized. Who wouldn't be?



If you truly love her then you will want to be with her no matter what.My girlfriend was raped/taken advantage of, how can I let it go?
Don,t beat yourself up over this, it,s not your fault it happened to her, but reading between the lines I have to say I don,t think she was raped she was out having a good time and it all caught up with her now she is trying to put you on the guilt trip, so if you want to, you will have to get over it or move on. Personaly I would do the later, her excuses don,t ring correct .
1st of all did she report this to the police? Was the guy arrested or what? This is a very sensitive subject so I'm going to reccomend that you both see a therapist it may be the only way for both of you to move on. Now I'm my opinion you feel guilty because you love her and the thought of her being with someone else enrages you if you both love each other everything will definetly work out. My best wishes to both of you.