My bf is bestfriends with his ex girlfriend?? guys help esp..?

and she doesn't like me because i'm with him. she wants him back and has old pics of them together on her page. she even writes little notes about how she is ';the one'; and sends him sexual stuff online too... i told him to stop talking to her because she and her cousins started treatening me online and calling me a ';side-line ho, *****, slut'; and all these other names. this should be a good reason for them to stop talking right? well i found out that they were still talking to eachother on the phone and it hurt me so bad because it made me feel like she could do and say whatever she wanted and would get away with it. they've know eachother for 7 years and she has done so much for him in the past (helped him find a job, pay for things, etc.) so i can kind of understand how hard it was for him to just stop talking to her all together. when i found out they were still talking on the phone i kind of ignored it. but now idk what to do because they are back friends again. i don't like it one bit but i stoped talking to him about because it seems as if he does whatever he wants to do at the end of the day. it hurts. i feel like i will never be as close to him as she is. sometimes i cry about it because im jealous of their relationship with eachother. he's told me that he just wants to be friends with her, but she wants more. and that now they ';barely talk'; but i don't believe it.

guys.. .girls... help me... do you think i'm being naive by staying with him??My bf is bestfriends with his ex girlfriend?? guys help esp..?
I can definantly talk from this girls perspective... i am still good friends with my ex boyfriend, we still talk on the phone, i have helped him through a bunch of issues he was having. He has said himself that he thinks of me as his little sister. i have a boyfriend right now, and he is okay with it, i mean idk if he really knows how much we talk, honestly i still kinda like my ex bf... but he had a girlfriend named Ellie after he broke up with me, and in the middle of their relationship, he started telling me he still loved me and he wanted me back and he missed me... he broke up with his gf so he could be with me(at this time i didn't have a bf) the day after e broke up with her we hung out and he kissed me, then i realized he was being a player, also i found out later that after he broke up w his gf and kissed me the day after, the next week he wrote a love letter to ANOTHER girl!! she refused him but he was still being a player. also he threatened my bf and said he wanted to kill him when i told my ex i had a new bf... so Ellie is like you, she was being used i think, and she ended up heartbroken bc my ex still wanted me.... so i think it would be wise to end it.... i hate to say that but its really true



i did confront my ex about this and told him he was a player and its why i didn't get back together with him, he has now been following my advise and has been looking more closely at a person b4 he pursues..My bf is bestfriends with his ex girlfriend?? guys help esp..?
move on
give that chick a talkin to chew her a**

out
You need to tell him how she treats you and how you dont like it. if he chooses her over you then dump him
if you tell him it bothers you, and he doesn't listen move on sweetie

it's not right that another girl is sending your boyfriend sexual things...



i hate to break it to you, but i dont think he's ready to commit to another girl. :(
kind of
if he cant treat your concerns with respect and does nothing about whats hurting you then you dump him. nuff said
WoW..Your boyfriend is not respecting your feelings. I don't know how long you guys have been together....but respect and loyalty and honesty are very important in a healthy relationship. If it were me I would feel the same way. In a sense he is being emotionally unfaithful to you by carrying on this way with his ex. I would let him know how I felt and ask him to respect my feelings and keep his relationship with his ex casual and not cause problems in your relationship. If he really cares about you and values your presence in his life then he will at least compromise and understand and respect your feelings and make adjustments. If he doesn't then I would highly suggest that you rethink whether you really want to continue a relationship with someone who doesn't respect you or the relationship that you are in with him. You need to speak up and stand up for yourself.
if he doesnt explain to her the you guys are together leave him
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